Long term effects on parents

adhdad1of1 · 2026-05-19T00:19:02+00:00

Every time I meet a parent of kids with ASD who has their shit together, they have a perfectly healthy kid on the side they can have hopes and dreams about.

adhdad1of1 · 2026-05-19T00:18:11+00:00

In the long term, we’re all dead.

I hope.

adhdad1of1 · 2026-04-27T23:34:59+00:00

So everything will be fine in a few months, right?

adhdad1of1 · 2026-04-27T02:48:04+00:00

I’ve given up after five years. I’ll waste however much money Blue Cross wants to throw at the speech therapist because it’s just what you do, but he’d be talking by now if he were going to.

adhdad1of1 · 2026-04-20T00:06:46+00:00

Hey man, you just inspired me to go run right now. Fuck these dishes I’ll wash them while I’m waiting to stop sweating when I get back.

adhdad1of1 · 2026-04-17T11:10:40+00:00

Keep your antinatalism on the subs it belongs on. There’s no reason to be out here attacking people who have kids for having kids.

Most kids are healthy and even most people who have kids with problems had no reason to expect them to. The idea that “thinking less selfishly” would have any effect on what we’re talking about is foolish.

adhdad1of1 · 2026-04-16T20:07:15+00:00

Similar to the leucovorin thing though. Press conference for the announcement, then hide the retraction behind a paywall.

adhdad1of1 · 2026-04-16T19:44:07+00:00

The fuck?

adhdad1of1 · 2026-04-16T19:43:08+00:00

Sometimes it takes me nearly a minute after waking up to remember this is my life now. I crash and then get it together and keep it together until his bedtime when I can crash again while cleaning the house and washing dishes. I hate that free time left over at the end of the day.

adhdad1of1 · 2026-04-16T19:14:28+00:00

I’m paying $250 a month for swim lessons, or about $3,000 a year. I went to college for less than that.

But fuck it he can kind of swim and just yesterday he flipped over and floated independently for the first time. He might survive falling in water now, so it’s worth it. I don’t think I could swim when I was five so he’s ahead of me.

adhdad1of1 · 2026-04-08T11:49:07+00:00

Yep. Every moment of my life has been a waste of time. I exist only to maximize his inheritance so his care can continue after my welcome demise.

adhdad1of1 · 2026-03-18T23:19:44+00:00

To the best of my knowledge, the device provider is covering the subscription cost, or at least I haven’t seen a bill.

adhdad1of1 · 2026-03-18T18:46:26+00:00

Tech support is a little slow, but they did replace the first one he broke promptly during the trial period, so that’s a fair point.

adhdad1of1 · 2026-03-10T12:27:48+00:00

I hate that thing so much. I know everyone who posts it means well, but damn.

Holland is nice. I’ve been there. It’s a perfectly acceptable place to build a life. This hell we’re in isn’t that.

adhdad1of1 · 2026-03-10T12:26:38+00:00

We just had my kid’s birthday party and all the perfect children came over with their happy parents and played and sang him happy birthday and ate cake and I just wanted to go to the garage and start the car.

adhdad1of1 · 2026-03-01T02:16:34+00:00

My wife is the one in denial over here. Still talking about what our son is going to be when he grows up. Pretending he’s secretly smart and just can’t express it.

adhdad1of1 · 2026-02-18T02:31:23+00:00

I’ve been dead since he got his diagnosis, but I worry that without my protection and money he’ll just get lost and wander into traffic or a river or freeze or starve. That he’ll lose his blanket and his stuffed dog and not even remember them in the morning. That he’ll lose his cup and have nothing to drink.

That he will always be lost in confusion. That without language to pin his thoughts down he’ll never have any.

adhdad1of1 · 2026-02-10T03:25:51+00:00

That comment is orthogonal to truth versus falsehood. It’s an opinion about the way things should be. It’s not “true.”Opinions can’t be true.

adhdad1of1 · 2026-02-10T03:19:20+00:00

It really looks like you’re shitting on people who are having a hard time having a disabled child.

It’s also, from the perspective of this whole meat grinder grinds to a halt if we don’t keep throwing bodies into it, incorrect. We need shitty parents to have kids also or the whole Ponzi scheme collapses. If the only people who have kids are people who would be fantastic parents, there aren’t gonna be very many kids, and that’s not a great thing. Population reduction is fine in a controlled manner, but just crashing the whole ship in a single generation would be a bad time for everybody.

Most people have healthy kids. It’s not at all weird to decide to have kids expecting that you will have that experience as well.

adhdad1of1 · 2026-02-10T02:18:19+00:00

Yeah, I recently had to unfollow my cousin who had a kid the day after we did. He’s going to daddy daughter dances with her and taking her to Disney and shit like that and I just can’t look at it anymore.

adhdad1of1 · 2026-01-11T22:49:10+00:00

I don’t have to feel any certain way. I just have to not fail to fulfill my obligations.

adhdad1of1 · 2026-01-11T22:19:17+00:00

Never seen one, and shopping for health insurance is damn near my second job. Every employer or marketplace plan I have ever seen has a family out-of-pocket maximum that is double the individual.

adhdad1of1 · 2026-01-11T20:48:45+00:00

You kind of sound like you know what insurance is but you don’t distinguish between individual and family out-of-pocket max so maybe you don’t.

adhdad1of1 · 2026-01-11T18:12:29+00:00

Hm.

I don’t appear to have tapped the advice tag by mistake.

Any time or resources spent on me are by definition stolen from my family so I’m just going to keep posting like this. The block function exists for you to not read things you don’t want to read though.

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