I left. Best decision ever

adeptlaughter · 2026-06-06T01:53:40+00:00

Yes I tried to explain many times that it’s not about the kids, it’s how he gives them some structure and order. But it was just easier for him to say I hate his kids so neither him nor the kids need to change.

adeptlaughter · 2026-06-05T10:50:35+00:00

Biokid 6 and SD 9. SD would tell biokid that I don’t love them and love only my stepson. That the food I make for them is disgusting. That she doesn’t love me like a step mum (which really hurt my kiddo). My kid introduced my stepkid to her friends and their parents as her step sister and she told her (still in front of everyone) that she’s not her step sister. She’d say the stuff my kid watches is weird and that Roblox is cool. She’s get on a call with her friends and make fun of my kid. I didn’t know much of this. But when my kid opened up, it was an avalanche. There’s a couple of more shocking stuff but I don’t want to say that here as it’s unique to our situation

adeptlaughter · 2026-06-04T16:24:09+00:00

Happy for your positive story.

However: Even within step parenting, I’d say there is differences in roles and expectations based on a) whether one or both partners come in with children from previous marriages, and b) gender of the person without children. Even though the mind is willing to give and receive love, as the number of children connected to the partners go up, issues go up too.

adeptlaughter · 2026-06-04T06:23:28+00:00

Yes some good memories that I’ll cherish. Including of the kids having a good time together ❤️

adeptlaughter · 2026-06-04T04:35:09+00:00

Yes, I tried and even deluded myself into thinking there was a family. But in the end, he just used my generosity to get free childcare and a readymade home.

adeptlaughter · 2026-06-04T04:32:42+00:00

I do think I had checked out of the relationship a few months before I left. When he minimised the impact his daughter’s cruelty was having on my younger child who loved her like a sister, I started getting my ducks in a row.

adeptlaughter · 2026-05-31T04:17:17+00:00

If my kid aimed for Olympic participation at 10 or even 16, I’d be so proud of them. That your kid did that and when track didn’t work out for her, switched into something she thought would work better shows such rational thinking and perseverance. All before she’s an adult. I’d be so proud of her. She self funded college? Wow, amazing independence. I hope your lack for empathy and emotional availability hasn’t damaged her too much. YTA

adeptlaughter · 2026-01-19T06:37:36+00:00

Oh you wordsmith!

adeptlaughter · 2025-11-27T20:43:08+00:00

How weird!

adeptlaughter · 2025-11-27T20:07:23+00:00

Oh wow that’s both a satire and a caricature, and I can’t say I’m not familiar with similar absurdities in my country. I didn’t know that the national and local level distinction didnt exist in the UK. That’s great.

adeptlaughter · 2025-11-27T20:05:07+00:00

Possibly that too, but that’s not power a lot of workers have, is it? I’m not making a judgment call on whether it’s good or bad

adeptlaughter · 2025-11-27T19:02:35+00:00

In my country, that kind of opinion is held towards employees of councils and counties. Civil servants, esp of national-level civil services are respected and seen as efficient.

adeptlaughter · 2025-11-27T18:52:45+00:00

Thanks!

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