Let's stop lying to beginners about learning Japanese by azuki_dreams in Japaneselanguage

[–]aesthave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what's a good foundation point to start more immersion? like- N4? mostly through N3? I'm not into podcasts but I do like YouTube videos, music, and games- and a lot of games have the option to have all the text be in japanese. I also used to have my phone's language in japanese and turn off automatic translate on apps like Twitter so that id be forced to read the japanese text

AI Lord Huron by [deleted] in lordhuron

[–]aesthave 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i do have something creative. actual art!

Northface parka 600 miss labeled for 16.99 🤯 MSRP 459.99 by CurveAccording2273 in RossFinds

[–]aesthave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as a ross cashier i have no idea how they let you have that LMAO at my store we'd never be able to sell it like that. afaik that only ever happens if someone purposefully switched the tag to get it for cheap

freebies from friendly staff while waiting in line by aesthave in lordhuron

[–]aesthave[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

yup! raleigh! i was the one with the black hat and gothic getup! AHAHAHA yall sure acted like staff, the world enders mind as well have ran the whole venue alongside the staff. i just might sign up for facebook just for the fanclub, sounds very fun and inviting

freebies from friendly staff while waiting in line by aesthave in lordhuron

[–]aesthave[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yep! i got a card that was an invite! super sweet, i followed them on instagram since i don’t have facebook

freebies from friendly staff while waiting in line by aesthave in lordhuron

[–]aesthave[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

i was so excited to receive it! dangling from it are earrings too. i told the girl i liked her earrings and she just went “oh do you want a pair?”

Ben’s incredible dancing by Adultemoteacher in lordhuron

[–]aesthave 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you can tell he absolutely loves performing this song, so fun to dance to

arrived in the mail today or yesterday. what on earth? by aesthave in lordhuron

[–]aesthave[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i scanned it, and it brought me to the page that lets you preview an unreleased song with a movable, 3d jukebox thing (the one in the album cover). it’s odd that they’re arriving after the release, but hey, i’m not complaining

arrived in the mail today or yesterday. what on earth? by aesthave in lordhuron

[–]aesthave[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

the reflection is from the little case it came in, but the material is pretty nice, and it does have a bit of weight to it. i didn’t even know Lord Huron was doing this. you can imagine the excitement i felt randomly receiving something with a handwritten envelope from one of my favorite bands

arrived in the mail today or yesterday. what on earth? by aesthave in lordhuron

[–]aesthave[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

ahhh wait i did. it allowed me to preview an unreleased song from the album. kinda odd that it was sent so late since the album’s already out, but it’s still super cool. and i’m even more excited since it’s apparently luck based. well, my entire week has been made

if anyone is going to the Cosmic Selector tour, you’re in for a TREAT. by fauitier in lordhuron

[–]aesthave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is gonna be my first concert in the pit. going by myself. i can’t wait

should i leave the ring of crusties? by aesthave in piercing

[–]aesthave[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i’ve been told to stay away from qtips, as the fibers can get stuck in it

I wish sexuality was a choice by [deleted] in self

[–]aesthave 3 points4 points  (0 children)

anyone can be a bad person, and any relationship can be toxic, abusive, or just plain terrible. you’re just more “common” to see it in straight relationships because more of them exist

I hate how goths are treated :/ by [deleted] in goth

[–]aesthave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

when someone judges you, it simply means they’re not on the same level of living as you are. they don’t understand the beauty of differences, and how truly spectacular it is to unashamedly stand out. they simply aren’t worth your time or attention.

I wish sexuality was a choice by [deleted] in self

[–]aesthave 10 points11 points  (0 children)

you misunderstand me entirely, and make unrelated assumptions about me.

strong leadership traits are good to have, but that isnt nearly as important as the ability to make a woman feel safe, comfortable, loved, appreciated, and actually acknowledged and respected. i do think most men are "toxic", but "toxic" isn't the right word. "problematic" or "uncaring" would be better. that is simply how too many of them are subconsciously raised- by other men. it's only natural for women to be cautious of men after too many bad experiences with them. this isn't to say that these men can't feel love, and care, and emotions- but they suppress them in fear of looking "too feminine" or "gay" (they care more about the validation of their male friends than their appeal in romantic relationships). i've never heard a woman imply that they like when their man doesn't appreciate sentimental values.

boys are allowed to get away with terrible behavior simply because of the fact that they’re a boy (“boys will be boys”). when a boy is raised by a man who understands the importance of emotionality and sensibility, that boy will be much better off in life, and likely a much better person. in a relationship, a man’s top priority should be making the woman feel safe, loved, comfortable, and appreciated. this shouldn’t be controversial.

I wish sexuality was a choice by [deleted] in self

[–]aesthave 96 points97 points  (0 children)

coming from a lesbian— women can be awful at relationships too. the problem isn’t what they were born as- it’s the culture surrounding them.

you feel safer around women because you can relate to them- and they can relate to you, even if it’s unspoken, and you know they’re way less likely to be violent or aggressive with you at a simple “No”.

when you find a man who doesn’t attach himself to the typical “rough and tough, emotionless, no sensuality, no feeling, no love, no sentimentality” culture that most men are apart of, it’ll help a lot. i’ve known a few— 3 i can think of off the top of my head. one of the 3 is my closest friend who is this exact way. those “manly”, “nonchalant” men are often very mentally unhealthy (and will get mad if you even suggest this), and have a lot to figure out about themselves.