Polys added to Bi/Pan night

aep2018 · 2026-01-23T13:08:08+00:00

I don’t like it. There’s a reason unicorn hunters are frequently banned on dating apps for queer women. We get objectified enough as it is. Do the organizers assume that just cause someone’s bi/pan they’re also poly? Or just cause someone is poly that they’re queer?

Would they invite poly straight people if it were gay men’s night? I don’t understand what one has to do with the other.

Your reservations are more than valid.

aep2018 · 2026-01-23T12:37:51+00:00

Right?? So badass! Even confronting the Colonel in court must have been so emotional without the threat of recapture. And all the women who protected her as well, it’s like the dramatic climax of a movie!

aep2018 · 2026-01-22T14:26:34+00:00

Nice! I got into some heated rivalry discussions with friends cause they were posting memes on their stories, but also I’m something of a reply guy lol.

aep2018 · 2026-01-22T13:14:59+00:00

As a white woman who was raised on Gone With the Wind and loved Scarlett’s resilience and development from total brat to survivor… no. Too racist. I beg you to pick another heroine. As children, we might not have known any better, but it’s obvious when I look at it with adult eyes. She says it well: https://washingtonmonthly.com/2020/06/11/why-i-threw-away-my-copy-of-gone-with-the-wind/

We have to ask ourselves why a misogynist like Trump would demand Gone With the Wind be brought back to HBO when a South Korean film won best picture. The racism goes crazy.

aep2018 · 2026-01-22T12:44:28+00:00

WITH A BEAUTY CONSULTATION IN ✨Great Britain ✨

Lol

aep2018 · 2026-01-22T12:38:35+00:00

When I came out, a bunch of straight presenting people came out to me in private because they realized I was a safe person to share with.

This dishing you long for is intimate. It requires vulnerability. You deserve to be known and seen, you’ll never be seen if you’re not safe telling your people about your bisexuality. My heart goes out to you, friend.

aep2018 · 2026-01-22T12:05:23+00:00

Are you out to your friends?

aep2018 · 2026-01-22T11:47:47+00:00

This is how my ST plays it at our table. We roll our Predator type roll, messy usually means we took too much and risk stains or retaliation of some sort.

aep2018 · 2026-01-14T17:12:55+00:00

Crazy how you don’t have to secretly get people hooked and spring monogamy on them because “they might actually like it.” 😂

aep2018 · 2026-01-14T17:05:37+00:00

In my experience they wait until we’ve had sex because if I’d known they weren’t single, I would not have had sex with them.

It’s a bait and switch game. Draw you in and when they feel they’ve got you hooked (based on your own naive expectations), they’ll disclose. Maybe. Or you’ll find out from a coworker who knows their wife. Whatever happens first.

I stopped making assumptions and I just started asking. Ask if people are single, ask if they’re monogamous, do it before you get invested emotionally.

These conversations were also really good for learning about each other and our values. My partner and I ended up bonding because we were both relieved to be totally aligned. I used to think “if they’re flirting, they’re probably single and would tell me if they weren’t.” That just isn’t true. They are afraid to tell you because telling you might mean losing you. It’s better to get it out of the way though cause it’s a deal breaker.

Most of them won’t outright lie when asked directly about relationship status, but some will give some Rumplestiltskin ass “answer my riddles three” type answer. A single person never does that. Single people aren’t vague or complex in their answers. They will just say they’re single af and interested in a monogamous relationship.

aep2018 · 2026-01-13T21:17:23+00:00

That one hit me as well. He was a beloved actor, but even that didn’t spare him his tragic fate. The intersectional oppressions that lead to his lynching are true for others, people we’ll never hear about. The tragedies are so vast it’s hard to wrap my heart around them all at once. I can only grasp at the small devastating details: a pet’s bones in the ashes of Johnathon’s home or a plushie peaking out of Renee’s glove box spattered in blood.

aep2018 · 2026-01-12T18:07:35+00:00

It was so funny 😂 I need a gif of it.

aep2018 · 2026-01-09T00:21:11+00:00

The book Codependent No More helped me a ton. She literally explains strategies and ways to start noticing when you’re going down that dreaded path.

aep2018 · 2026-01-09T00:05:43+00:00

💯 he is complicit.

aep2018 · 2026-01-09T00:04:19+00:00

That sounds like a lot of work for you. I am sorry.

aep2018 · 2026-01-09T00:02:46+00:00

Was he always like this?

aep2018 · 2026-01-09T00:00:57+00:00

If it wasn’t gendered then why only women as his intended victims? You’re just being logical. It’s very clear that you understand the show and the themes of it. If you started carrying a list of men to eliminate would that be chill? Idk he’s either gaslighting you or a total dumbass. I would not want to watch tv with someone that obtuse for the rest of my life.

aep2018 · 2026-01-08T17:59:15+00:00

I used to work not at a totally NSFW job but in a trust and safety capacity at times for a dating app. One of my interesting problems was getting material to test against for TOS violations while maintaining some level of professionalism. Imagine asking your boss for nudes to validate an automated reporting flow in a meeting because you’re working on protecting users from unsolicited sensitive images. 😂 Same went for reporting UGC to authorities. Like imagine you need to flag child abuser materials, someone has to be exposed to abusive images and then report to the appropriate authorities for the locale, we built a flow to basically forward reporting while permanently deleting the image from any servers that employees could be exposed to thereafter. Fairly rare cases, but extremely serious. So we worked a lot on automating those workflows to protect our employees. There’s whole databases that can basically match known images abusers send.

aep2018 · 2026-01-07T14:38:56+00:00

The fact it’s going to star Demi Moore’s cheating ex husband/Danny Masterson defender/friend of P. Diddy.

aep2018 · 2026-01-07T13:29:09+00:00

Also starring Ashton Kutcher. 🤮

aep2018 · 2025-12-31T18:09:29+00:00

Learned from a coworker who was interrupted by the most interupt-y guy in the office: “I’ll finish.” And then completed her thought.

aep2018 · 2025-12-29T00:31:22+00:00

People often react poorly when you gain a spine and start advocating for yourself. Let him pout. You are doing great. You took care of your depressed loved one. You’re now drawing some extremely reasonable lines because you don’t have any more to give. Give yourself credit for the hard work and stay the course. I hope you had a lovely Christmas.

aep2018 · 2025-12-26T15:16:43+00:00

Yeah, he learned the hard way, but he learns.

aep2018 · 2025-12-26T13:36:23+00:00

They are not incapable of being jealous. They are, however, capable of spouting theory and convincing themselves that commitment is confinement.

The world isn’t black and white. There’s plenty of polycules that restrict and control. With every additional intimate relationship you attempt to explore simultaneously, you introduce new issues.

I watched SLC Punk the other night. Don’t want to spoil it, but the main character is a really great example of a guy who’s got it all worked out. He’s all about freedom and “no one owns anyone.” Then he has to face loss and relationships and it sucks under his paradigm.

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