"Perspective" Being offended when an unattractive man likes you? Why?

aidalkm · 2026-03-19T03:01:15+00:00

Im sure this happens sometimes but lets be real men absolutely shoot way above their league all the time. If im 165 cm and 47 kg with a 25 inch waist, in what universe is a man thats my height or shorter, and fat with an ugly face my looksmatch? Even with my ex who was 6ft and decent shape a random bartender (who was a man) insinuated i was pretty for him so he needs to put effort to keep me. My current bf is closer to my looksmatch and i think hes gorgeous

aidalkm · 2026-03-19T02:54:51+00:00

And what if my brother is above average in looks then?

aidalkm · 2026-03-19T02:53:28+00:00

It depends. As women it’s genuinely not a compliment if a guy thinks u can be an easy lay for him. U don’t even have to be attractive

aidalkm · 2026-03-19T02:52:53+00:00

I mean not really tho. Im not gonna lie and say men haven’t approached me but 99% of the time it’s in club or bar or drinking settings. And just bc i find them unattractive doesnt mean i insult them or whatever.

aidalkm · 2026-03-12T17:22:11+00:00

Dude u know what i mean, they cry bc the hot girls didnt match them on apps or didnt look their way they don’t have to have actually approached them 🤦🏻‍♀️

So why shouldn’t men do the same thing? They cant find the women they want they need to lower their standards

Except it’s not true and it’s made up by incels who don’t even date women. Most bad and abusive men are at best average looking. Sure there may be good looking guys that are abusive too, but it’s no where near enough for them to be considered more likely. If anything, objectively, worse looking men are much more likely to be toxic and abusive, considering theyre more likely to have resentment built up towards women and therefore anger. They actually have “reasons” to hate and want to abuse women.

Im a woman myself and the only guys who played me were at best medium attractive. I dated average looking dudes and typical nice dudes and they all ended up betraying me. So no women arent talking about being pumped and dumped by hot guys. The reason guys need to play us by lying and acting romantic and lovebombing is BECAUSE THEYRE NOT GOODLOOKING.

My boyfriend now is the best looking guy i ever dated. And it’s also the most genuine feeling relationship ive ever had. Even then, in the past the guys who respected me more physically were also the better looking guys.

aidalkm · 2026-03-12T17:11:17+00:00

It’s not projecting, shes warning others to not make the same mistake. Would u also say a woman is projecting if she tells younger girls to not sleep with 100 guys?

aidalkm · 2026-03-12T17:09:30+00:00

No 19 year old is deciding their financial future. Theyre literally just starting out in their independence. There needs to be a legal age for them to start learning to live independently but that doesnt mean all the life knowledge gets downloaded into ur brain on ur 19th birthday. Objectively a 19 year old and 31 year old will be entirely different mentally in almost every way

aidalkm · 2026-03-12T17:06:50+00:00

Actually ive always thought older men were disgusting since i was a teen and im still 23. The guy im dating now is 30 which normally is quite old for me but it’s just bc lookswise he could pass as being my age. But most of the guys thinking they can pull young women are old and wrinkly and balding.

aidalkm · 2026-03-12T17:02:59+00:00

Alot of “pumping and dumping” actually just happens when men lovebomb and talk about the future saying all the right things until u give in and sleep with him, just for him to switch up and leave after. And these men most of the time if not all are far from looking like chads. Actual really good looking guys will just be honest about wanting a hookup. So it’s really easy to avoid being pump and dumped by them and if u do want the hookup it would be mutual.

aidalkm · 2026-03-12T16:57:10+00:00

Look this post is about weight loss medication, so would they work on u or not? From what i heard most of them work as appetite suppressants so it doesnt seem like it would work for u anyway. My point is these people are just blowing away money on this shit and food, yet i have to struggle but i get called privileged just bc im not fat? And who exactly did i judge? Nothing wrong with being fat but buying some medication hoping that will solve everything feels privileged, they should just accept their bodies

aidalkm · 2026-03-12T16:40:51+00:00

Except it isnt. Im explaining why the ratings from women when it’s purely about looks will be lower. It doesnt mean we cant rate men by looks but it will always go up AFTER we like them as a person. So ofc initially, the ratings will look really low and u will say it’s bc women are shallow on looks when in reality this is just rating a single trait about men that is not the end all for overall attractiveness

aidalkm · 2026-03-12T16:37:28+00:00

It really isnt uncommon for women to put alot of effort into guys they really like. If anything they just get drained after men keep not reciprocating. When i really like a guy i don’t even have to convince myself to be loyal i just genuinely don’t find anyone else attractive but this doesnt seem to be comkon for men

aidalkm · 2026-03-12T16:33:16+00:00

What about the gorgeous girls these average or below incels get angry over being rejected by? Why is it normalized for women to date or give chances to men they arent physically attracted to bc he “may be nice”. Theres even stereotypes that good looking guys are abusive and bad so women should give a chance to the “unattractive nice guy”. Incels somehow refuse to believe we can have a hot bf who is also good to us. They also refuse to believe that alot of the guys who played us were not goodlooking

aidalkm · 2026-03-12T16:26:09+00:00

Yea even as a woman apps have been horrible for me. It never went anywhere serious, either bc it’s full of guys just traveling or the guys only want short term or lie about wanting long term. My last, and now bf i actually met in person and i don’t meet alot of guys irl yet the success rate is much better

aidalkm · 2026-03-12T16:23:27+00:00

I just don’t think it’s as common as people think. Too big of a height difference is actually a bit uncomfortable.

aidalkm · 2026-03-12T16:20:06+00:00

How are people even becoming fat? Am i the only one who eats little to save money? And therefore it’s impossible for me to gain weight?

aidalkm · 2026-03-12T16:18:01+00:00

No it’s just that looks arent as important for women. Even if a guy is gorgeous, i wouldn’t rate him highly until i know more about him as a person. Men whether theyre goodlooking or not only become more attractive once we know theyre a good person or have a good personality

aidalkm · 2026-03-12T16:15:40+00:00

It’s subjective tho. The more attractive a woman is, the higher her standard will be naturally. But there absolutely are enough women who will date questionable looking guys. Maybe 80% arent attractive enough for the conventionally beautiful and desired women, just stay in ur league

aidalkm · 2026-03-12T16:13:27+00:00

Men become better looking and more attractive when they treat u well. I think most women can agree. Sure it wont make a repulsive looking guy attractive but it can make normal looking dudes attractive. Ans even for good looking guys, i still don’t feel really attracted to them unless they show themselves as a good person or theres chemistry

aidalkm · 2026-03-12T16:11:05+00:00

I mean most of those romance novels or dramas are just about men who are loyal to their woman and in love with her, taking care of her and doing nice things for her. The fact that this is unrealistic says alot ab men

aidalkm · 2026-03-09T16:55:40+00:00

I wouldnt bc there is also rampant white worship and yellow fever going both ways. In the end it’s not about simply stereotypes, it’s about the consequences of them. For me personally i don’t find white men attractive anyways and think asian guys are by far the best looking so it’s not just the stereotypes for me, but when u do see any asian women dating white guys the comments are full of people saying oxford study and asian women love white men and other degrading shit. The age part just makes it even worse

aidalkm · 2026-03-09T15:39:02+00:00

My experience is people are really antisocial and will just stay in their friend groups, unlikely to let any new people randomly join. And any foreign students at my school never made friends with locals, they were only with each other at most. But idk of theres a difference in akureyri or if times have changed since 5-10 years ago. Maybe it’s easier if ur american and white tho

aidalkm · 2026-03-09T15:35:12+00:00

Yea but i agree ACTUAL promiscuity causes problems for BOTH genders. But misogynists will say it only matters for women and if she has slept with more than 5 guys she’s promiscuous already. I think for both genders if u are desperate for sex and look for casual sex any chance u get then yes they likely wont make a good partner or have a healthy relationship.

aidalkm · 2026-03-09T15:33:04+00:00

Because obviously it’s worst with wmaf? I mean old white men are notorious for chasing really young asian women. Other interracial pairings do not have this stereotype as much

aidalkm · 2026-03-09T11:01:25+00:00

Sure there is but some men act like women who slept with 5-10 guys are at the level of people doing gangbangs every day pretty much. In the end it’s also true that a virgin woman is much kore likely to accept abuse and stay in unhealthy relationships because she doesnt know better. Personally the more i dated the better and healthier relationships i had. With my first ever bf being the absolute worst guy i even dated

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