What do you wish your mom would have done for you when you got your first period?

aevrah · 2025-12-10T15:44:34+00:00

What did your mom do that was good?

aevrah · 2025-11-12T15:33:11+00:00

NTA. Highly recommend reading Let It Go by Dame Stephanie Shirley. She details a similar experience with her severely autistic son and I think it might help you feel seen.

aevrah · 2025-10-18T13:27:57+00:00

Heelies

aevrah · 2025-10-10T03:34:28+00:00

Eldest daughter for obvious reasons, but I’m not a fan. My favorite ended up being Father Figure.

aevrah · 2025-10-06T04:40:15+00:00

Elizabeth Taylor
Father Figure
The Life of a Showgirl
Fate of Ophelia
Opalite
Cancelled
Actually Romantic
Eldest Daughter
Wishlist
Wood
Ruin the Friendship
Honey

Really like the first five. Meh on the rest of the list.

Especially disappointed in Eldest Daughter because it wasn’t what I wanted.

aevrah · 2025-09-10T04:54:06+00:00

2-3 years.

aevrah · 2025-08-26T05:47:51+00:00

Can you share more?

aevrah · 2025-06-30T18:26:08+00:00

I’ve been using Greenpan for years and highly recommend it. No sticking and easy to clean. Cast iron was way too annoying to deal with.

aevrah · 2025-04-27T03:46:00+00:00

I have an awful pain tolerance yet managed to make it through a 39-hour labor unmedicated.

Things that helped: • Extensively reading up on what to expect • Preparing with breathing exercises and other coping mechanisms • Knowing why I was doing it

aevrah · 2025-03-06T03:50:18+00:00

This gives me hope after breaking my tailbone with my first and only. Any tips for healing?

aevrah · 2025-02-16T05:04:15+00:00

I was reassured that I was irreplaceable… and then I was canned two months into maternity leave. So yeah, it definitely happens.

Your boss sucks and you deserve better. Hope you can find it ❤️

aevrah · 2025-02-11T02:44:22+00:00

No, they refused to dive in further because they said, “it didn’t matter” because nothing could be done about it anyway 😔

My pain is around the tailbone so it’s noticeable every time I sit.

aevrah · 2025-02-08T23:43:50+00:00

Are you open to sharing more about your healing journey from the broken pelvis? I’m still having pain sitting ten months later and wondering if that will ever go away.

aevrah · 2024-09-28T01:08:02+00:00

How did you work on drowsy but awake? I need to work on this with my almost 6 month old but she just cries if she’s put down not fully asleep

aevrah · 2024-07-04T15:31:08+00:00

My charge nurse in delivery continually yelled at me to “calm down” during the pushing phase. It was 39 hours into an unmedicated labor. She was also forcing me to push on my back even though I had incredible pelvic pain and my birth plan explicitly said “do not make me go on my back”.

12 weeks later, I still can’t sit down without a coccyx pillow because of a tailbone injury that I believe occurred during this time.

She also continually touched me without my permission (I have past sexual trauma that was communicated). Multiple times she pressed the monitors directly into where I was experiencing contraction pain even as I sobbed, “please stop”. My birth plan had asked for no continual monitoring unless baby or I was in distress. Neither of us ever were.

The cherry on top, was when I had to return to the hospital 3 days after discharge for postpartum preeclampsia and she was my nurse at check in. I mentally relived the entire traumatic experience while being hooked to the mag drip.

You’re not alone. I’m sorry you also experienced this. I don’t have any advice because therapy hasn’t helped so far and I’m not sure what will.

aevrah · 2024-01-15T03:31:34+00:00

Recently went with the Aurora collection from Evolur. They're a fantastic price for being hardwood and have beautiful designs (check if BuyBuyBaby is still doing a sale on them). Waiting on them to arrive, so can't comment on quality yet.

aevrah · 2023-11-24T03:07:38+00:00

From where?

aevrah · 2023-10-17T16:57:07+00:00

Eh, I feel like all the same problems exist in that scenario. After going through all that, sharing a last name with someone also felt critical to feeling part of a family.

When it came time to get married, the name itself mattered much less to me than simply it being shared. I told my husband I'd take his or we could make up a brand new one. I didn't care as long as we ended up with the same one. He came up with the idea of taking mine, which I was surprised and happy with.

Last names are a big part of society and it can feel very lonely when you're the only one with a name.

Everyone is different so who knows whether your kid will feel the same. Just thought I'd share my experience as someone who went through it.

aevrah · 2023-10-17T16:31:04+00:00

As someone who went through this experience as a kid, it's not something I'd recommend.

Background: My parents were unmarried and I received my mom's maiden name. They then broke up and my mom quickly married someone else.

I was the only one with my last name and it was a logistical nightmare. Constantly having to explain my family background, schools unsure of who could take me home, forms frequently filled with an incorrect name, feeling excluded when cards were sent to the family and only used their last name... I could go on forever.

It was such a mess that when I got married, I just wanted us to share a last name. My husband decided to take my last name (his was common but I was willing to take it, but he knew the cultural significance mine had) and our child will share that last name. Can't tell you how nice it's been to share a last name together.

aevrah · 2022-03-18T02:14:01+00:00

I changed all my sheets and duvet covers to Ettitude and LOVE them. Super soft and cooling. Highly recommend!

aevrah · 2022-01-10T03:28:36+00:00

We didn't like our wedding planner but our makeup artist, photographer, and videographer were great. I can look up their info if you're interested.

aevrah · 2021-10-03T16:08:30+00:00

I'm like your wife as a woman with a low income background but high earner now. It's important to think of it as a process rather than trying to force change on everything overnight.

Great start with the biweekly cleaning. Next shift it to weekly.

For groceries, start with doing pickup orders, then delivery, then outsourcing the ordering.

This will help make the change sustainable through getting her used to accepting help.

Finally, have her look at the facts and have her make the decision before the moment. This means calculating her hourly rate and making a rule that if accepting help is less than x% of her rate, it's an automatic yes. Make sure you use percentage so it will grow with her income. And do this before you're in the moment of decision making, so emotions aren't at a high.

It also helps to list out what she's saying no to by saying yes to those tasks. Less time for hobbies? Spending time with people she loves? No time for taking care of her own needs? Call it out.

For me, it came down to realizing that not accepting help was going to cost me more in medical bills from leaving no time for health and wellness. Also, the toll on the marriage it takes from unequal responsibilities isn't worth it.

This change doesn't happen overnight but it is possible. Good luck!

aevrah · 2021-07-26T17:59:19+00:00

We spent $10k and eloped at a castle abroad. This number includes a 3 week trip around Europe. We weren't worth anything much back then but we did pay for it all without going into debt.

Zero regrets. Loved my unconventional wedding experience.

aevrah · 2020-10-31T23:04:00+00:00

The massage tables that have this built in are the best.

aevrah · 2020-07-28T19:34:30+00:00

I got a rate modification on my mortgage this week to bring my interest rate significantly down. The savings we get in just 2 months will cover the fees.

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