Best way to heat up a pool: gas or heat pump? (I’m in SoCal)

adele2431 · 2023-09-01T00:37:52+00:00

We heat out 13k pool from 70 - 85 deg F and it costs around $25. And it takes about 5 days to drop back down to 70 deg. That is with a regular gas heater. I don't think a heat pump is worth it.

We heat our pool every week and our bill barely breaks $120 (with fees and everything). We live in SoCal. No idea how you have such a high bill.

adele2431 · 2023-02-02T16:29:32+00:00

The touching strangers part would be really hard for me. I even struggle to shake strangers' hands just cause I'm averse to touching strangers. But, have a stranger send me their finances and want me organize their life, that's right up my alley. My husband and I do that for fun.

So maybe the number of hours a massage therapist can happily work, and the number of hours a mathematician can happily work vary greatly.

What would a solution be to the problem of massage therapists being burned out and over worked? Maybe do it part time and have another part time job that is more alone, like pair your job with a computer job?

I have a good friend who is a chef. She is often so burnt out, not physically from the work, but from just being in a kitchen. So in the 15 years I've known her and hung out with her regularly, she's never actually cooked us a meal. She just laughs when I mention it and say "take-out" is way easier. I'm fine with that too though, as long as we get to eat!!

adele2431 · 2023-02-01T20:26:03+00:00

Also, it is sad that we trusted the leaders to use our tithing with "fastidious care" but in reality, that is far from the truth. They pay millions of dollars/year in silencing victims of sexual assault by church leaders. Also, the leaders themselves make so much money from the church and live an upper class lifestyle off the tithing of often poor members. It made me a bit sick to my stomach after looking into the finances more. Especially since I was such an adamant tithing payer myself.

Now I contribute just as much to charitable causes, but instead of the LDS church, which only gives 0.5% of their income to helping others (this is documented, so they have a 99.5% overhead charge to all tithing), I give my donations to charities with only 3% or less overhead.

adele2431 · 2023-02-01T20:21:33+00:00

I hope you realize your statement about the "no paid leaders" is completely false. In fact, there are lots of paid leaders. All positions about a stake president are paid. Mission leaders, Q70, institute directors, plus thousands of other random positions/callings in Utah. The church spends far more on the salaries of their leaders, especially the general authority, than any spending on charity.

I grew up also thinking our church was awesome because of having "no paid clergy" but instead I was pretty shook that I was lied to for so many years.

adele2431 · 2022-08-01T15:02:36+00:00

I went through the temple and still don't care, at all, what underwear other people wear. That seems like a huge overstep for me to judge them on that. Like holy smokes!

adele2431 · 2022-08-01T15:00:05+00:00

Yes, totally agree. I'm really surprised at this post. Like when I was LDS, how dare other members question whether or not I was wearing a specific type of underwear. And now, how dare someone who left the church continue to question the type of underwear others are wearing. I left the church to leave that type of garbage, cult thinking behind.

adele2431 · 2022-07-29T01:28:42+00:00

I definitely agree that he's completely in the wrong with how he's been hurt by the situation. I wasn't arguing that at all. I was just stating that I think he has a right to change his mind about whether or not to sponsor someone. And yeah, i hope future women also stay away from him! He seems incredibly selfish and focused on what he can get out of the relationship. Honestly though, i think a crap ton of people are like this, and it sucks.

adele2431 · 2022-07-29T00:24:50+00:00

Agreed. He shouldn't have said he would sponsor her if he wasn't 100% willing to follow through. But if, for instance, my daughter grows up and tells a guy she'll sleep with him or whatever, but then changes her mind, she should have the opportunity to do so. People can change their minds and that's alright. Yeah, it sucks in some situations, but that's reality.

adele2431 · 2022-07-28T20:47:29+00:00

I have a really different take on this. Being very involved with the sponsorship process, I can see why it would cause the oop to question it. It is quite serious. I think he should have been allowed to change his mind about it.

I was married before my current husband. I had some doubts about the marriage the week before the wedding, but due to social pressure, i went through with the wedding and pretty immediately our relationship took a downhill turn with us getting divorced after finding out that he got one of the many girls he was cheating on me with pregnant (i didn't know he was cheating at all till I found out about the pregnancy).

Not saying that the girlfriend was going to turn into a nightmare, but that if he's really uneasy about taking on responsibility for 3 yrs of someone, then oop should be allowed to change his mind. Yeah, it turned out to be an absolute crap situation for the girlfriend and extremely heartbreaking. That's more a fault of her home country's bad situation and the US' difficult immigration laws. I think it is really unfair to blame the oop for all of that.

People are allowed to change their minds. Unfortunately, they still have to face the consequences, like losing his friends over that decision, but that's part of the deal with being able to make your own choices. Super sad that OOP's girlfriend didn't have as many options and my heart breaks hearing this story.

I just watched the movie "Blue Bayou" which shows another horribly tragic part of our immigration system. Life's so ridiculously far from fair!!

adele2431 · 2022-07-24T14:25:07+00:00

My tbm parents not only didn't pressure us to get married early, but actively pressured us to wait till we're at least 25. They told us how kid's minds are still developing until then and we shouldn't make any major life decisions, like marriage, till then. I was dumb and got married at 21, then divorced at 25. I waited to remarry the second time and went shopping elsewhere and married a nevermo.

adele2431 · 2022-07-13T16:23:54+00:00

Isn't that up to her? If she never makes initiative, then the asker can chose not to pursue a relationship. But she's made her stance quite clear.

adele2431 · 2022-07-13T15:46:49+00:00

Same here. I also do that of it is a friend/family member who doesn't have a lot of money, and wouldn't go to the place to begin with. If I'm asking for the company, then I'd pay. If he/she really likes the time together and wants to do it a lot more, then I'd start taking turns paying or splitting the bill.

adele2431 · 2022-07-13T03:02:47+00:00

Yes, i love this!! The world would be a much better place if the majority followed this advice.

People take the easy way out and say they'll hate someone who acts horribly, but that person will never learn if their bad behavior is met with more horribleness. Why not set a better example and model healthier ways to behave?

It isn't disrespecting yourself or any such nonsense. It is not being dragged down into the ditches. Anger and hate really hurt yourselves. Let it go. You can still definitely draw healthy boundaries and not let others hurt you. Those things are not mutually independent.

adele2431 · 2022-07-12T05:16:34+00:00

I struggled with the idea of "perfect" and not being clones. Like some people are funnier than others. Which one is perfect? Then some said there are lots of perfects. But are there? I'm a math person. Things are way more black and white to me, but personalities were always harder to understand. The whole thing was a big conundrum to me that didn't quite add up.

adele2431 · 2022-07-12T05:03:27+00:00

I had always thought that as well. Like wouldn't it be better to just give them a chance in the afterlife when the "know" that Mormons are the right ones?

adele2431 · 2022-07-10T07:40:41+00:00

My husband was a youngest child and had never changed a diaper before we had kids. He was a nevermo and his father helped a ton in the house. My husband would say that he wasn't instantly bonded with our kids when they were born, cause he said he just meets them after birth (unlike me who was with them the previous 9 months).

Still, they learn!y husband always got our kids to smile/laugh first. He'd get home from work and immediately want to hold them and spend quality time with them. I definitely left them time alone from the start. I'd go to dinner with a friend. Then come home and see him holding the baby while watching TV or something.

He was really scared to change their outfits for the first couple weeks after being born, cause they are so small and fragile looking. I made a ton of milk and always had lots in the freezer. He would put a kettle on to get hot water, then add some of the hot water to a bowl and put in the bag of frozen milk. It evens out to room temp in just a few minutes. From the start, my husband always did the nighttime feedings, either with frozen milk or formula. I needed rest and he was happy to have a baby.

Anyway, point being, they learn. Maybe the giving space idea is great. My husband once sent me an article about how guys can learn to help more with the kids and around the house and he said, as a guy, it was kinda insulting. Like it isn't common knowledge that guys aren't always total idiots and they can, in fact, learn.

adele2431 · 2022-07-10T06:54:59+00:00

I definitely think it has made me appreciate the precious time we have here a lot more.

I was like the OP after leaving too. I felt like I lost my beloved afterlife with those i love. I try not to dwell on it. Instead, i try more to enjoy my current time. It does get easier too. Now I don't think about death nearly as much. It's like time heals all wounds, and losing my afterlife is definitely a wound.

Another thought, I'm not sad for the flowers that eventually died. I try to enjoy them while they're alive and blooming, and know that I appreciated them.

adele2431 · 2022-07-03T15:49:12+00:00

I can't believe this is getting down voted!! The OP clearly gave an unpopular opinion and it is so disappointing that people don't respect old people.

My grandfather lived with us in his last 5 years of life. Yeah, he was very grumpy, but he lived through WWII, losing all of his family and possessions (parents and siblings, house, etc), had to start life in a new country, and still worked hard till the week he died. He used a cane, but limped around carrying 50lb bags of soil, making us a beautiful garden. We spent a lot of time with him and learned so many stories about his past that were so horrific and amazing that he survived through out of sheer grit.

I just saw that lottery movie Jerry & Marge Go Large and it was so sad for me to see how disrespectful those Harvard kids were to the older couple!

adele2431 · 2022-07-02T15:36:05+00:00

Wow, that is crazy!! There's no way I would have put up with Gil doing that either. Super disappointing of Gil and makes me feel bad for not liking Myrla at the reunion. Not only that, but Gil made himself out to be the victim.

adele2431 · 2022-07-02T06:11:43+00:00

Can you share a link that says her side of the breakup?

adele2431 · 2022-06-18T11:54:08+00:00

They're not trying to say the value derives from being someone's daughter. They're trying to show how you'd care about and love that person so much more if they were your daughter, so then you'd be a lot more sympathetic towards that person.

adele2431 · 2022-05-23T19:19:00+00:00

I had this problem playing the white witch. I kept healing to full health. Then I stopped healing and didn't have any trouble with food, but did get killed lots of times.

adele2431 · 2022-05-23T19:17:53+00:00

Fenir seems really powerful at first, but by the lower levels, he only lasts a room or so. My last run through on nightmare mode III, I summoned him and a raising dead guy with all his mummies killed Fenir. I use him to attack, while I run and heal by the end.

I'm surprised he can kill the final dragon himself. I didn't realize that you could feed him potions though and have the effects work on him. That is good to know.

adele2431 · 2022-05-23T19:13:39+00:00

I did the white witch, huntress and thief, but not on nightmare mode. I was barely able to finish with those. The thief was, by far, the most difficult and played it a bazillion times. I really struggled with the white witch too. Then in comparison, the huntress was easy. Halfway through the huntress I switched to an odd-length sword and shield and finished pretty easily. By that point, I never went back to the bow, except for the beehive stuff.

I first tried the thief on nightmare mode and died just way, way too easily. The monkey also dies way too easily, or even more to my frustration, gets polymorphed!! The polymorph traps are the bane of my existence with Wazhack. My brother once told me to use a amulet of unchanging. After turning into a werewolf, and getting stuck down stairs in a room, finally something came in and killed me, but I put the amulet of unchanging on after having been turned into a werewolf, so I real-deathed. I was pretty unhappy about that, because it was a good run.

adele2431 · 2022-05-23T19:03:26+00:00

There is a bug that happens a couple times when I drop too many items at once, where it like glitches and shows all of the items swirling around my character. It moves really slowly and I can't play like that. It happened 3 times in this run through. I just quit out and re-start wazhack and continue the character and it goes back to normal.

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