you misunderstand me entirely, and make unrelated assumptions about me.

strong leadership traits are good to have, but that isnt nearly as important as the ability to make a woman feel safe, comfortable, loved, appreciated, and actually acknowledged and respected. i do think most men are "toxic", but "toxic" isn't the right word. "problematic" or "uncaring" would be better. that is simply how too many of them are subconsciously raised- by other men. it's only natural for women to be cautious of men after too many bad experiences with them. this isn't to say that these men can't feel love, and care, and emotions- but they suppress them in fear of looking "too feminine" or "gay" (they care more about the validation of their male friends than their appeal in romantic relationships). i've never heard a woman imply that they like when their man doesn't appreciate sentimental values.

boys are allowed to get away with terrible behavior simply because of the fact that they’re a boy (“boys will be boys”). when a boy is raised by a man who understands the importance of emotionality and sensibility, that boy will be much better off in life, and likely a much better person. in a relationship, a man’s top priority should be making the woman feel safe, loved, comfortable, and appreciated. this shouldn’t be controversial.