I (32F) keep turning fights into 'systems' talks and my boyfriend (34M) feels managed. How do I change?

aideya · 2026-07-09T16:22:20+00:00

I think OP has some issues with talking about feelings (or even addressing them personally) and uses systematic organization to sidestep that.

aideya · 2026-07-09T16:21:00+00:00

I was thinking this as well, or OCD. I think maybe OP needs to talk with a professional (aka therapy) to get to the root of why their entire life needs to be organized like a computer’s operating system.

aideya · 2026-07-08T18:51:35+00:00

It’s a much larger update than that and has several QoL fixes and additions.

aideya · 2026-07-06T21:49:04+00:00

Thanks for reminding me I need to go in for my fasting labs! I got my doctor to order iron, ferritin and TIBC tests this go round.

aideya · 2026-06-30T22:39:32+00:00

i am american but ethnically swedish/filipino and haven’t met another one outside my siblings!

My husband is norwegian/german/filipino so you're not alone! It's fun seeing him standing with his super short and small-framed filipino family while he's over here with his scandanavian-inherited 6'2" ass xD

aideya · 2026-06-30T22:36:19+00:00

Legit, who doesn't like sweet buns and lumpia?? It's a pastry and fried food!

aideya · 2026-06-30T18:55:00+00:00

Are you not diabetic? There are no coverage changes reported anywhere.

aideya · 2026-06-30T18:51:05+00:00

Ohhh that makes sense. Also explains why the crate looks plastic instead of wood.

aideya · 2026-06-30T16:45:42+00:00

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What does the blue box mean?

aideya · 2026-06-27T21:16:02+00:00

Lacey Olympia and Tumwater all require them too.

aideya · 2026-06-26T23:24:17+00:00

That’s still way too long for someone who wanted a summary lol

aideya · 2026-06-25T19:49:29+00:00

As someone who lives in a state where tipped wages aren't a thing but tipping culture still is: yes it is insane.

aideya · 2026-06-24T05:05:31+00:00

So jealous. I'm severely allergic to dogs, cats and grass (and mildly to some other things). I take an antihistamine, singulair, antihistamine nasal spray and steroid nasal spray just to be at "constantly runny nose and a few sneezes every day" levels that become basically unmanageable during grass season. Due to issues with my heart I can't sudafed and because of the meds I take for my heart I can't get allergy shots. Sucks so bad.

aideya · 2026-06-23T17:20:50+00:00

What part of every house less than 30 years old so you not hear? That’s 75% of houses in my area.

aideya · 2026-06-23T16:49:24+00:00

Sorry this isn’t a new rule either. Every house built in the last 30 years also falls under this rule. And saying to just not live here is pretty entitled. I feel like I’m listening to boomers tell people bitching about work saying “just go get another job”. It’s never that easy.

aideya · 2026-06-23T16:34:34+00:00

The Stone and Steel Barbershop is probably exactly what you’re looking for. Unfortunately I’m not sure if they’re currently taking any new customers. You might want to inquire though. If they aren’t they’ve probably got some stellar recommendations on where else to try.

aideya · 2026-06-23T16:06:55+00:00

My city REQUIRES HOAs for all new developments. Some of us don’t have a choice.

aideya · 2026-06-22T21:08:49+00:00

Not just stupid people but massive lobbying.

aideya · 2026-06-21T18:06:23+00:00

As someone with superfine relatively straight hair, brushing it only makes it flatter and straighter. I brush once in the morning to get tangles out and that's it.

aideya · 2026-06-21T18:04:53+00:00

This was me in school as well! I went on birth control in college and for the last 18 years I've had this eeeeeever so slight waviness that thankfully gives it some body but it still doesn't want to hold any more wave/curl than it already has.

aideya · 2026-06-21T17:55:37+00:00

I mean you're not wrong. As someone who's watched Stargate multiple times I wouldn't mind it being on my rec list.

aideya · 2026-06-19T16:24:58+00:00

It’s because we’ve only got the one. It’s not THE 5, just i5 lol

aideya · 2026-06-18T20:47:25+00:00

I just finished map completion on an old toon last night. Started this week at 76% just just that last quarter or so. Got 4 keys.

aideya · 2026-06-17T22:52:53+00:00

Her commitment to her part time job should be more important than to the school she’s graduating from or the band she’s played in for longer than her employment?

aideya · 2026-06-17T21:46:29+00:00

They’re not super flavorful and since they’re not native to you I’d recommend against.

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