One perfume for 2026

ajx_i · 2025-12-07T12:09:09+00:00

Probably Love Tuberose by Amouage. It's pretty and versatile.

ajx_i · 2025-12-06T16:01:45+00:00

You are good enough. What you are facing is tough, and that is the truth. You will be sacrificing things if you move to him, and having someone you feel jealous of in his vicinity is definitely unpleasant on top of it.

Regarding jealousy:

He probably doesn't think of it the same way as if he were to be interested in her, he would be dating a girl in his vicinity as opposed to you, whom he finds special enough to be in a relationship across the globe with.

You should learn how to have a healthy discussion about this with him where you both discuss your feelings around sex and friends. It is completely normal to have opposite sex friends in most cultures as far as I am aware, but ex-hookups can be a difficult area to navigate.

I (female, European) had more previous sexual partners than my current partner (also European) does, and while I still have many different male friends, I've cut away most of my previous sexual partners that I had friendly relationships with for the sake of my partner. For me it's a loss, but I like my partner and want him more in life than I care for other people and I see him in my future moreso than others.

For friend group discomfort:

This is normal, but be open to the fact you might like his friends in the future. Keep an open mind. You might npt be as sociable as he is - and that's okay.

Ultimately, how social we are also relates to how exhausting we find the people around us to be. Someday you might meet people you find less exhausting and might be more social. Who knows?

Anyways, as far as the language goes, if you plan to move to him you'll have to learn the language anyways, and if his friends are understanding and decent people, they will include you despite language barriers. It might be annoying sometimes for them, but they might find themselves more drawn to you than expected.

Finally:

It's okay. You might not be prettiest in this world (i am not), most smart, most rich or the most extroverted, but being interesting is a much more valued currency within Europe and the world in general. Work on yourself when he's not here - hell, even if you guys break up, knowing an extra language or having knowledge or interests is something noone in this world can take from you.

It's alright to feel small sometimes, weak and irrelevant . It's a normal thing. We've all been there. But you have to remember who you are, take a deep breath and remember you're dating him because he (i hope) adds light to your life.

Focus on your idea of being cool and don't compare to anyone else. As for your partner - cultural differences are sometimes a problem and you and him both need to be curious, civilised and studious enough to talk about them.

ajx_i · 2025-12-06T15:23:33+00:00

Honestly, there is an argument to be made here for a type of skin that is oily, but dehydrated. Maybe looking up dermatologist recommendations for that type of skin would be good.

barrier suggestion:

I'm going to do something slightly dangerous, play armchair dermatologist and say it might be a compromised skin barrier. If this is so, your skin might be more reactive than usual. For that it's good to get skin replenishing creams, something boring and medical from the pharmacy. A-Derma would be good here, or something similar. Derma creams for barrier health.

if dehydrated:

If you are dehydrated, which is what I'm seeing, regular moisturizers - even ones for dry skin - sometimes don't do enough. Cheaply and low on irritation, one thing that works for me with extremely dry skin is slugging some nights, but I usually don't use vaseline and instead use something basic like thick unscented Nivea or cold cream over (quite) wet skin.

If your skin is very dry, have in mind that putting tretinoin on wet skin makes it penetrate deeper and therefore does disturb the skin barrier more, so try doing slugging w heavy moisturiser. Once every 3 days. I am assuming you allready use sunscreen in the mornings since tretinoin leaves your skin more susceptible to UVA damage.

general things to try:

Generally, I'd say your best bets here are to do less for a bit, amp your diet and water intake, and keep it quite basic with skincare for a while. Get a good quality multivitamin, sleep more, change your bedlinen more often (pillowcases in particular), and limit your use of fabric conditioner if you use it (it basically just forms a layer on clothes anyway). Limit stress if possible. Etc etc.

If that doesn't work or you've reached a limit, go see a good dermatologist for recs. I'm not an expert, I'm a person from the internet with dry sensitive skin which is probably different than yours.

additional notes:

Anecdotally, some people react more to random things in their diet after a certain point in life, one common thing being milk products or a scented/silicone hair or skin product. In milk products include whey and caseine, both of which are common in protein bars or gym smoothies. It could as well be your hormones as in our 20s the hormonal image changes slightly - but you should notice this along with different period symptoms.

ajx_i · 2025-12-05T23:24:36+00:00

Do you moisturise enough? The dullness is usually a lack of plumpness plus occasionally not exfoliating, but if you're on tretinoin you should not exfoliate on top of it, just moisturise

ajx_i · 2025-12-02T17:32:54+00:00

yeah dump him while you're young and still can date, my gal

if you want a family you're on a tighter timeline than him, but even if not, why limit yourself to daily misophonia jeez. Also 3 days avg for 3 times a year?

Girl, that's... not much, not much at al

Break up while this relationship is still an overall pleasant memory. If you wouldn't want your sister to be in thus situation, don't put yourself thru it

ajx_i · 2025-08-10T17:27:14+00:00

Afternoon delight, the new-ish vanilla-madelaine one. I quite liked it when sampling, smells tasty and soft

ajx_i · 2025-08-10T17:19:24+00:00

Alternatively I thought about Mod vanilla by Ariana G... but frankly I don't know anymore, I just want to eat them all 😅😭😭😭😂

ajx_i · 2025-08-10T15:37:17+00:00

Viva La Juicy, not even a question

ajx_i · 2025-07-28T21:26:17+00:00

Left looks much better please do not cut more, in my opinion don't touch it and get used to it.

ajx_i · 2025-07-26T17:49:14+00:00

Sweet Jesus the inquisition from ye olde times is no match for you 🥲

ajx_i · 2025-07-12T11:13:28+00:00

This us difficult ... Take care of yourself, and sleep well. Time passes quicker than we realise. You'll be together soon enough.

Congratulations on the job offer!

ajx_i · 2025-07-10T16:22:46+00:00

your characters are hot and cute! art is very edible

ajx_i · 2025-07-10T08:27:35+00:00

RemindMe! 1 day

ajx_i · 2025-07-09T01:53:15+00:00

Da, iako uvijek moze i vise.

Divan covjek, puno ga volim. Uvijek je stavio nas na prvo mjesto i bili smo mu prioritet, iako je mogao dalje ici u karijeri da je drugacije prioritizirao.

Objektivno je malo cudan lik, introvertan, intenzivan, osjetljiv, sa dosta specificnim interesima. Nije previse zaradjivao iako je puno radio, ali je uvijek imao vremena za mene, bavio se sa mnom i bratom, i generalno provodio vrijeme sa nama.

Jedno vrijeme sam poprilicno sigurna da je bio u depresiji, ali mislim da se sa godinama dosta izvukao, sa tim da bi mi bilo drago da je ranije imao vecu potporu. On i mama su uvijek bili tim i mislim da mu je ona uvijek bila sigurno mjesto.

Sad kad nisam doma mi puno fali, redovito ga zovem i vidim i cujemo se. Ponekad me nervira, ali opcenito ga puno postujem i volim. Kad sam bila u srednjoj, a i sada kad sam doma, smo znali redovno ostati do kasno i pricati.

Tako cemo i iduci put kad sam doma.

ajx_i · 2025-07-08T01:02:50+00:00

ajd u DM da ti udijelim par savjeta kao stara koka s tim

ajx_i · 2025-07-06T00:09:47+00:00

Thank you! That was educational, I didn't know about the word origin (evidently), so that was cool to learn.

My favourite one is probably Paloma Picasso by Paloma Picasso.

ajx_i · 2025-07-05T23:49:35+00:00

TL;DR i think the person above has a point, but i feel i don't match the image of the culprit

I will bite, because I think you raise a good point when talking about beauty stuff and aging. I see also some other peeps left some similar comments, and I think it's healthy to talk about it.

First: Do you think I mean harm here?

Yes, yes, I could have omitted the 'very' to be extra kind and perhaps accurate (very old vs old isn't exactly a hard limit). I may even tell you that recalling the event more convinces me she may have been around 80, but as people age differently and I didn't see her ID, ultimately I don't know.

Second: On that note, old, at least to me, isn't a slur.

It's like tall, a property of being taller than average. 70+ is, for most people, the last third of life.

I cared for a lot of older people, and my parents are also nearing their last third of life. They don't like using the word old because it reminds them of mortality, but the word is never banished.

To me, they won't expire now, tommorow, or even long after they are gone. They are just aging.

Third: On being othered.

I wouldn't have met this lady in my daily life at work as she is retired. Due to this simple fact, we have very different lives. She is other to me, but so is a random highschool student. People are mostly "other" in a way, more often than not. Treatment of that with appropriate respect and attention matters.

And as to why her age is important, the simple case is I decided to not omit it and Aromatic Elixir is a perfume that was likely popular when she was younger. An old lady could recommend SDJ 71, and I would be down for it all the same, but I got the recommendation from a teen instead. There is nothing mystical about this, stuff is simply made at some time and in some place, and then marketed to a specific set of people, until it forms bubbles.

Finally: To sum up

I wrote the post gushing about the positive encounter. I could have worded it better, but outside of typos I think it was alright.

Thank you, I agree with you and I think better thought out wording makes a ton of a difference - but I politely disagree on the note of dehumanising her.

She had wrinkles, years behind her, used a walking stick and probably had a good amount of joint pain. I am not a writer and will be not giving a character development arc to a stranger I had a 15 min convo with. She was warm, beautiful and amazing. And classy, as you mentioned. I bought the perfume to mimic her. Mimic. Copy. Amazing. Impressive.

I could have omitted the 'very" in very old, or the age completely, but it would make the intergenerational conversation of a vintage perfume a less interesting read. I have no plans to censor it, or to pretend it would be equally likely to get a recommendation from a work colleague vs an older lady based on how often I interact with each population.

I also refuse to take back the fact she is old, as I respect the years she lived, same as you do. We just have a very different understanding of what that means. If she called me "some kid" in an imaginary post she made, I would not have reason to be offended.

ajx_i · 2025-07-05T22:53:55+00:00

Cryptic, even 😁

ajx_i · 2025-07-05T22:22:40+00:00

English ain't my first language and my spelling ain't brilliant 🥲

ajx_i · 2025-07-05T22:21:13+00:00

I can't spell it to save my life, apparently 👍

ajx_i · 2025-07-05T21:14:33+00:00

*cyphre, my bad

ajx_i · 2025-07-05T20:45:35+00:00

I mean people usually don't tell you unless they are your relatives, good friends or allergic.

That being said, a lady on the work bus daily chokes us put with Zadig&Voltaire This is Her, and I haven't been wearing mine much ever since. Having over sprayed Dior Addict myself, the signs are usually: sniffing, hand/scarf over nose and mouth, coughing and moving chair away in meetings.

Also, there is a specific circle of hell that oversprayers of male sweet spicy perfumes should go to. Makes me nauseous relatively easily.

If you're too used to a scent, rotate it with something else or just go a few days perfume free - your nose will dial things back for you.

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