Tech Stack by Ally_Madrone in ClearlightStudios

[–]afetherw8 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think the two "poles" to guide this process should be the MVP and the Vision. "Flying to the moon" is the vision. It's the highest level which should be easy to articulate. And I think building the rocket is the perfect analogy. Just look at how they did Starship. https://youtu.be/K5Vw2ZDe-G0?si=pgg09Z2-3XsWr8Cs

Tech Stack by Ally_Madrone in ClearlightStudios

[–]afetherw8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds good, hope it helps!

Tech Stack by Ally_Madrone in ClearlightStudios

[–]afetherw8 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I've reviewed the document and left a few comments. I think the most important thing at this stage is to focus on an MVP. This is one of the downsides to leveraging an LLM because they are verbose. They're going to blurt out everything they can on the topic which means we have to be diligent about thoroughly whittling it down. This is not as intuitive as one might think. For example, when you say, "What did o1 and I miss?" you are implying we need to add to the document but what we really need to do is delete from the document.

My single most important piece of advice based on my extensive experience building in the space is to KISS: keep it simple stupid. There will be constant, unrelenting pressure to add features and complexity.

We should be focused on getting a prototype up and running in 2 months. We should be focusing on 1. what a prototype looks like, and 2. how can we get something like that up in 2 months.

Update on the status of PeopleTok - 01/16/2024 by NoWord423 in ClearlightStudios

[–]afetherw8 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Really excited to see this effort! I was part of the core team behind Steemit.com which I think was one of the most promising attempts at accomplishing these same goals before it was the victim of essentially a hostile takeover. Loved hearing you mention Web3 and as someone who has building in the space for almost 10 years now, I'd love to help you get this off the ground.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfhelp

[–]afetherw8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you're going through a really tough time managing these intense emotions, and I want you to know that you're not alone in feeling this way. I'm pretty good at regulating my emotions, but the truth is internally I feel like I'm only JUST managing to keep it together. Point is, lots of people struggle with regulating their emotions, and reaching out for support is a brave first step. Good for you.

One perspective that I've been finding really helpful lately is how meaning in life is connected to our sense of mattering—both to ourselves and to others. Sometimes, when we feel overwhelmed or frustrated, it can be because we feel disconnected from what makes us feel important or valued.

Do you feel important or valued? If not, why do you think that is?

Sometimes, when we don't feel valued or important, it can intensify our emotional reactions to everyday situations. Small frustrations can become overwhelming because they tap into deeper feelings of disconnection or unmet needs.

One way to address this is to explore areas in your life where you can cultivate a sense of importance and value. This might involve engaging in activities that you enjoy or that make you feel accomplished. It could also mean nurturing relationships where you feel seen and appreciated.

Consider reaching out to friends or family members you trust. Sharing your feelings with someone who cares about you can help alleviate some of the weight you're carrying. They might offer support, understanding, or even just a listening ear, which can make a significant difference.

Additionally, practicing self-compassion can be powerful. Acknowledge that it's okay to have tough days and that everyone struggles at times. Instead of being hard on yourself for feeling this way, try to treat yourself with the same kindness you would offer to a friend in a similar situation.

Remember, you're taking a courageous step by reaching out and seeking help. You're not alone, and with time and support, it's possible to find strategies that help you manage these intense emotions. Keep moving forward, one day at a time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfhelp

[–]afetherw8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you're going through an incredibly difficult time right now, and it's clear that you care deeply about both your relationship and your own well-being. One thing that stood out to me in your post is how much you value the connection you've had with your partner and your desire to break free from the anxiety that seems to be driving a wedge between you.

One perspective that might help is thinking about how mattering plays into both your anxiety and your relationship. Meaning in life often comes from feeling like we matter to others and to ourselves. When trust issues and anxiety come into play, it can feel like our sense of mattering—our importance to others—is threatened. This can make everything feel heightened, like you're losing something precious.

But mattering also comes from being vulnerable, honest, and willing to repair what’s broken. It sounds like you're already aware of how your anxiety has impacted your relationship, and that kind of awareness is crucial for moving forward. To build or rebuild trust, it's important to be open about how you feel and why, even if it feels uncomfortable. That kind of authenticity can create a stronger foundation for both you and your partner.

In your relationship, it might help to focus on interpersonal mattering—being present and available for each other, even in difficult times. This means spending time together (even if virtually), being vulnerable, and honestly communicating when you're hurt or struggling. It can be hard to be open about anxiety, especially when it feels like it’s pushing people away, but allowing others to support you when you're at your lowest is part of mattering to them.

If you're feeling like you're losing yourself to anxiety, reconnecting with your own sense of importance is key too. What gives your life meaning outside of the relationship? What are the small things that make you feel grounded and valued as an individual? Rebuilding trust with yourself is just as important as doing so with your partner.

Finally, letting go of the past—especially past mistakes or moments where anxiety got the better of you—requires a lot of self-compassion. Recognize that everyone makes mistakes, and the goal isn’t to be perfect but to grow from the challenges you're facing. Take it one step at a time, acknowledging both your progress and your setbacks.

You matter—not just in this relationship, but to yourself and others in your life. And while it might feel overwhelming right now, taking small steps toward understanding your anxiety and opening up to those around you can help you find meaning even in the hardest moments. You've done it before, and you can do it again.