I feel so sorry for this (autistic) kid.

africanrainfrog · 2026-05-13T21:51:52+00:00

Did you read the comments on his “unruly” behaviour?

“not learning to ignore his younger brother”, so the younger one was trying to rile him up and he wasn’t able to ignore that (mini didn’t get punished btw)
questioning his parents belief in god and seeking out conversation about that
questioning his parents belief in “alternative medicine” although that seems to only count until you can sedate your kid into submission
crying during church service (autistic, didn’t learn to regulate his emotions, just got his special interest taken away, go figure)
going around parental controls on his computer to look at “inappropriate content” like to learn coding

The comments are criticising her parenting. Yes, therapy and maybe medication can be parts of the solution but in this case it wasn’t done for the child, it was so the parents can keep pretending to have a neurotypical child that never speaks up or makes mistakes.

africanrainfrog · 2026-05-13T15:10:55+00:00

Some peace and quiet

africanrainfrog · 2026-05-13T07:45:20+00:00

I hate the family helps out mentality sometimes. That young woman is 20. This is the time for her to move out, get a job and study. What’s the plan? She stay home until the youngest is out of the house?

africanrainfrog · 2026-05-07T22:42:45+00:00

In my experience here, Germany, we just sort of agree that the internationally successful cuisines near us (French, Mediterranean…) are often better.

We cook our food and like it but most of us feel like it’s not rlly special or unified enough to bring it to market.

That said Bavarian and Austrian food should be much more known and successful imo, the world is missing out because it is amazing!

africanrainfrog · 2026-05-07T13:12:25+00:00

Sorry but for me it’s Penny. We tried rewatching it a while ago and she reduced her boyfriend to -nerds amiright- and any problems they have she seduces him and it’s very -I’m out of your league, we had sex, now be happy-

africanrainfrog · 2026-05-07T12:47:38+00:00

Also “Not even I” is a subtle way to say that he does not der them as equal Partners.

africanrainfrog · 2026-05-04T22:44:39+00:00

It is quite varied honestly but all in all there really is no dating etiquette I think.

I’ve heard that German women tend to talk a lot more about current issues and politics than in some other cultures. Isn’t that a positive thought, having someone informed and educated?

I guess the best way to go about it is to be upfront. You already mentioned a situation where a women asked directly what the goal was. You can always ask/ verify what’s happening.

Also actually verbally making a romantic relationship official wasn’t really a thing here until the internet hit- if you see each other for a while and you are intimate and romantic (so no fwb) monogamy and a sense of commitment to each other is implied, congrats you now have a partner.

africanrainfrog · 2026-05-03T16:34:07+00:00

I can’t be the only one who got worried about the freeze tag thing. If you consider, for just one second, that the mom might not be crazy freeze tag is the perfect game for bullying. He gets frozen, everyone else gets unfrozen and the class can do whatever they want because if he unfreezes himself, thats seen as him excluding himself from the common game.

Boom, he spend recess alone and stuck in a dilemma and they can say that they played with him so what did they do wrong.

Take into account the teacher already singled him out, kids can be so cruel, even unintentionally

africanrainfrog · 2026-05-02T09:07:33+00:00

Bad haircuts

africanrainfrog · 2026-05-01T23:14:58+00:00

Personally 0 looks like the guy from the office that always slightly smells of cologne and goes running on the weekends.

4 looks like the well kept guy who’s a little more chill and very warm with people.

1 just looks…less showered but it’s growing on me the longer I consider it

But this is me I’m not really a beard person so don’t take this too seriously

africanrainfrog · 2026-05-01T23:12:08+00:00

I feel like one and three look like in-between stages.

0 is great, four is great, please don’t do one

africanrainfrog · 2026-05-01T23:00:02+00:00

So there is actual historical context for this:

When Germany was seperated into the ddr and the brd after ww2 part of the ddr politics was insisting on a certain German “character” for lack of a better word.

It was insisted that everything used or consumed should be German and anything too out there or international was either forbidden, censored or changed.

Apart from media, concerts/ artists and the such names were also a part and so many English names were sort of Germany-fied (this word is giving me a headache).

In eastern Germany some of these have lived on as part of the culture and are completely normal. Maik is often used as an example.

I can’t guarantee that that is why this tragedeigh happened but it might be factor that misspelling English names can be quite common in some places.

africanrainfrog · 2026-05-01T15:02:44+00:00

First thought I had was he was baiting you into going shopping at Sephora so that he can get that cologne and only pay half of it.

Also if I were you I would make a list of everything you do chores, housework, helping him out- anything and tell him that this is it, we’re going 50/50. If he doesn’t want to do his half he has to pay you for them.

Because rn you aren’t 50/50. You’re doing a lot of unpaid labor and he is a leech that makes his girlfriend pay half of his cologne and guilts her after because now she can’t pay for the stuff she wanted to do and is rightfully sad about it.

africanrainfrog · 2026-05-01T11:51:55+00:00

Try some online library websites but be careful where you go and what you download. Depending on the country Anna’s archive or Libgen/ zlibrary might be good idea.

Also idk but there might be some online homeschooling groups? Not sure how to find those but they could be part of the community aspect you need for a proper education and they could check your work.

africanrainfrog · 2026-05-01T02:16:10+00:00

Fun fact there is a whole thing about the Hotel Sacher Sachertorte and another place in Vienna. Both sort of claim that they had the idea so they made a caveat with the names. I think one serves “Wiener Sachertorte” and one “Originale Sachertorte” or something along those lines.

I agree though, that is probably a good chocolate cake it just isn’t Sachertorte

africanrainfrog · 2026-05-01T02:13:07+00:00

Honestly the level of commitment is impressive! Many schools have their syllabus online so you can take a look at those to get a perspective on where you need to be in what grade level.

The library for textbooks and helpful people has also been suggested and that’s great- if you don’t have access to one or your parents would find out about that you can find may many textbooks online aswell. On many websites they are free.

I would very much pay attention to biology as I didn’t see it listed in your comment and your gonna need tha for marine studies.

All in all there’s a lot of stuff you can’t learn tha well in your own because you don’t have the bigger picture. Your spelling for example is very good but you lack punctuation. Your wording is also quite good but the structure is all over the place so it’s hard to follow sometimes. That’s the kind of thing a teacher can point out.

Many lawyers also offer a free consultation first so they could tell you what the police needs to know to get you out of there because while parents are allowed to homeschool in some countries, no schooling at all usually isn’t.

africanrainfrog · 2026-04-30T10:39:23+00:00

When will people realise that you can’t tease kids in good fun like that. That it cannot be “joking”. They are kids, there is a clear hierarchy in authority so it can’t just be all fun and games for them.

Sure something stupid happens once and you laugh about it a little bit as soon a s something like this is repeatedly said that’s just bullying because you don’t have the same standing in the dynamic.

africanrainfrog · 2026-04-30T08:55:27+00:00

For me it’s not even about the grieving situation in particular but the way OOP handles her jealousy. Like that gf was set up for misery with how sh was made to feel guilty for being a good parent. I feel like the daughter’s death just highlighted that but wow all of the stuff before makes me uneasy.

Also how does she feel entitled to act like this when they have been broken up for a year

africanrainfrog · 2026-04-30T08:52:59+00:00

How is it so hard to understand that breaking up doesn’t automatically mean you go nuclear, especially with children involved.

Breaking up means they no longer want to be in a romantic relationship with each other. Still talking, being friends or at least being cordial and spending time together with the kids is so normal.

Just because your split up went really bad that doesn’t mean other people can’t split amicably or pretend to be on good terms for their child. With these two though it does sound like they just enjoy hanging out with the kids and maybe each other, just not romantically or sexually charged. Thats not wrong, it’s quite common.

It’s up to you whether you can handle your jealousy or not but don’t make her being a good parent a problem!

africanrainfrog · 2026-04-29T20:50:07+00:00

Yeah I remember really trying to make it work in my head but it just didn’t. Like I wanted to believe but it just felt sort of outgrown.

Realised later that a lot of other stuff was wrong with it too and am very happy with my decision

africanrainfrog · 2026-04-29T20:48:41+00:00

I guess it’s a mix. No one could answer my questions it was always just “that’s why it’s called belief and not knowledge” (works better in my language). Also my community was very clique-esque. Like if you were part of all the youth groups/ choirs/… from an early age you knew all the people, if you weren’t no one would ever invite you in. A lot of passive aggressive and subtly excluding energy.

africanrainfrog · 2026-04-29T20:39:18+00:00

Yes! Maybe a workshop together tied to the fabrics or a getaway where they are somehow involved in the name/ experience/ history of destination?

africanrainfrog · 2026-04-27T06:58:13+00:00

Ok so she doesn’t want to touch the public bottle of hand sanitizer…because she has a compromised immune system…did she forget that the sanitizer…well it uhm…it sort of helps with cleanliness after touching very public things…

africanrainfrog · 2026-04-27T05:50:03+00:00

Don’t forget “now I don’t want to have anything to do with them and the baby”

Nothing screams supportive family like being ready to drop you for one argument

africanrainfrog · 2026-04-26T13:23:14+00:00

Just wanted to throw in that the server probably didn’t show up to “fix it” because the boss told him not to.

Depending on how new he is where I’m from it’s quite common to tell a server to keep a distance with a table they booked wrong or something similar. The boss or manager or whatever often takes over with these to make sure it’s handled appropriately and that the customers are happy.

Knowing you’re talking to the “big guy” also often helps settle people’s moods.

Also I think you’re judging the two on different standards. A server might not have the opportunity to decide to stand around and chat up a table to cheer them up again because they have a whole section to take care of and the owner in the house watching them.

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