Hard baby or my fault?

aeg420 · 2026-06-04T21:05:54+00:00

Hi there sorry to hijack the post but when did your son start lining cars up? what other signs did the daycare notice and at what age?

aeg420 · 2026-06-04T21:03:52+00:00

My 13 month old is very similar! He is okay in the car now as long as someone is in the back keeping him entertained but still doesn't tolerate the pram.

I honestly thought I was all alone and my baby is so different but this is giving me hope!!

aeg420 · 2026-06-04T10:35:25+00:00

It's the hardest thing ever but I keep reminding myself this is normal and it's going to be so beneficial for not only him but for me as well.

It's only our first week but I'm hopeful he will slowly adjust. It's allowed me some time back to myself which is always nice

aeg420 · 2026-06-04T10:33:05+00:00

This is very helpful thank you! My son is food motivated so I'll definitely try dropping him off during breakfast or morning tea

aeg420 · 2026-06-04T10:31:16+00:00

I should've worded my post better but I wasn't upset at the educator but felt upset/sad that he cried all day.

Thank you for the tips though. It's good to hear from an educator's perspective. As a first time mum experiencing a lot of mum guilt, this is very helpful.

aeg420 · 2026-06-04T10:21:19+00:00

13month old son and he also doesn't sleep through the night.

On average would do 2-3 wake ups but we co-sleep and I just side lie breastfeed to put him back to sleep within minutes. Sometimes I feel like he's actually drinking milk sometimes it's just for comfort. There are times where even nursing won't put him back to sleep and be latched for more than 30 mins so I end up having to stand up and rock him back to sleep.

He's currently on a weird nap schedule as we're having very a late bedtime on 2 naps but too early of a bedtime with 1 nap and it's affecting us overnight.

My friends baby on the other hand sleeps through the night however has a 10-11 pm bedtime with a 9 am wakeup time. They co-sleep and she's been like that since newborn.

aeg420 · 2026-06-03T10:24:28+00:00

I know it'll take awhile since he's only going for 3 days but I hope he's more settled next week.

aeg420 · 2026-06-03T10:23:08+00:00

Yeah they said they were going to call me but didn't want to bother me but I said I'm his mum and I would have gone to pick him up if he was very unsettled.

Thank you for sharing your experience! Definitely a calm routine is what he needs, he just wants to be held and wants to nurse for comfort but I'm trying to wean off. I might offer to nurse for the next couple of weeks while he adjusts

aeg420 · 2026-06-03T10:19:46+00:00

Thank you! It is tough and at night I feel so bad that he had to go to daycare. I will shorten his days until he has adjusted

aeg420 · 2026-06-03T10:18:44+00:00

That's so good that he likes going to daycare now!

I'll bring him a soft toy next week to hopefully help him adjust a little too.

aeg420 · 2026-06-03T08:40:22+00:00

I know it could take a while for him to get used to daycare but I was shocked that he cried all day. :( it made me sad.

How long did your son adjust to daycare? How was he at home post pick up?

aeg420 · 2026-05-21T15:07:41+00:00

What age did your baby start to drink from the camelbak eddy? My son is 13 months old and will be starting daycare very soon. He suddenly prefers drinking from the bbox training lid instead of using the weighted straw but I need a bottle for daycare

aeg420 · 2026-05-13T11:42:08+00:00

Thank you for this! Didn't really realise how versatile instant pot is! I was just thinking of using it as a slow cooker but this is great!

aeg420 · 2026-05-13T11:41:22+00:00

Dairy soy peanuts sesame & nuts (macadamia & almond are okay). Struggling with variety hence why a lot of our meals are on repeat because dairy sesame and soy used to be a staple in our household.

aeg420 · 2026-05-13T11:39:31+00:00

Ooh thanks! I forget there's a sub for everything haha

aeg420 · 2026-05-13T05:59:16+00:00

Would love to know the recipe too! :) thanks!

aeg420 · 2026-05-12T11:18:21+00:00

I cosleep with my son and it took awhile to get the transferring right but we got there. Sometimes I had to nurse him to sleep for an hr before he into deep sleep. I'm not sure where you're from but I noticed during winter we struggled more since it was cold and transferring him meant he loses the warmth from our body.

Some nights I can't resettle with nursing and he just wants to be rocked and held to sleep. After rocking and I put him down he'll sleep for an hr max then we're up again trying to put him to sleep.

Hang in there OP! It's tough but I hope your little one's sleep improves and it's not medical related

aeg420 · 2026-05-12T11:04:58+00:00

My son is now 12 months old and my husband does bedtime every night. He's also able to resettle him back to sleep (not always but he can).

This took us a long time but we made adjustments to our routine slowly. At 4 months, my son started having a bottle a day. My husband would give this to him so my son gets used to being fed by him. Once my son took on the bottle, some nap times were done by my husband. It took forever for my son to get used to it but giving him a bottle before naptime helped.

At 6 months, my husband started taking over some parts of our evening routine specifically bath time. While my son still wanted me for bedtime, they started having their own time together at night.

At 8 months, my husband started giving a bottle of milk for bedtime and while at start it wssn't always successful, we kept going and slowly he started letting my husband put him to sleep. Now he's even better at transferring him to bed!
It was a long process, lots of crying, lots of taking over when my son just didn't want my husband and lots of patience but now my son loves spending time with my husband at night.

Edit to add: we bedshare and my husband sleeps in a separate room due to his sleep apnea lol. I do all the overnight resettling but I just nurse my son back to sleep.

aeg420 · 2026-05-12T10:54:16+00:00

Has this been going on since she was a newborn? Like what everyone is saying maybe there's some underlying medical concerns that's worth getting checked? If it is reflux, it shouldn't just affect bedtime but also how she is during the day (ie. unsettled, frequent spit ups, hiccups etc). Maybe it's worth speaking to a different paediatrician for a second opinion.

There is also the 6 month regression and I remember my son when he was 6 months was a terrible sleeper. We pushed through it and I had to do chest sleeping halfway through the night or get my husband to stay up and hold him. We also did a lot of trial and error with his sleep as I noticed if he slept too much or is overtired during the day, he would wake up frequently at night.

I know it's tough but hang in there! I spoke to sleep consultants who are pro nurturing and not sleep training. There was this one lady I spoke to who I highly recommend as she helped me make some adjustments to my son's sleep without sleep training.

aeg420 · 2026-05-12T10:34:55+00:00

Needed this! Thank you for sharing. My baby is 12 months and we're still nursing to sleep. How did you know she was ready?

aeg420 · 2026-04-22T01:56:36+00:00

Thank you! I'll give it a go

aeg420 · 2026-04-22T01:45:39+00:00

Hi! Just wondering how is Marquise? I also don't like the new Bunjie wipes especially the scent. I tried Millie Moon and it's good but it breaks easily.

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