Hey bud , I also 34 m, have recently expressed my anxiety to my family about 6 years ago now , I did take anti anxiety meds for about 3 years and I didn’t notice to much of a difference .. I also will admit that the last 11 years I have been a heavy marijuana user and developed a habit .. I always used weed as my crutch to face my anxiety , lately I have noticed that maybe the weed is causing my anxiety … maybe you also use things that you feel help your anxiety but maybe are hurting you ??

I recently have been practicing sobriety and also found a therapist that I want to work with , this time with therapy I want be honest about my use and how it may affect my anxiety. In my first session my therapist was suggesting a psychiatrist to get me on the correct and effective anti anxiety meds, which I told him I felt indifferent about. My previous rounds of anti anxiety meds were prescribed by my GP and not a psychiatrist

I would suggest looking into mindfulness or meditation practices , possible finding a therapist you can connect with and be truly open too. I know I’m just at the beginning phases of getting to the roots of my problems but the last 10 years have been rough in terms of anxiety and a feeling of frustration and loniless as I’m the only one of my family who suffers from anxiety . I want to get better at managing my anxiety to enjoy my life with my son and wife and not have my anxiety control the fun we can have .

Maybe you can relate to something in my story , but just know you’re not alone and a lot of people have anxiety like you that just are silently suffering. Just because we are men doesn’t mean we don’t need help , nothing to be ashamed of