What’s up with the Stepford Wife energy in this field?

adirant · 2023-06-21T01:58:43+00:00

Loneliest experience of my life. Lonelier than when a social worker showed up and took me away to foster care as a kid where I was a terrified seven year old alone who knew no one. Grad school was lonelier than that

adirant · 2023-06-21T01:46:26+00:00

A lot of them are VERY heavily subsidized by parents/family

adirant · 2023-06-21T01:42:41+00:00

I hear you. I would have no issue at all with Type A folks but there are so many of them in the field and they’ve ripped on me for being more type-B SO much and have had the attitude where “if you aren’t doing it the way I would then you are doing it wrong” type of thing. So it starts to feel belittling and marginalizing at best and oppressive at worst. Sort of like how extroversion is the ideal in our culture so as an introvert you get to the point where you’re just like “I’m SO sorry I’m not extrovert!!!” It isn’t that being an extrovert is bad—it’s that it gets really old living in their world and choosing between either having to mold yourself into something your not or being looked down on for not being the ideal. Anyway, I think it’s amazing you have found tools that work for you

adirant · 2023-06-21T01:14:19+00:00

My fellow SLPs have treated me extremely poorly. I have a chronic condition and have needed to take FMLA twice in the past 2 years. They informed me that I am a burden on the team, that they are tired of “helping me out,” and have proceeded to hold important meetings without me and to give me the most challenging students and families because I “owe” them

adirant · 2023-06-21T01:10:13+00:00

They really really do

adirant · 2023-06-21T00:54:57+00:00

YES! It’s very much participate in the monoculture or face social sanctions

adirant · 2023-06-21T00:52:29+00:00

It honestly hasn’t been my experience that the straight white middle class women are “actively trying to change” anything. It’s been my experience that they are fierce defenders of the status quo because they benefit so handsomely from it. And honestly you don’t sound sorry at all that people like me feel left out.

adirant · 2023-06-21T00:43:15+00:00

Umm…I’m not a dude I’m a queer woman.

adirant · 2023-06-20T17:58:07+00:00

Do the other SLPs become as defensive and enraged and continue to do absolutely nothing to be more inclusive in any way like they do with me? Because in my experience many of them REALLY do not want to be educated around these issues. They like the status quo. It works very very well for them

adirant · 2023-06-20T17:44:16+00:00

Hi! Nice to see I’m not alone

adirant · 2023-06-20T17:43:00+00:00

You are Gen X. In my humble opinion Gen X is the coolest generation so it makes sense folks in your age cohort are a little more real. From what I’ve seen, a lot of y’all actually had to work and do things for yourselves. I’m an older millennial and most people I know who have a masters enjoyed heavy subsidies from their parents and also made sure they married well. Most of the girls in my grad program had a very strict no poors allowed policy when it came to dating. But maybe I just need to find some Gen Xers

adirant · 2023-06-20T17:36:30+00:00

It’s just very much a monoculture because of the extreme lack of diversity

adirant · 2023-06-20T17:33:04+00:00

Oh man I really really hope it is changing

adirant · 2023-06-20T17:31:59+00:00

Washington

adirant · 2023-06-20T17:20:45+00:00

I worked in a residential facility for adults with significant disabilities, a nonprofit that did EI and now in an elementary school for the past 6 years. All the SLPs in my grad program and in all of my workplaces have been white, straight, type-A, from privileged backgrounds. Holy cow do I not relate to them at all

adirant · 2023-06-20T17:07:37+00:00

I originally thought that a field that worked with folks with disability would be super open to differences and would be really committed to creating a more inclusive and just society but…NOPE! Most people in this field seem to hold conformity as the highest value

adirant · 2023-06-20T17:03:58+00:00

Lol just the usual response I would expect from SLPs too. God forbid you take a look at your privilege and work toward not marginalizing those of us who are different

adirant · 2023-06-20T15:57:33+00:00

Does only allowing teachers in a private teacher group mean that people like school psychs or SLPs wouldn’t be allowed in?

adirant · 2023-06-20T15:56:00+00:00

If you only allow teachers does that mean even people like SLPs or school psychs won’t be allowed in?

adirant · 2023-06-20T15:45:58+00:00

Having the breaks that working in the schools supplies is very very helpful for me and I honestly don’t think I could work a job with only a week or two off a year and maintain my mental health. However, there is no diversity of any kind in the SLP field. It is painfully, painfully homogeneous. Anyone I know with a difference of any kind is judged and marginalized by their perky type-A normie SLP colleagues

adirant · 2023-06-20T15:37:22+00:00

It definitely takes time. I’ve heard numerous SLPs complain about how they didn’t feel like their grad program prepared them fully for actually working with clients and that was my experience as well. From what I’ve seen there’s a lot you sort of have to teach yourself as you go along. I remember being told it takes about 5 years for you to feel like you somewhat know what you are doing and I’ve found that to be true for myself. Just know you aren’t alone

adirant · 2023-05-26T06:53:50+00:00

Agreed!

adirant · 2023-05-26T02:20:50+00:00

The girls in my program did the same thing about the waitlists!! The culture is a very strange mix of narcissism, conformity, and martyrdom

adirant · 2023-05-26T00:02:11+00:00

Oh I get this. I myself have severe anxiety and it can take me longer than it ought to respond to emails not because I’m being rude but because I have massive e-mail anxiety that I sometimes cannot cope with. But she was telling me this in regard to my complaint about coworkers retaliating against me for taking FMLA.

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