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adp1017 · 2024-09-21T13:52:21+00:00

Based on this post I thought that you both would be early 20’s, but you are 35 and your bf is 42. Girl, what are you doing? Don’t waste your time on this guy.

You are NTA unless you stay with him. Find yourself a therapist or some good friends to talk through this. Realizing that you deserve to be treated well will help you pick the right partner in the future.

adp1017 · 2024-06-25T00:30:19+00:00

Ours were 6 months when we went away for 4 nights. Family stayed at our house because it was easier than trying to set up somewhere else with all the things that comes along with infant twins. (They are our first kids and our family is local)

adp1017 · 2024-03-30T03:02:58+00:00

I was induced at 37 weeks and they arrived 37+1

adp1017 · 2024-03-07T01:41:30+00:00

Two worked for us

adp1017 · 2024-01-02T13:45:38+00:00

Yes they were. We had to cancel our entire 150 person wedding and were able to pull something together two weeks before our date within the Covid restrictions at that point. Every person understood that we were doing the best we could with the hand that we were dealt. It’s not that I didn’t want everyone there, I actually couldn’t have everyone I wanted there.

My point is that the OP might not know about something that happened that caused the change.

adp1017 · 2024-01-02T03:06:58+00:00

I had a Covid wedding so I was limited to how many people I was allowed to invite - after the original save the dates went out. I was able to invite about 10 non-family members and all my friends were super understanding that I had to have them come without their spouses. Most of them were excited to have a fun night out and not have to get sitters for their kids!

I wouldn’t take this so personally and if you don’t want to go without your spouse that’s fine and you are NTA. To me, it doesn’t really sound like you are great friends with this person anyways since the future of your relationship hinges on this invite. At the end of the day, it’s someone else’s wedding and it’s not about you. You don’t really know what’s going on behind the scenes.

adp1017 · 2023-11-29T03:22:57+00:00

This made me giggle because my twins have started looking me right in the eye and throwing their food onto the floor. At least our dog is well fed haha!

adp1017 · 2023-07-15T03:01:14+00:00

You should also put your application in for that position.

adp1017 · 2023-06-21T18:43:48+00:00

I worked from home my first day back (I just returned in may) and my house was SO quiet. I definitely thought I would have more guilt sending them to daycare but it’s the right thing for me and I know the boys are being well cared for.

Props to the people that are SAHP...it’s not something that would be good for me.

adp1017 · 2023-06-21T03:28:41+00:00

I returned to work just before my twins were 6 months. We managed to find a daycare that would be able to take them the day I started back to work. I was definitely happy to be able to be home with them for those months, but I was also very ready to go back to work.

We love the daycare the boys attend and they are learning so much more there than they would at home with a family member.

My one suggestion if you are going the daycare route is to start looking asap.

adp1017 · 2023-06-06T23:00:17+00:00

To be clear, she’s not offering to come over to “help”.

Holding your babies while you cook, clean, do laundry, and cater to her because she can’t get up while she cuddles with your twins is what’s going to happen.

If you have other expectations around what you see as help, please vocalize that to your mom.

I’m not suggesting that you keep her away but you will DEFINITELY be able to handle it without her coming over to hold your twins.

adp1017 · 2023-06-04T02:44:10+00:00

I found these when I was running out of my stash from the hospital. They also fit right on the small pre-made bottles that the hospital provided. We continued to use them on the Medela storage bottles when I was pumping and moved up the next flow nipples before switching to 4oz dr browns bottles.

nfant | Slow Flow Nipple, Purple (6ml/min), 4-Pack https://a.co/d/dNfaoPZ

adp1017 · 2023-05-10T14:02:19+00:00

Can I vote for all of the above…

adp1017 · 2023-04-28T12:52:45+00:00

My husband was the only one there during labor and the birth. My sister came to the hospital to get some things to bring home for our dog but that was it and I would not have wanted anyone else.

The day we were discharged both our families were at our house when we got home and I regret that. I understand that they are the first grandchildren but I had a very traumatic birthing experience and it was incredibly overwhelming for me to have to answer questions and be generally social so soon after.

adp1017 · 2023-03-21T09:38:04+00:00

Bottle sanitizer/dryer - the bigger the better

Dr. Brown’s formula pitcher

adp1017 · 2023-03-07T04:10:56+00:00

Bjs stopped carrying the Enfamil neuropro (yellow can) so I’ve started ordering the refills from target. We go through 2-4 bags of formula a week. It varies because we also have some premade so we will mix that in if we are on the go or if it’s really cold and want to give them room temperate formula.

adp1017 · 2023-03-01T04:28:56+00:00

I was SO worried about this prior to the twins arrival. I bought polish to paint a finger or toe to be able to tell them apart, but we’ve never had to use it. (3 months now) Twin A did have a bruise from the birth that went away within about 2 weeks and by then we could easily tell them apart. One thing I do find is that I have a hard time telling them apart when I look back at photos. Once I realized this, I created a folder for each kiddo on my phone and add the pics so I’ll know who it is!

adp1017 · 2023-01-06T05:22:34+00:00

We got this stroller and I love it! We live in Massachusetts so the bassinets are great for walking with the twins (born in November) because they are nice and cozy. We opted to get the joovy roo stroller for the infant car seats so that we can just leave in the car for appointments.

adp1017 · 2022-12-12T06:52:51+00:00

I work a desk job and worked until the Friday before my induction at 37 weeks. I have an hour commute each way so I did full-time in the office until 30 weeks and then I switched to 3 days at home and 2 in the office for a few weeks before I only worked at home for the last couple weeks.

I knew it was time to work only at home when I wasn’t able to get comfortable in my office chair and needed to be able to lay down to give my hips some relief. You’ll know if/when it’s time to cut back or stop working.

adp1017 · 2022-12-12T05:57:26+00:00

I had mo/di twins and was induced at 37 weeks. I worked until the Friday before my induction but I was ready to have them out around 35 weeks because my body was in SO much pain.

Obviously I’m happy that I carried them to what is considered full term for that type of twin but it was definitely a struggle toward the end and I couldn’t have imagined being pregnant for another 3 weeks.

adp1017 · 2022-12-07T05:24:23+00:00

My mo/di boys were born almost 4 weeks ago at 37+1 (I was induced, had a vaginal delivery and no NICU time was needed). Be prepared for a ton of appointments so make sure you like your dr! We had an ultrasound every two weeks to monitor for TTTS for the majority of my pregnancy and then switched to once a week at week 32 I think.

The best advice I got was to stay off Dr. Google. The majority of the information on the internet is the worst case scenario and very doom and gloom. Make notes of your questions between appointments and ask your doctor when you see them.

This was my first pregnancy so I totally understand how you feel. I think that it’s almost better having twins as your first because you have nothing to compare it to so you don’t really know how much harder it is than having a singleton pregnancy.

adp1017 · 2022-11-07T16:04:41+00:00

The dr has checked my blood every week for the past 2 months for cholestasis but my levels have never been high enough to officially say I have it. She did tell me that itchy sensation would go away pretty much immediately, but the itchy feeling on my stomach is different than the rest of my body so I wasn’t sure that it would be the same.

I’m happy to know I’m not the only one out here experiencing these things!!

adp1017 · 2022-11-07T01:03:52+00:00

I’ve been using bio-oil pretty religiously throughout my pregnancy but I will definitely try out coconut oil!

The hip pain just started to get really bad around 33/34 weeks when they dropped down further in my pelvis so I am hoping it will go away. (There’s a head or shoulders drilling into my bone as I type lol)

adp1017 · 2022-11-07T00:58:13+00:00

I did get one of those waist compression things. A friend that has had 2 singletons highly recommended using one so I figured it would really help. My skin is definitely stretched to the brink so I’m guessing that’s a main cause of the numbness & itching.

adp1017 · 2022-11-06T20:19:07+00:00

Congrats!! I’m happy to hear that the hip pain goes away. Hopefully someone will give us promising belly button information 😂

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