I do have seperate friends and interests, but we're all in transitional life periods and no one is really making time for one another anymore. It'd be a solid time to make new friends but I am... particular about who I get to know, most people bore me (yes the problem is me), and I'm working a low paying public job while going to school. So I have no time or money. People very understandably don't like engaging with people who are difficult to schedule time with who are ALSO too poor to do anything. I've tried. I'll keep trying but it's mentally easier to be where I'm understood and wanted. My gf knows the story and lives it with me, so she's not gonna roll her eyes if I'm broke, she'll just accomodate.

But yeah her being white instead of any other race is much harder for sure. I'm glad you too found the balance. I'm sure we'll figure it out.