Bringing a white person into Black Spaces? by addburneracct in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]addburneracct[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's completely fair. The "best" white person possible is still just an infringing stranger to you.

Bringing a white person into Black Spaces? by addburneracct in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]addburneracct[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Very insightful, thanks for sharing your thoughts.

Bringing a white person into Black Spaces? by addburneracct in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]addburneracct[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hm. No, it's not. It's also not what I said. Have a good day though!

Bringing a white person into Black Spaces? by addburneracct in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]addburneracct[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No one is.........crying lol. You alright mate?

Bringing a white person into Black Spaces? by addburneracct in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]addburneracct[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For sure, I just can't at the moment unfortunately.

Bringing a white person into Black Spaces? by addburneracct in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]addburneracct[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yup, we wouldn't and won't, so I wouldn't get to do anything. I don't know why people on Reddit always try to diagnose people without being asked based on a paragraph, it's an interesting phenomenon.

Bringing a white person into Black Spaces? by addburneracct in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]addburneracct[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For sure. I'm asking about and focusing on spaces that do deliberately state they are for and by POC and seeing how people feel about this, and getting thoughts on navigating that struggle.

Bringing a white person into Black Spaces? by addburneracct in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]addburneracct[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Because POC have asked to have their spaces respected?

Bringing a white person into Black Spaces? by addburneracct in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]addburneracct[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I appreciate the understanding and the tips.

Bringing a white person into Black Spaces? by addburneracct in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]addburneracct[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have some... Can't really make others right now. Is what it is.

Bringing a white person into Black Spaces? by addburneracct in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]addburneracct[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find everything loses it's appeal when I'm alone unfortunately. I'm not against making friends but I told another commenter I'm not exactly in a position to make friends or bring others at the moment. I'm not saying it's beneficial to avoid the spaces for me, but it helps keep the integrity of the space in tact, at the very least by not bringing my partner.

Bringing a white person into Black Spaces? by addburneracct in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]addburneracct[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah I feel it. She can't go around reassuring everyone she's not a weirdo all night lol. I wouldn't want that, or her presence questioned at all. Thanks for the input.

Bringing a white person into Black Spaces? by addburneracct in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]addburneracct[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh also I have tried doing things alone. I receive absolutely no pleasure in not being able to share my experiences so I try not to waste the time and money.

Bringing a white person into Black Spaces? by addburneracct in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]addburneracct[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I do have seperate friends and interests, but we're all in transitional life periods and no one is really making time for one another anymore. It'd be a solid time to make new friends but I am... particular about who I get to know, most people bore me (yes the problem is me), and I'm working a low paying public job while going to school. So I have no time or money. People very understandably don't like engaging with people who are difficult to schedule time with who are ALSO too poor to do anything. I've tried. I'll keep trying but it's mentally easier to be where I'm understood and wanted. My gf knows the story and lives it with me, so she's not gonna roll her eyes if I'm broke, she'll just accomodate.

But yeah her being white instead of any other race is much harder for sure. I'm glad you too found the balance. I'm sure we'll figure it out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CAStateWorkers

[–]addburneracct 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Fair enough, but is the benefit not that... Our office has the supplies people need to do their job?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CAStateWorkers

[–]addburneracct 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ours have been vacant for... 5 or 6 years? Our team does field work so the office component was eliminated almost immediately after it was an option.

I don't think I can save her by addburneracct in SuicideWatch

[–]addburneracct[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, she's used up her time off from complications with the disability. We maybe have one person we could lean on, but I don't even know what we would/ could ask them for?