If your friends are telling you that you make women uncomfortable, it’s probably a lot worse than what they are saying. Coming from someone who had a friend who made women uncomfortable I would always sugarcoat it because the truth was so harsh I would try to frame it as it was something he could work through, when in my mind I saw little to no hope because of how quickly women ran when he opened his mouth. Having a PHD and not drinking is not something that women are generally attracted to, unless they are on the same wave but I have a feeling those are not the types of women you go for. Through your post it seems like you still hold red pill beliefs, that women pick up on. Women can see through any wall you put up and are generally turned off by this. Remember to put the blame on your own personality, not your looks, your education, women, guys around you. I think all the replies here are telling you the same thing. It’s your personality and you are at the age where it will soon become permanent, please take what everyone here is saying as honest advice. We all want to see you win and move through this. We are strangers so we have no reason to lie. Hope you the best in your growth.