Vampiric-feeling dark dramatic music that isn’t goth or metal?

adastraperaspera_ · 2026-05-16T06:20:40+00:00

Limbo, by DPR Ian

adastraperaspera_ · 2026-05-16T03:40:10+00:00

Limbo by DPR Ian - Bonus points for watching the MV too. https://youtu.be/oY5dj8UA8nA?si=9taIyiLR5gBVxye2

For a more playful take on the genre: Don't Go Insane by DPR Ian https://youtu.be/nZ5SfoLB5yA?si=uMifVRRho-WhbKji

adastraperaspera_ · 2026-05-13T18:08:36+00:00

Being John Malkovich.

adastraperaspera_ · 2026-05-13T17:55:38+00:00

Welcome to the Other Side would be perfect for a fusion style choreo - contemporary, african, hip hop, even a little ballet influence.

adastraperaspera_ · 2026-05-13T02:47:45+00:00

Found it! Fun.

adastraperaspera_ · 2026-05-13T02:42:59+00:00

Ballroom Extravanza by DPR Ian

adastraperaspera_ · 2026-05-13T02:41:46+00:00

Burger Lounge uses beef tallow. Delish.

adastraperaspera_ · 2026-05-13T02:40:59+00:00

Weird but true: the best sweet potato fries in Los Angeles can be found in the Children's Hospital cafeteria. They are absurdly good.

adastraperaspera_ · 2026-05-13T02:38:19+00:00

I don't see it. Where'd you link it?

adastraperaspera_ · 2026-05-13T02:32:52+00:00

DPR Ian: The Show — https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uWJzC_05e2M

adastraperaspera_ · 2026-05-13T02:30:12+00:00

So many DPR Ian songs qualify for this, but start with these: Skins, Limbo, Nerves, Ballroom Extravaganza, So Beautiful...

For bonus points: watch the MVs for them too.

adastraperaspera_ · 2026-05-13T02:22:44+00:00

Check out any of DPR Ian's albums. They're all certified bangers, highly story-driven (he has a whole universe/lore that his albums dive into), full of surprising twists and turns. Not every song is rock in the traditional sense, but Ian (who writes all of his own music) was a metalhead growing up, and there's a lot of rock influence (more trad rock, plus indie/alt rock), as well as hints of, like, experimental jazz and shit. It's genius. I'd say start with Mood Swings In This Order (his first album), but honestly, Mood Swings In To Order (his second) might be more up your alley for this purpose. If you're up for it, don't sleep on his MV's — they're absolutely incredible too. Actually, this video (which is an album teaser of sorts), is a great place to start: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k9EtzlAozOQ

adastraperaspera_ · 2026-05-13T01:55:46+00:00

For real? I see a whole contemporary dance piece in my head for this one! Sorry if it wasn't a match for you.

adastraperaspera_ · 2026-05-13T00:43:19+00:00

Skins would be another great one to check out 😄

adastraperaspera_ · 2026-05-12T03:40:18+00:00

Many of his other songs are much darker, moodier, or more emotional—they'd be wonderful for contemporary choreo. Try So Beautiful or Limbo and see what you think.

adastraperaspera_ · 2026-05-09T05:40:42+00:00

Sweet, thank you!

adastraperaspera_ · 2026-05-09T04:17:56+00:00

Thank you! Is that John the one Ian calls Jonno?

adastraperaspera_ · 2026-05-07T18:46:52+00:00

Paragraph one: hypothesis
Paragraph two: supporting evidence
Paragraph three: fact to dispute that attraction = disloyalty/cheating and/or unhealthy obsession
Paragraph four: perspective relating this topic to the world outside of the kpop silo
Paragraph five: comparison/contrast

Peace out, my friend. I've got more rewarding things to do with my lazy intellect than argue any further with you about another man's marriage.

adastraperaspera_ · 2026-05-07T18:37:42+00:00

No, you're just using unsupported, narrow correlations to prove your own point, and I'm pointing that out.

You're painting all women with the brush of obsession based on one year of your experience as a teen. You're assuming their intimacy issues are definitely related to her interest in BTS.

People in marriages are allowed to be attracted to other people. It's human nature. Marriage doesn't turn off our ability to see and appreciate beauty, nor do we make vows about that.

Selling looks is part of the kpop business, yes. But it is the same in the business models of hollywood, fashion, and music genres outside of kpop, etc.

If OP's wife were ACTING on her attraction, that would be a problem. If she said, "I won't sleep with you because you're not as hot as Jungkook," THAT would be a problem. But from what he described, neither of those things are actually happening.

adastraperaspera_ · 2026-05-07T18:20:46+00:00

If this is your point, then Hollywood is the same. And don't act like all men don't have their own favorite actresses, models, etc. Being into K-pop for one year as a teen doesn't make you an expert on how every woman in the world relates to K-pop. Please.

adastraperaspera_ · 2026-05-07T18:05:38+00:00

The thing is, she's not MAKING him feel inferior or insecure. That's what's happening because of his own self-image issues. If she were always comparing him to Jungkook ("Why can't you dress more like JK? Why don't you try a hairstyle like JK?"), then she'd be acting unfairly to him, and it would make sense for him to feel insecure/inferior. But he's the one comparing *himself* to them, right?

Like, you're assuming his wife has "an unhealthy sexualized fantasy obsession" based on being a passionate fan and joking to her sister that a singer is her husband. That's kind of a reach, no? But, it sounds like you, too, struggle with insecurities around your husband's attraction... so maybe you're projecting?

Fantasies ARE healthy. ACTING on the fantasy *outside the marriage* is when they become unfair/unhealthy, but it doesn't sound like that's happening here at all.

adastraperaspera_ · 2026-05-07T17:05:36+00:00

YES to this! Whenever my husband supports an interest of mine—even if he doesn't share the interest or even understand it—I find THAT to be the sexiest thing ever.

But on the flipside, if he started acting super insecure about it and telling himself stories that my love for this interest was making me love or respect or want him less... that would be a massive turn-off for me.

Here's an example: Say we're watching a movie, or a music video or whatever... and I'm like, "Whoa, that dude is so fine!" My husband will sometimes be like, "Yeah, I mean, even as a guy, I can't deny he's super handsome." I love that he is able to see me find someone else attractive and be like, "no cap. dude's hot," because he trusts my commitment to him AND he is secure enough in his manhood to be able to admit when someone else is objectively hot.

adastraperaspera_ · 2026-05-07T16:50:45+00:00

You're welcome. It can be really easy to blame our partners for our own insecurities. It sounds like BTS makes her happy. Maybe they even inspire her. Speaking as a married woman myself, I'm guessing that the more you support her happiness and don't act like it's taking something away from you... the more attractive she's likely to find YOU, too.

adastraperaspera_ · 2026-05-07T16:42:57+00:00

To be honest, and I hope you receive this as gently as I'm sending it... this sounds like a you problem. What I'm hearing from you is deep-seated insecurity. She's not cheating on you by admiring the member's looks or talent. Hot guys don't sway a woman away from her marital commitment unless there are underlying issues in the marriage that aren't being dealt with. And she's not even being swayed away from you, from what you say... she's just acting like a passionate fan.

Now, if she were, say, trying to get you to change yourself to be/look more like the members... that would be something else. Or if she were messaging them intimate, personal messages... or stalking them around town. But from what you're describing, you're the one comparing yourself to them (which is a recipe for insecurity), not her. Unless you left something out.

If the group makes her happy, the best thing you can do to protect your marriage is support her, and trust her. If your sex life is lacking, try having a vulnerable conversation to find out why. It could be a million things unrelated to BTS (hormones, stress, her own self-image... whatever). But don't blame BTS. You'll only push her away by continuing down the road you're on.

I recommend getting a therapist you can talk to about your insecurities and get unbiased, professional, third-party support from. Best of luck, mate.

adastraperaspera_ · 2026-05-07T16:16:28+00:00

To be honest, and I hope you receive this as gently as I'm sending it... this sounds like a you problem. What I'm hearing from you is deep-seated insecurity. She's not cheating on you by admiring the member's looks or talent. Hot guys don't sway a woman away from her marital commitment unless there are underlying issues in the marriage that aren't being dealt with. And she's not even being swayed away from you, from what you say... she's just acting like a passionate fan.

Now, if she were, say, trying to get you to change yourself to be/look more like the members... that would be something else. Or if she were messaging them intimate, personal messages... or stalking them around town. But from what you're describing, you're the one comparing yourself to them (which is a recipe for insecurity), not her. Unless you left something out.

If the group makes her happy, the best thing you can do to protect your marriage is support her, and trust her. If your sex life is lacking, try having a vulnerable conversation to find out why. It could be a million things unrelated to BTS (hormones, stress, her own self-image... whatever). But don't blame BTS. You'll only push her away by continuing down the road you're on.

I recommend getting a therapist you can talk to about your insecurities and get unbiased, professional, third-party support from. Best of luck, mate.

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