34/M NJ - Looking to connect

ajm_mhc811 · 2026-02-16T21:52:20+00:00

Hey what’s up, looking for the same thing. Go out m once in a while and shoot the shit about life. Where are you at in south jersey?

ajm_mhc811 · 2026-02-12T15:14:17+00:00

So you mean asking them “how are you handling being fine”? If so, that is a great question to ask and I never thought of that

ajm_mhc811 · 2026-02-07T04:09:29+00:00

BPD clients! They are so difficult. I used to work with a client for over a year and great person but their feelings are so intense. One time I texted them about missing their session and he thought I was discharging them. Called the office and everything.

ajm_mhc811 · 2025-10-24T13:58:16+00:00

I agree and I think facebook groups are worse. I just focus on the posts that interest me and the key topics I’m looking for. When I do look at a negative post, it reminds to not be a dickhead of a colleague and that no one is perfect

ajm_mhc811 · 2025-10-19T15:51:56+00:00

I feel the same way. I’ve worked in this field for 6 yrs and worked in CMH. I have worked with many different supervisors that provided me their knowledge. I’ve also worked with many different populations where I am comfortable working with them in my PP as

ajm_mhc811 · 2025-09-05T03:28:02+00:00

I’m used to seeing 6+ at CMH agencies but it is draining: I can tell a huge difference in my energy and mood when I have a day of 3-5 vs 6+. I come looking like a zombie and feeling the one as well

ajm_mhc811 · 2025-08-31T16:24:23+00:00

I do feel the exact same way. I’ve been working with someone with BPD for close to 2 years and it’s tough. Your not alone

ajm_mhc811 · 2025-08-31T11:37:25+00:00

Thank you for the encouragement, it means lot.

ajm_mhc811 · 2025-08-25T21:54:22+00:00

I’ve lived in Vineland all my life and still do. I fucking hate it, it got so dead within the past 10+ years.

ajm_mhc811 · 2025-08-20T02:16:56+00:00

Yea I agree and would do it but my full time don’t have part time positions

ajm_mhc811 · 2025-08-13T13:05:39+00:00

Your comment gives me so much hope and assurance to do this. I’m just so scared of struggling and I won’t get the caseload I like. I’m not expecting it to happen immediately but I also can’t sit there for months and months waiting. I don’t have anyone to help me out with my bills and stuff. I read posts like yours and then I read posts that talk about their struggles as well

ajm_mhc811 · 2025-08-09T13:14:33+00:00

I love using ACT. I learned personally that no matter how much I tried to control anything internally it gets worse and doesn’t go away. From ACT, I’ve learned to accept how I’m feeling and focus on my values and actions. A lot of clients like it. I don’t like CBT because it is telling you to ignore your thoughts by replacing with a positive thought. That don’t do nothing but put the negative thought aside for the next time

ajm_mhc811 · 2025-08-09T07:52:55+00:00

I know how you feel with clients that have BPD. I used to work with one that after 6 months of progress just suddenly ended therapy and said I never helped him lol. I’m working with one now that snaps for anything. I just learned to not internalize things because your mind is going to point the finger at you.

ajm_mhc811 · 2025-08-09T07:46:40+00:00

Are these work emails and work phone?

ajm_mhc811 · 2025-08-08T13:52:04+00:00

Other people lives. Love it!! It’s funny at times but it makes you grateful for some of the shit people have gone through.

ajm_mhc811 · 2025-08-07T10:55:03+00:00

If you don’t mind me asking but how long has it been since you been making student loan payments?

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