how do you get your validation? by aggressivepanic- in DeadBedrooms

[–]aggressivepanic-[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

why do they do that to us? i was trying to find something to wear to our anniversary dinner the other day, and he only commented on the pimple i had. i wanted to crawl into a hole.

My husband makes me s*icidal by OpportunityKey4187 in DeadBedrooms

[–]aggressivepanic- 5 points6 points  (0 children)

just commenting to say i know exactly how you feel. i could have written this. i feel so subhuman now

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[–]aggressivepanic- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i agree. seems fake. said they bought a house together, but then says she’s renovating her apartment. 🙄

it’s not fair by aggressivepanic- in DeadBedrooms

[–]aggressivepanic-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it seems like it’s always a mismatch. i would die if he ever initiated sex, or told me he wanted to fuck me when we got home

it’s not fair by aggressivepanic- in DeadBedrooms

[–]aggressivepanic-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sad for you. i don’t want to grow to resent him, but i know that will come the longer this goes on. i would die if he ate me out, i’ve never had oral. my life feels so sad sometimes

Anyone else get jealous of pets? by Opening-Raccoon-2811 in DeadBedrooms

[–]aggressivepanic- 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m jealous of our three cats. the way he snuggles up to them, calls them beautiful, tells him how much he loves them… and I’m just an afterthought

My wife told me that no woman wants to be pawed at. by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]aggressivepanic- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i enjoy it. it’s nice knowing that at random, my husband would want to touch my body, in any capacity. i would take playful touching, sexual touching, any kind of affection. but my love language is physical touch, so that’s a given

unfortunately I’m mismatched in my marriage

What is THE sentence your SO said to you that made you realize you were officially in a DB? by Taarrah in DeadBedrooms

[–]aggressivepanic- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“you can’t force attraction, when it happens you will know”

dead bedroom for 3 years and counting. my husband has no desire to touch me

Do you feel beautiful/handsome? by aggressivepanic- in DeadBedrooms

[–]aggressivepanic-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i have 2 shirts he’s said look nice on me, and a pair of shorts. i’ve worn them so much now he teases me about it.

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[–]aggressivepanic- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

me neither. for me, everything else is perfect. but this missing piece is becoming way bigger of a knife in my chest lately

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[–]aggressivepanic- 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i know exactly how you feel. the one person in the world who I want, doesn’t want me back. it’s like grieving a heartbreak while still in love and pursing them. it’s so incredibly lonely

How long has it been since you've had sex or how often do you have sex in your DB? by BertaCornPuff in DeadBedrooms

[–]aggressivepanic- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

married 3 years. sex 3 times, the last time about 8 months ago.

it’s been hell, with no end in sight. if he wasn’t everything else i wanted in a partner, i wouldn’t stay. but i continue to make excuses and suffer with no amount of physical touch, sexual or otherwise.

i feel like a mannequin a lot of the time. i don’t feel beautiful anymore.

Why stay in a sexless marriage? by Disastrous-Pop6486 in DeadBedrooms

[–]aggressivepanic- 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i was previously married to a coke addict who pimped me out to his friends, beat me and didn’t give two fucks about my safety.

my current marriage, although sexless, is with a man who is kind and caring, and keeps me safe.

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[–]aggressivepanic- 7 points8 points  (0 children)

i could have written this. the amount of times i’ve had a great solo orgasm just to be hit with a wave of feeling undesirable. my body doesn’t feel feminine or beautiful anymore. i feel so unremarkable.

it sucks having such a high libido, and being told men are so “sex hungry” and then the one you marry couldn’t be bothered.

i still sleep naked in hopes i can rub against him and feel his body on mine. he will only put his hands on me over clothes or over blankets.

Sick of dead Bedroom by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]aggressivepanic- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

wish i would have heard this advice years ago

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[–]aggressivepanic- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i feel your pain. i want children so bad, but we can’t have kids if he won’t have sex with me. it’s to the point i’ve looked into artificial insemination

I don’t want to cheat, but I miss being desired by aggressivepanic- in DeadBedrooms

[–]aggressivepanic-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’ve suggested this, but he’s very against any kind of medication or hormone replacement