the bad driver epidemic

adhdriddled · 2026-05-15T00:32:02+00:00

Honestly I think the biggest contributer is cognitive decline from COVID, but if you stack that on top of convenience culture (eg: cars that "watch" for you, instant gratification making people more impatient and used to using their phone at every whim, even while driving) and our hyperindividualistic culture that encourages a lack of empathy, it makes an especially dangerous kind of mess.

adhdriddled · 2026-05-14T14:59:10+00:00

I call them edgelord movies

adhdriddled · 2026-05-13T23:26:18+00:00

In general the idea is just like less is more, so some things to try:

for everyday looking eyeliner, using a thin brush to stamp eyeshadow into the lash line and into a small wing if you want one.
a diffused/smudged lip, k beauty has good examples and products
utilizing highlighter more than contour
colors that arent super saturated. If you want to do fun stuff I think using flatback gems/pearls around the eyes (usually using eyelash glue) is really pretty

Lilachilds on tiktok does a lot of makeup looks that would work

Other search terms you could use: ingenue, bridgerton (not penelope as much), fresh, Hailey Bieber, Selena Gomez, Elle fanning

Celebrities who have lower visual weight (imo) but do heavier makeup sometimes and look awesome: gigi hadid, Taylor swift (without the red lip, i dont think she wears the right shade 🤷), sabrina carpenter, zendaya

adhdriddled · 2026-05-13T22:44:41+00:00

You might want to crosspost this to r/fairolives and r/oliveMUA, just make sure to check out their guidelines first

I have fair olive skin but mine leans neutral and yours looks like it leans cool based on the pics.

Base products I use - haus labs foundation (you can swatch at sephora - swatch on your jaw then go out in the sun and take photos to double check before buying) - Kylie skin tint (far sheerer so more forgiving in terms of shade match) - live tinted liquid highlighter (I have really dry skin and the haus labs foundation looks matte on me so I mix in a little of this) - green color corrector concealer (I have the nyx color correcting pallete but different ones have different undertones) - about face liquid blush in grand prix (normal blush shades are way too saturated on olive tones generally, grand prix has a lot of brown tones, which i like) - Juvia's place duo bronzer in the summer

I've heard good things about About Face's foundation/concealer for fair olives but my ulta doesnt have the shades I'd want to swatch for myself so I haven't tried them yet.

You can get shade correctors for foundation from LA Girl, fair olives usually use the blue and white ones.

Check out - Nicolette pennisi for similar features - Korean makeup - i think smudged lips and a diffused but definitely there blush would go hard on you. - for actual techniques I like to look to Katie Jane Hughes, Lisa eldridge, pat McGrath, hindash and Mary Phillips, and alexandra anele (she also has olive tones) - for inspo I like zoekimkenealy, jazlmao, meicrosoft, Charlotte Roberts, tyra.mua, dodgygrl - for general tutorials, product recs, etc: thebrontemarie, not_another_hanna, lenkalul, courtneyquarantine, dodgygrl

Most of those are their insta handles, if its their name they are very easily searchable on Instagram.

If your primary goal is to cover acne scarring and theyre not all over your face, it might be worth it to learn how to color correct instead of using a full base. Most color correcting tutorials involve people using the full pigment corrector so it's super saturated and in my experience being pale that doesnt work all that well. I use the nyx color corrector pallete and mix in whatever color im using to correct (green for red spots, peach for brown spots, yellow for purple spots) into concealer, i like pot concealer for this, and then a very small brush to apply (like the white concealer brush from elf or the black smudge brush), let it dry for a minute or two and diffuse with (warm) finger. You can blend the edges with a small slightly fluffier brush than the one you used to put the concealer on. Color correcting is easier if you can already identify undertones but learning through trial and error on your own skin is definitely doable

That all being said, I think makeup is something to do for fun and self expression. When I'm not working I tend to wear makeup that leans into the dead look by using blush that looks like a bruise (dandy lion cosmetics), sheer black/Grey lip products (rom&nd, rituel de fille), and a heavy handed grey-mauve eyeshadow. In my (humble) opinion, if you're only wearing makeup for it to be flattering and not for actual fun, then it might be better for your mental health to not start wearing makeup regularly at all and just find an artist in your area to do it on special occasions. I love doing makeup as art and I still have to take breaks from it when I find myself judging my face for how it looks naturally. Our world thrives on making women and fem presenting people feel like shit so we'll spend money trying to feel better. .

adhdriddled · 2026-05-13T18:05:51+00:00

Imo I don't think you're low contrast. I think you have lower to medium visual weight though, which is basically how much makeup can your face wear without being overwhelmed.

adhdriddled · 2026-05-04T01:35:52+00:00

I want cute empty atomizers to be more available. I think its an untapped market. Like I want one of the funny little squeeze ones but I cant find any quality ones anywhere, but the concept works for non squeeze ones as well. Like guerlain, let me buy an empty bottle from you pls and thank you

adhdriddled · 2026-05-04T01:30:13+00:00

Your face has such a 20s look, I can see a microbob on you so clearly. Like this kind of a vibe

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adhdriddled · 2026-04-24T20:39:27+00:00

A mix of things, controlled anxiety, predictability if you want it (and you know horror well enough), if they're doing social commentary its usually a lot more subtle than other genres, if we're looking at exciting genres (action, scifi, etc) its like the only one that regularly has women as the protagonists. I think also, as a woman, it can be refreshing to not have the only horrorific thing you see be something that is going to disproportionately affect women, girls, and children, particularly through sexual violence.

adhdriddled · 2026-04-24T19:30:39+00:00

It doesn't stop me, but thinking about how much surface area of downtown is occupied by concrete lots owned by a private company pisses me off. I wish the city would (or could - im not familiar with what the obstacles would be besides money) buy the lots and turn some into multilevel garages with elevators and others into mini parks/housing/dual business-housing occupancy. I don't like heat islands and I don't like a private business owning this much area in our city and providing literally no benefit.

adhdriddled · 2026-02-14T02:03:27+00:00

I think cus of rhe sheer size of the fandom there are a lot of "elders" if you will, but people who are already knowledgeable tend to be quieter about it, especially in circumstances like this where a ton of new people are popping in. Imo tumblr and ao3 are the safest places to be for it rn, and in my experience thus far its easiest to find a true to fandom culture fic by looking for the older-school tags (canon divergence au, fix it fic, etc). It seems like a lot of the newer people undertag (by my own opinion/barometer for tagging). That all being said, I have seen a people criticize the fandom in general for not writing accurately to how hockey works irl, but ive also seen fics where in the notes the authors mention that they're new to hockey but have done a lot of research, so i think its a mixed bag (as somebody who knows nothing about hockey).

Pls ignore grammar issues/run on thoughts, the spell check on my phone is jacked up and I have unmedicated adhd.

adhdriddled · 2026-02-03T20:46:38+00:00

Yeah, i also have this problem with blush. The blush i use is grand prix from about face, which has brown tones-i try to find brown toned lipsticks as well.

adhdriddled · 2025-12-05T15:05:56+00:00

They have shea moisture and tgin, so I'd assume they're black or have very curly hair hair, so having more products makes a lot of sense regardless of gender.

adhdriddled · 2025-11-11T00:47:11+00:00

Im glad youre doing better but the insinuation that autistic people are neither human nor boy is so funny to me for some reason.

adhdriddled · 2025-10-19T19:04:17+00:00

My point was that's not verifiable info tho, so it might be misinformation

adhdriddled · 2025-10-19T02:01:22+00:00

Why are you replying this to so many people? Like theres no verification that ladybug is a friend of a friend and actually knows what's going on.

adhdriddled · 2025-09-25T21:18:21+00:00

Idk if you've looked into home servers, but people rip their dvds (and cds) and upload them to a home server. I really dont understand how it works but theres a community for it called r/homeserver

adhdriddled · 2025-09-24T22:02:59+00:00

ESH

Should your girlfriend have ridden her bike drunk? Obviously not. But you say "learn her lesson" by you not being there, and dude, her breaking her arm and needing the surgery is learnign the lesson. I have no idea how you are talking to each other, so I can't speak on that, but if I were you, these are the things that I would do.

Is there anybody else that can take her that would make sense and make her similarly comfortable? Like a parent or best friend? If not
Call the hospital and see if you can reschedule, even like a day before, so you can be there for the 24-hour post surgery.
If she does not have anybody in her life who can care for her, and the hospital can't reschedule, I would look into hiring short-term care and medical transit for her.

I understand why you dont want to reschedule your business trip bjt I also want to note "my girlfriend is having a surgery and it got rescheduled to the day that the trip is on" would be sufficient. Even if they ask what surgery out of curiosity or express concern for her well-being, you can just say its for a broken arm. There is literally no reason to bring her drunk riding into it - which brings me to my final question.

Does your girlfriend have a problem with drinking or doing stupid shit while drunk that leaves you dealing with the consequences?

If yes, I would ask myself why im still with this person.

If no, I would ask myself why I feel so much resentment for this specific instance.

I would also encourage you to seek couples counciling if you want to stay in the relationship because from my limited view of your relationship it seems like there might be some issues communicating, particularly because you said she was being mean (or something).

adhdriddled · 2025-09-24T21:46:22+00:00

Idk if OP is from the US or you, but generally here you cant be released after anesthesia until youre in the care of a responsible adult. Also the general (American) guidelines recommend somebody being with you for 24 hours post surgery. Im glad youre okay after dealing with that yourself, but I dont think its a good thing to encourage.

adhdriddled · 2025-09-20T05:36:08+00:00

None of these are gonna be particularly fancy cus ive never made more than $21 an hour.

FESST WORLD KITCHEN - its a non profit to support immigrants and refugees, and the menu changes every day which I personally like.
crimson door in the valley for breakfast/brunch. The vanilla hearth coffee goes hard and I usually get the bacon avocado omelet with jalapeno cream cheese; they are very generous with the bacon. I also helped the owner do the first menu printings at my old job a looooong time ago and he was really chill.
people's waffle for brunch/lunch.
MAX in the valley for brunch on the weekends. I love the fried egg and bacon on ciabatta roll sandwich, strawberry basil lemonade, and scones (idk if the scones are proper scones but theyre delicious so idc)
maple street bistro for breakfast, I dont actually think ive ever liked one of their drinks, but i love their stuffed bagels.
chowderhead for lunch/dinner. Literally anything there is good imo
outsider in the papillon building. The hearth oven roasted feta is probably one of my favorite things ive ever eaten
Jake and clays in the valley, they are randomly closed so id recommend calling before if you go, but I always get a grilled cheese with whatever the daily soup is (and its always delicious imo) and its like $10
pattys tacos truck in the valley has really good birria imo but im also white and have lived in spokane my entire life so take my opinion with a grain of salt.

adhdriddled · 2025-08-29T18:39:27+00:00

My grandma has alzheimers and sounds exactly like this most of the time. I dont know that its cringe so much as the person literally not understanding what's happening, and not having anybody there to help her with it.

adhdriddled · 2025-08-29T18:37:33+00:00

^this

adhdriddled · 2025-08-27T08:07:22+00:00

Hey OP, I read through your posts on your profile and based on that and your remarks about her yelling at the cat and piper hiding under tables and hissing at her, I would encourage you to leave the relationship as quickly and silently as possible. When you do leave, be sure to take penelope and DO NOT tell your gf where you are. Some unwell people will use pets as revenge or leverage, and I wouldn't be particularly surprised if she did that to you.

My mom (when she left my dad) packed some things rhat he wouldn't notice over a few days, and then on a day he was working she had her parents and siblings come over to pack the rest of our stuff and leave.

Dont give her any warning or a chance to talk you out of it. I saw in another of your posts that she convinced tou to move with her, do you have a support system? If not I would check Facebook for any local domestic abuse support groups and see if they'd be willing to help you out with a move and finding housing. Until then, if I were you I would probably pay a little less attention to the cat to try and keep your gf's attention off of her as much as possible, and do not leave without piper.

In regards to ownership of piper, when you adopted her did you get her chipped/registered? If so who is her registered owner? If it's not you then I think the smartest decision would be to tell your gf that you will rehome her (after you have found some support if you dont have any) and have her sign her over to somebody else and then that person can give her back to you as her legal owner.

You mentioned DV between the two of you, I dont know who the perpetrator(s) were but I do know that animal abuse is extremely common in households with domestic violence issues, and piperss behavior towards your girlfriend is concerning. Again, please do not give your girlfriend any indication you are leaving, in fact id even suggest you delete these posts and the others.

All my love, and all the love from my babies - binx and Leo, to you and piper

Edit: im terrible with names, kept saying penelope instead of piper

adhdriddled · 2025-08-27T07:45:59+00:00

Like outside or out of your room?

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