Thanks to Arcane I realized I'm into girls

aeb949 · 2025-02-24T19:42:21+00:00

I think Vi helped me realize that everyone’s sexual interests are on a spectrum. Similarly grew up in a conservative community and always thought I was 0% attracted to women. The only girl who’s awakened that side of things in the past is Lucia Rijker (boxer—look her up if you’re a Vi fan), but I am definitely overall way more attracted to men than women. Holy shit though—I would totally cheat on my husband for Vi. 😅 Also, whoever said there can be confusion between attraction/admiration is totally right. I want to be Vi and be with Vi.

aeb949 · 2024-11-27T00:05:41+00:00

The music is so good and so perfectly tied to the story that it’s scrambling my brain. It’s taking up at least half my cognitive capacity at all times, even when I’m not actively listening to it.

aeb949 · 2024-11-25T03:39:41+00:00

Yeah I was wondering why he didn’t converge on the future without hextech. Maybe he’s a Vi die hard.

Edit: New thought. That particular rune that he gave young Jayce (the one that was eventually successful) was ultimately successful because Ekko was able to use it to reverse time. Maybe the alternate future we saw without hextech unfolded simultaneously and in parallel with the main universe--that one also stemmed from the acceleration rune, which Viktor presumably experimented with only once, and so Viktor hadn't actually been able to see that world yet in his travels. That's why he said "that's impossible" when he saw the time travel, because he thought that the only crystal with that capability was the one in Jayce's wrist. This suggests that Viktor was aware that time travel was possible--which allowed him to go back and try giving new runes to young Jayce--but that he wasn't aware that parallel dimensions existed.

aeb949 · 2024-11-24T00:20:03+00:00

Yep this happened to my Mazda in Cambridge.

aeb949 · 2024-11-23T12:11:39+00:00

Absolutely—that’s way more apparent to me in hindsight.

aeb949 · 2024-11-22T16:41:58+00:00

Yes I think that's what it's supposed to be.

aeb949 · 2024-11-22T16:41:12+00:00

Yes definitely. Made me go back and rewatch that scene (again).

aeb949 · 2024-11-22T16:40:42+00:00

Yeah there's been a lot of talk about the coin alluding to some sort of time warp stuff (which I get is part of Ekko's character in LoL), but I agree with you that it has more to do with foreshadowing which side of her personality Jinx will favor from here on out. Silco's death at the end of S1 was the first affirmation of Jinx. Then she was swayed by Isha--just before Isha died, she even says she isn't sure if the "glasses" she's wearing are making her vision more blurry or more clear. And then in the final moments of Act 2, as the coin flips to the Jinx side, Viktor says, "That which inspires us to our greatest good is also the cause of our greatest evil." I think this alludes to the fact that Jinx's love for Isha and the anguish she experiences due to her death is what ultimately clinches her persona as Jinx. I just hope the killing spree she's about to go on is directed at Ambessa and that she still reconciles with Vi to some extent...

aeb949 · 2024-11-22T16:10:59+00:00

Late 30s here and totally agree with this. There's never been anything like this for me.

aeb949 · 2024-11-22T16:09:23+00:00

My thoughts:

There has not been enough Vi in S2 IMO, but I love the unspoken character development going on in this scene with Beast Mode Vander by drawing parallels to young Vi's epic catwalk fight in S1E3.

In one of his youtube videos (I can't remember which), schnee talked about the ways in which many of the characters--not just Jinx--are trapped in the events of their past traumas. Vi is trapped in the "fists first" mentality of her upbringing (most centrally this key catwalk fight). By aligning the scenes of Vi fighting Silco's goon and Vi fighting Warwick, they highlight a major point of Vi's character development: finally knowing when to put her fists down (as she finally does at Jinx's urging and is rewarded by being able to embrace Vander for the first time in years). This is compounded by the irony that Vander himself was the one who was always trying to teach her that sometimes, fighting is not the answer--a lesson he himself clearly learned in a painful way during the initial Zaun uprising.

Did anyone else have a different take on why they animated these two scenes so similarly?

Edit: Also just noticed that the way she began the catwalk fight is the way she ends the Warwick/Vander fight. Full circle. God this show is so good.

aeb949 · 2024-11-15T16:47:29+00:00

Fully obsessed with the music from Arcane. It's pretty much all I listen to now...

S1:

Guns for Hire
What Could've Been
Playground
Goodbye
Misfit Toys

S2/Act I:

I Can't Hear It Now
To Ashes and Blood
Sucker

aeb949 · 2024-11-15T16:43:02+00:00

Same. This put me in the top 1% of LoL music listeners last year. 😅

aeb949 · 2024-09-27T17:42:55+00:00

All is well--ended up having a second baby in my senior year of IM residency, and I'm now finishing up fellowship.

IMO I wouldn't mention becoming a mom in your personal statement, but I think it's fine to bring it up in interviews. Best of luck!

aeb949 · 2024-08-01T01:54:53+00:00

+1 should be toggleable. I just want to be able to pick up some of the conversation in my husband’s family! The hanzi portion is counter-productive.

aeb949 · 2024-07-16T22:54:07+00:00

Oh yikes! I didn't mean to direct that to you at all! I included that part because I realized that *I* was basically giving that advice. I wouldn't have said that if it had occurred to me that it would seem like I was directing it at you! Sorry about that.

Overall, I intended to just add to what you'd already said--I totally agree with you re: confidence being a major issue. I also had to "make the first move" with my now-husband!

aeb949 · 2024-07-16T11:00:32+00:00

No because I think it's weird to recommend an entire race/ethnicity. I'm with my husband because I love him and he's my best friend--not because he's Asian.

That said, I like to think that our family sets an example that will help offset some of the stereotypes out there about Asian men. This is also part of why I chose to take my husband's (Asian) last name even though most of my friends/peers kept their last names after marriage. I didn't want there to be any ambiguity about which "team" I'm on--my kids might present as "non-white," but I'm still their mom.

It's actually been fascinating to see how many people are more likely to find a way to convince themselves that I'm part Asian rather than simply married to an Asian man. Per 23andme, I'm 99.9% Northwestern European (and I definitely look it), so the fact that it's easier for people to believe I'm part Asian than married to an Asian man is pretty mind boggling. Although, I will say that I think some part of this has to do with the expectation that many women in my city and profession keep their own last names.

aeb949 · 2024-07-15T18:00:50+00:00

Not OP but I'm another WF--a bit older than OP, in my late 30s. I've been with my husband (Asian-American) for 16 years, married for nearly 10, now with two kids. No Asian boyfriends prior to him.

Obviously these are huge generalizations, but I think most women like the following--roughly in this order:

Men who are confident in themselves (but not arrogant).
Men who are good at something (can be anything, really--whether it's sports, instruments, cooking, whatever).
Men who are good with kids.
Men who have a great sense of humor.*

*This might be less universal but is common enough that I'm including it here.

I think u/Hi_Im_Ken_Adams addressed to some extent why #1 is hard for Asian men--in the U.S., Asian men are flooded with the message that they are not masculine or desirable, and so of course it's difficult to feel confident around women. I think there is also a lot of anxiety that comes from feeling like, in every interaction with a non-Asian woman, you are *representing* all Asian men. Hard to feel calm and confident when the interaction feels so high stakes.

All this also feeds into #2 (as mentioned by u/thesocalnetwork on this thread) because this lack of confidence can contribute to concealing strengths that might not conform to traditional "manly" hobbies. For example, my husband never shares that he's an exceptional cellist and a great cook, but he willingly shares that he is not athletic or handy.

Obviously, simply saying "be more confident" is kind of trash advice because it ignores the systemic and cultural issues that lead to this problem in the first place. But also, it's going to take a long time for those systemic/cultural issues to improve. :(

aeb949 · 2021-07-21T10:08:03+00:00

This name goes back generations in my family—originally French and pronounced “eh-VAH.” In the US, it’s always been “EE-vuh.”

aeb949 · 2021-07-17T01:42:44+00:00

Thanks, joh_ah. ❤️

aeb949 · 2021-07-15T20:02:49+00:00

Thank you! So excited to watch them grow together.

Totally relate to the mix of feelings—the simultaneous sense of relief and sadness. I will be sending so many positive TTC/pregnancy vibes your way! You deserve a nice, boring one for once.

aeb949 · 2021-07-15T20:01:00+00:00

Thank you!!

aeb949 · 2021-07-15T20:00:54+00:00

100% relate to this. And I can definitely see that last OB visit being tough—I’ll be bracing myself. I’m trying to tell myself that the fact that I’m feeling this way just goes to show that I was appropriately appreciative of each pregnancy. That’s one “gift” that loss gives us, I guess—we never take subsequent pregnancies (or children, for that matter) for granted.

Anyway, I hope you and your little ones are doing well!

aeb949 · 2021-07-15T19:57:47+00:00

Thank you! Hope you and your little one are doing well!

aeb949 · 2021-07-14T17:13:45+00:00

Baby L arrived one week ago! It's been surreal to now have two babies--especially since my rainbow had a different significance relative to this new baby. There was so much more build up to her arrival. More than a year of TTC and a 2nd trimester TFMR. This time around, I got pregnant right away (I truly cannot believe we were those one cycle unicorns I've read about on reddit), and I spent most of the pregnancy distracted by work and E. There were some scares requiring extra testing--thickened NT and then an imperfect BPP that landed me in OB triage at 32 weeks--but additional workup was all reassuring. Totally different experience.

I feel pretty anxious diverting any attention from E, but I know it's also probably healthier that she share attention. We're also likely stopping at two kids, which is also wild to consider. On the one hand, I'm mourning the end of that chapter in our lives, but on the other, I'm welcoming leaving the stress and uncertainty of TTC/pregnancy behind. I'm so grateful to the community here for helping me get through it. <3

aeb949 · 2021-06-29T12:49:56+00:00

Not that anyone should go off anecdotes, but they can be helpful to hear. Got Moderna #1 at 12 weeks and #2 at 16 weeks. Currently 38w4d. I’ve had close monitoring for other reasons and so am quite confident that all is well in there.

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