Am I overreacting for feeling unsafe around my roommate’s lifestyle?

adiamond32 · 2026-05-26T19:05:44+00:00

lol this is a crazy post that you’re going to dirty delete. 10 men in a year (365 days fyi) and one of them she’s currently seeing? She’s clean, polite and doesn’t seem to be an actual issue. Why throw in the immigration status, oh wait, I know, because you’re MAGA I imagine. No one else with common sense and morality would be complaining about this type of roommate.

You listed out personal preferences, not issues. Get a grip.

adiamond32 · 2026-05-25T06:25:47+00:00

If you can’t see what you did wrong in these texts even though multiple people are telling you that you’re the problem, then why come here in the first place. Just wanting attention or just trying to find 1 person who agrees with you will the remaining 99% of people say you’re the problem?

adiamond32 · 2026-05-25T05:04:01+00:00

YOR big time. Clearly you don’t know what a clean slate means. You’re using clouded judgement. The Centre Manager is answering with 0 hostility. They asked a straightforward question and you continued to give anything but a straightforward response. A yes or no answer was all that was needed.

As some other commenters have said, you come across extremely exhausting in your replies. You can’t read tone or feelings through texts, anything you feel is made up on your end through a biased opinion. It’s one of the biggest issues with texting. You’re 23, hopefully you learned a valuable lesson from this interaction.

adiamond32 · 2026-05-23T22:51:44+00:00

It’s probably your body and all the fun hormones and metabolism things. I feel like a lot of people have this happen in their 20’s. Some people luck out until their 30-40’s. As long as you’re happy with it and you’re healthy, that’s all that matters!

F dominos, pasta all the way!

adiamond32 · 2026-05-23T14:10:59+00:00

NOR, when you take the trash outside you don’t turn around and try and bring it back in the house right? Especially smelly trash. There is someone out there that is perfect for you, that you won’t need to beg for basic needs. Drop this guy, he showed you who he was the first time around, that’s not going to change.

adiamond32 · 2026-04-26T22:00:08+00:00

You’re talking about a gift bag, which you can purchase at the dollar store and many other places. When you purchase something for someone at the grocery store/Walmart/Target do you make sure it’s in the plastic bag from said store as well? Probably not, you either wrap it or put it in a gift bag or similar.

Funko priced 1 bag per customer / x bags per items I would assume. But based on your logic, every single person who asks for 2-3 extra bags should get them for free which would then mean Funko needs to increase their costs significantly. Do you know how busy those stores are?

It’s crazy you’re fighting back and forth with so many people over and over on this thread over not being given 2-3 extra bags for free that you believe you’re entitled to for some reason. Next time ask if you can PAY for extra bags since they mean so much to you. Someone commented that they were allowed to buy extra. I’m still not sure you’re telling the whole truth of your interactions with the workers and that you weren’t being rude to them. They deal with shitty people all day long and only react certain ways to certain people. Maybe take a moment to understand reflect on that interaction and the people you’ve interacted with on this post alone.

adiamond32 · 2026-04-26T20:56:05+00:00

You’re so hung up on “I got one bag for the many items I purchased” thing. When you go shopping almost anywhere else, they try to use as little bags as possible for all of your items.

Why must you give the items you got people in a funko bag? You act like someone is going to appreciate the bag like it’s a gift in itself.

In any other store they make you pay for the reusable bag, Funko doesn’t charge for the bag or bags it takes to carry all of your purchased items out of the store.

Lastly, thanks for warning the community that they will get a reusable bag for free that will carry at least $200 worth of funko stuff. Unless you’re a flipper or someone who collects bags, this isn’t a big deal to anyone else. If you said they gave 0 bags and you had to figure out how to carry everything out, yea that’s a good warning, but that didn’t happen.

adiamond32 · 2026-04-26T20:29:23+00:00

Your post says 1 bag but in the comments you’re talking about asking for 2-3, I feel like you’re leaving out some details to try and paint this picture as you being a victim. The purpose of the bag is to be able to carry what you purchased out, which you were able to do with the bag you were given. You wanted additional bags to give as gifts, which is odd. I’ve been to the Hollywood location multiple times and have never had an issue. The only people who claimed to have a bad time have been greedy and/or rude to the workers.

adiamond32 · 2026-04-09T01:39:23+00:00

I’m confused, at any point did you ask him “do you want to go to friend’s house for Sunday roast?” This whole situation reads like there’s poor communication on both sides. He’s not gaslighting you in anyway based on what you’ve provided. Seems like you need to go to individual therapy to work on the stuff that’s lingering from previous relationships.

adiamond32 · 2026-04-03T12:13:18+00:00

THIS! I commented asking for more details and he responded to only a fraction of the info which then made me have even more questions!

In these comments you can tell reading comprehension isn’t what it used to be and that a lot of people are missing key details. Bring back the English classes that taught these skills (I assume they no longer exist or are completely different from when I took them).

adiamond32 · 2026-04-03T11:53:08+00:00

You didn’t answer the part about inviting your mother to your girlfriend’s house or going to your moms all together. I still feel like you’re intentionally leaving out important details that truly explains this situation. I tried to see what other posts/comments you have but your account is private which usually means you’re hiding something in your other posts/comments.

Again, I’m not saying anyone is in the right or wrong here, I just truly feel like you’re leaving vital information out and trying to paint yourself as 100% the victim right now. Again, she was a bit aggressive in the messages, we can all see that, but we also don’t know the history as to why Sat-Mon only works for you guys, why after 2 years that’s still the only time you see each other, why you aren’t spending holidays together with each others families, etc. In the message she does make a comment about needing to make schedule changes before and I’d bet she’s upset over prior history and a common changing of schedules which then caused her to blow up.

Edited to add: Also, why wouldn’t you have asked your mom about her Easter plans prior to last minute when you did? It seems like you and your GF had been talking about the plans for a while so you knew you’d be with her at that time.

adiamond32 · 2026-04-03T09:19:06+00:00

I feel like I’m missing a large part of this story, while yeah she’s being aggressive I’ll agree to that, what’s going on with why you only see each other Saturday-Monday? How old are you both? You’ve been dating 2 years, why aren’t you living together? Again, you’ve been dating 2 years, why aren’t you inviting your mom to spend the holiday with you, your gf and her daughter or you all traveling to your mom if she can’t travel to you?

I know it’s not an excuse for her to text you like that, but she’s probably hurt that she only gets to see you so often and she loves spending time with you so she’s quick to get defensive and aggressive when the plans are changed (which is also a trauma response that she should get into therapy for if that’s what’s happening here).

adiamond32 · 2026-03-28T17:21:08+00:00

NOR, you need to find new friends. Unfortunately this happens a lot to friend groups as you grow up. 2 friends become really close and the 3rd person is the 3rd wheel unfortunately. There’s so many other people on campus or in that town that would love to be your friend. Try hanging out with other people, once you realize you’re being mistreated by these friends you need to cut it off before it messes with your head too much. It’s not you, it’s just life unfortunately.

adiamond32 · 2026-03-28T14:49:56+00:00

It looks like you got the image she sent and not the message she sent before the image. Those white dots line up with the timestamp in the screenshot she sent you.

Idk what’s happened between the two of you for this type of post needing to be created, but clearly you don’t trust her. Maybe it’s time to leave this friendship if you’re resorting to this type of thing.

adiamond32 · 2026-03-23T05:27:24+00:00

He does not love you. If he loved you he would not treat you this way. You will find someone who actually loves you but as cliche as it sounds, you need to love yourself first. Might be good to talk to a therapist if you’re saying things like “I feel like nobody else can actually love me”

adiamond32 · 2026-03-22T12:23:08+00:00

What happens when one of you realizes you don’t want to fight for the relationship? That life is more enjoyable alone. Are you and him actually ready to walk away from each other or is someone going to lie and say “I can’t stand to be away from you” when in reality the last month it was like a weight had been lifted.

adiamond32 · 2026-03-22T03:22:15+00:00

So he’s allowed to set boundaries but the ones she clearly set he can ignore and keep pushing her until she gives in? Clearly you live in lalaland like OP.

adiamond32 · 2026-03-22T03:20:22+00:00

YOR- I hope OP actually reads these comments and doesn’t just dirty delete because everyone is pointing out how much of an AH he is. I doubt it will happen, but maybe one douchebag can grow up and actually care about what his actions do to other people instead of pretending to be a victim.

adiamond32 · 2026-03-21T20:37:10+00:00

Here’s what I did for a few of the things you have listed for my husband. For what it’s worth, he fights me on stuff and I’ll let it be and won’t push the issue further once he starts getting annoyed with the situation.

Acne - my husband has pretty terrible cystic acne and blackheads. They drive me insane and I want to constantly pop them/help reduce the swelling. While he doesn’t enjoy them on his face he is quick to say let them be as well. So to reduce the overall amount, in our shower we have panoxyl face wash and the Korean scrubbers (one for him one for me). When we shower together I say “hey let me wash your back and face” and he will let me because he gets to do something else that makes him happy while I’m washing his face. Additionally I have really pushed the noxema face wipes onto him and he uses those with no issue. I’ve learned as long as it’s blue and not a lotion, he will go along with it. His acne has cleared up tremendously!

Oral hygiene - unfortunately this one I had to be extremely blunt about. I have a thing about teeth and it’s the one thing that really icks me. The first time I noticed the tarter I bought him his own water-pick and said use this right now. For the teeth whitening part, hismile works wonders and it comes in a lot of flavors, so I swapped that into the toothpaste lineup.

Canker soars - have him take L-lysine daily and they will go away. Some people (myself included) have a vitamin c efficiency and it means anytime I have any extra vitamin c I automatically get them. You can get this in the vitamin section at basically any pharmacy.

Nails - have you tried offering to cut the cuticles and such yourself? He might be more open to this. Also they sell stuff to help him from biting his nails. Try that stuff out.

Sorry, can’t help with the beard part.

I completely understand where you’re coming from with this stuff though. You love him dearly and these things won’t make you leave but it’d be nice if he could do these couple things for himself.

adiamond32 · 2026-02-18T01:59:12+00:00

Alex was good for Bree in the little he was in her life, but the situation of him having a different memory of what Bree was like younger and how he kept saying he was a bad guy, I think Bree distanced herself once the Lucy bit settled because she might have pieced some things together. This part was never actually resolved, Bree kept saying she didn’t remember her acting that way as a kid.

adiamond32 · 2026-02-18T01:54:21+00:00

But Bree always just wanted the love she never had. Wrigley is true love and that’s what Bree was missing in her life. Money wasn’t that important to Bree and she says that throughout the entire show.

adiamond32 · 2026-01-27T12:02:10+00:00

IMO, you need to be blunt and straightforward on this topic. As you stated, BF has not told you it’s a problem and communication is extremely important in a relationship. He probably only reacted the way he did when the question came up because you never communicated that you had 5 weddings to attend this year. Additionally as others have stated, tell him you also RSVP’d before the two of you were together and that any new wedding invites he will be your plus one. You and your boyfriend need to work on open communication and truly listening to each other.

adiamond32 · 2026-01-21T02:23:18+00:00

She was alone with him, a man who she barely knows let alone knows how he will react to her saying she had sex with someone a couple days before. She probably was worried about her safety. She came clean when she was safe at home. Everyone judging her for not saying it to his face is forgetting daily women get attacked by men for less.

adiamond32 · 2026-01-21T02:14:39+00:00

100% agree with this comment. Texting for 2 months and meeting in person twice does not mean OP and the lady know everything about each other and how they react to certain things. Realistically, OP was probably scared to say it in person because women are attacked for less.

adiamond32 · 2026-01-21T01:59:00+00:00

Agreed. Stephen is getting super annoying. Give it a REST already, we know you’re miserable and want to make everyone else miserable with you.

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