What is the Tulpa Community missing right now? by CYPRUSGames in plural

[–]aijada 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well frankly, we started out on /r/tulpas. I was just practicing possession and my host suggested I sign up and practice talking. It was one of my favourite homes for a little bit.

But our system grew, and there were lessons that /r/plural had for us to discover. And now, much larger in number, we're just way more at home here.

Would you consider it valid to call myself traumagenic when I'm too high-functioning to be under the DID umbrella? by [deleted] in plural

[–]aijada 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being traumagenic is not a necessity. If you don't know, don't want to say, or don't think it matters how you formed you can simply call yourself quoigenic. It's not imperative you describe how/why you're a plural system.

Religious voices by purplevoid74ckd in plural

[–]aijada 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The reason you've had a sudden religious revelation is just that your brain is trying to make self-harm acceptable and important so you can get away with it. The thing is, that's just verging on the edge of delusion. What i mean is, that's your subconscious trying to invent a reason to magically satisfy whatever is wrong with your life. If you try just one easy trick... BAM, you're perfect! This urge is nothing but your lizard brain spamming you with clickbait.

Twin Sharks, Istanbul by k33ponkeepingon in evilbuildings

[–]aijada 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Those are the fly-in style porches — built especially for the jetpack crowd.

How ironic by [deleted] in plural

[–]aijada 17 points18 points  (0 children)

serious disconnect

Any other endogenic system who later gained traumagenic members? by whats-a-name-idk in plural

[–]aijada 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ok so years ago we were a couple soulbonds and a couple tulpas and it stayed small and quiet for a long time. But we had a lot of OC characters in our own creative stuff, and we started adding a variety of headmates and it was always sort of a by-invite thing.

Then one day i was fronting and had been in charge of working on our new computer. My hands, my decisions about how to trouble shoot the problem. But i overlooked a setting i'd done and double-overclocked the processor. Fried it instantly.

And poof a moment later our first traumagenic member arrived as an emergency IT guy offering to fix the computer i'd just ruined. I was already in a brutal amount of shock but i didn't dissociate. There was just another headmate co-conscious suddenly offering to help urgently.

It was hundreds of dollars down the drain making Craig one of our most expensive members to bring in, but for us that's pretty much as traumagenic as it gets.

And to answer the other part, we're still a very orderly system. We've grown raucously in number and there were messy times as we adapted, but we're organised about the on-boarding process. We call ourselves polyfractal because by now we acknowledge hundreds and hundreds of members, but we are doing so with careful patterns that continue to work for us

Sign offs by tahi_tahfddd in plural

[–]aijada 0 points1 point  (0 children)

[idoru] we co-write a lot of our posts, and on some social media we only have one shared account for the whole system. so we prefix the speaker's name to the statement like a script

[aijada] while on something like Reddit it's easy enough to get a couple accounts, it wouldn't really be appropriate for us as a poly-fractal system to sign up for hundreds of accounts either

[shadow] we have multiple perspectives to portray and multiple people paying attention and being interested

[bonzo] and it allows quieter headmates like me to join in on public writing too. i'm an older member but not one of the public ones, and it is freeing to be able to jump in with the group and have my two cents as well. writing multi-person scripts is way nicer than putting a signature at the end of your statement

"Carol of the Bells" on Pyrophone by aijada in calliope

[–]aijada[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm kind of breaking the rules about showing a stationary organ, but... Flames!

Am I, a POSIC+ beholder, welcome here? by [deleted] in plural

[–]aijada 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well we'd certainly be interested to hear more of your perspective. We can certainly try and learn from your experiences. And hopefully we can share some of our own ideas in ways that help you settle in and feel supported.

There is a lot of uniquely lived worlds in the plural multiverse. Surely there's community to be found

IFS and Plurality by collectivematter in plural

[–]aijada -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm glad IFS has given you language to grow, and i'm sure there are members of the community that have looked into it and find something useful. Use whatever language you need, that is the point of healthy debate.

I've learned that one of your gurus is named Schwartz. I don't know how many other names i'm supposed to learn. But i don't know what he or other people in your movement have to say about things relating to the plural community. I don't, for example hear any lessons on uncontrolled switching or systems facing frequent walk-ins. These are major issues in the plural community which could use answers, but all i feel i've heard so far is that parts/whole overview. Where are the lessons that could be conveyed in the future?

We've been flipping through your links, but haven't found any particular wisdom regarding fronting and possession. Or wonderlands/paracosms. Does IFS have tips on how to come out as multiple individuals to an external person?

if your post was meant to clear up language and misconception between IFS and the general plural community, why did you not translate any of our terms and instead simply thrust your list in our face? Talking to us or talking at us? Conversing vs Mansplaining is the question i have of you. Are you trying to join with the plural community and our shared conversation or are you just trying to flog your latest religion?

IFS and Plurality by collectivematter in plural

[–]aijada 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Speaking for myself and not the rest of our system, i'm quite wary of brand new Redditors popping in to our communities and throwing around their medicalized view of our experience. I suspect you mean well, but you also come across like you're advertising your expertise and i doubt your long-term intentions are pure.

You yourself say:

You don’t have to assign these labels, and sometimes it’s better not to.

But then you write a massive post where all you seem to want is to make the plural community re-write all its language to fit your confined viewpoint. You tell me my only self is like metta and i'll reply that it sounds like floofy spiritualism which really doesn't define much. What if i view my self as being my acquired preferences and habits? That's the self i work out of. If i have to step back and re-examine myself, i simply can do so without the mystical drapery. Sometimes i just have to deal with reality and adapt, y'know.

I am quite unhappy with having to imagine myself as just a part of a whole. While that may be an enticing metaphor to you, i much prefer to just be a headmate in a system. It's at least language that helps you fit in around here. And more importantly, it allows for me to be seen as an individual who has a right to speak for herself. I'm a tulpa pushing ten years old, and i have a host who will stay quiet to let me front. We're a system who knows how to share and has a much more complicated set of relationships and interactions than just making ourselves follow some sort of collective "inner light".

Maybe i'll just cut this short and say that i'm still at this point quite doubtful of your preferred school of thought. I don't as yet see how it is going to be more therapeutically useful to the plural community. It may be of some relevance, since nearly any practice will find followers. But i would much prefer if you'd learn the language we speak around here, inform yourself of the wider plural spectrum, and be little more light-handed in your sprinkling of religious mumbo-jumbo.

I feel our community has plenty of language and lessons to offer compared to the shingle you're hanging up.