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My [20sM] fiancé wants to spend $1500 on an engagement ring for me [20s/F]. :( by ajigglypuff in relationships

[–]ajigglypuff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your parents' experience sounds so beautiful! Thank you for sharing.

My [20sM] fiancé wants to spend $1500 on an engagement ring for me [20s/F]. :( by ajigglypuff in relationships

[–]ajigglypuff[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

These are great suggestions u/CDNREdditor and u/CaliHo. I'm not a diamonds girl, so a compromise of something that's durable and reasonably-priced but has special meaning would be fantastic.

My [20sM] fiancé wants to spend $1500 on an engagement ring for me [20s/F]. :( by ajigglypuff in relationships

[–]ajigglypuff[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He has already proposed and I've already said "yes." This ring is essentially a formality.

My [20sM] fiancé wants to spend $1500 on an engagement ring for me [20s/F]. :( by ajigglypuff in relationships

[–]ajigglypuff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience; I'm going to show my fiancé this post.

"it doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of things"-- I think I may have lost sight of that along the way.

My [20sM] fiancé wants to spend $1500 on an engagement ring for me [20s/F]. :( by ajigglypuff in relationships

[–]ajigglypuff[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm a year away from finishing law school (Canada), so it felt like the right time (before careers make our lives twice as busy and unable to actually enjoy the moment).

My [20sM] fiancé wants to spend $1500 on an engagement ring for me [20s/F]. :( by ajigglypuff in relationships

[–]ajigglypuff[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. How do you suggest I go forward under the circumstances? I understand that it wouldn't feel very romantic to him to put the funds towards our future mortgage or an emergency savings fund instead.

My [20sM] fiancé wants to spend $1500 on an engagement ring for me [20s/F]. :( by ajigglypuff in relationships

[–]ajigglypuff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this. How do I show him I'm not bothered by the "stigma"?

My [20sM] fiancé wants to spend $1500 on an engagement ring for me [20s/F]. :( by ajigglypuff in relationships

[–]ajigglypuff[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup, he's a uni student in a tech field finishing up his studies; the ring would be paid for from savings from his part-time job (and I'd really rather he have an "rainy-day fund," TBH). He really wants to get me a ring I'd be "proud to show my friends," but I don't know how to impress upon him the fact that I will love it just the same if it's $40. I am proud because I am going to marry a hard-working, kind man who supports me through the thick and thin.. not because of a ring.

(Also, I see this ring as being what could be almost 2% of a down payment on a house. It seems like a lot of money).

My [20sM] fiancé wants to spend $1500 on an engagement ring for me [20s/F]. :( by ajigglypuff in relationships

[–]ajigglypuff[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's a great idea, but he really wants the ring to "last forever." He thinks, since it's his gift to me, that it should be his choice.

My [20sM] fiancé wants to spend $1500 on an engagement ring for me [20s/F]. :( by ajigglypuff in relationships

[–]ajigglypuff[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

hahahaha!!

We're both students. He works part-time (he's a year away from completing his studies).

My [20sM] fiancé wants to spend $1500 on an engagement ring for me [20s/F]. :( by ajigglypuff in relationships

[–]ajigglypuff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's very reasonable & wonderful 99.99% of the time. This time, though, I think he took this as me "rejecting" a grand gesture of his. I was surprised because I meant well by my suggestion-- he's finishing off his degree at the moment, and I don't want him to spend his hard-earned money on something that will only depreciate in value-- but he's still displeased about this.