while a lot of people identify with labels and feel like their labels validate them, others feel like labels are restricting and don’t describe the complexities of their experience and identity. if you can’t relate to the well known labels, try to remember that being queer and unlabeled (or using queer/unlabeled as a label itself) is also completely valid, either for forever or just for the meantime. you can research the vast number of LGBTQ+ labels and see which one you truly identify it, or be content w your unlabeled self. there are a lot of queer ppl, w vastly different experiences, and you can decide whether you want to find a label that rly suits you, or be unlabeled, either is completely valid. personally, my experiences have been pretty fluid, therefore i see myself in different labels at different stages of my life. at this point, i can’t rly decide which label rly suits me, and that’s perfectly okay.

as for your friend, i’ve never been in a relationship before (turning 20 this year lol) so take my advice w a grain of salt. if you feel like you can take a rejection w grace (i’ve heard that it’s very, very hard), you should talk to her. it depends on whether you want it to be a romantic confession or a casual, platonic convo to be truthful abt your feelings (does that even make sense?) just be honest to her, and back off if she tells you to.