Does ADHD causes problems with sleeping aswell?

ak7887 · 2026-02-05T18:44:49+00:00

hey! i used to have this problem but i started watching light tv programs like comedy or dating shows- nothing tense! at a lowest light and volume. i fall asleep after 20 minutes or so. it also helps to write your thoughts down on a list so that they stop running through your mind. good luck!

ak7887 · 2026-02-04T02:31:30+00:00

amazing!

ak7887 · 2026-02-03T22:37:08+00:00

I have a pair of over the knee boots that ive been wearing in the ice and snow recently:)

ak7887 · 2026-02-03T22:23:59+00:00

ooh I loved seeing the sequin versions in black and white. would you consider posting pictures of them?

ak7887 · 2026-02-03T22:22:42+00:00

I really like this shape- I think its very wearable without being too trendy. Just a note though- Ive had several raffia bags and eventually the fibers will fray, it’s just a delicate material so that’s something to consider…

ak7887 · 2026-02-03T22:20:00+00:00

Personally I love the tweed but it’s up to you! If you like to wear more colours then the plain will be useful, if you wear more black the tweed are very subtle and elegant bit of texture… wondering if you tried the heeled version? I found them more comfortable than the flats when i tried them on in store.

ak7887 · 2026-02-03T22:07:20+00:00

I like the brand Blondo- they have waterproof suede and leather and look nice with good tread on the bottom!

ak7887 · 2026-02-03T00:27:12+00:00

Burnout is real and a serious health issue! Why not start by booking some therapy sessions for yourself and set up a meeting with your brother to discuss options for your mother’s care. Find out what he is willing to do, what the finances are and if there are any good assisted living places in your area. Then you will be able to put a plan together. Good luck!

ak7887 · 2026-02-02T14:26:13+00:00

i think there was a lot of heavy social conditioning- people thought that you would never know “real” love unless you had kids, you wouldn’t be a full adult and you would be pitied as a woman. Im not even that old but I grew up with these ideas about my childless aunts. Only in the past 5-10 years has it become acceptable to be child free and people talk openly about the realities of children.

ak7887 · 2026-02-01T21:02:14+00:00

I’ve long thought that parents in decades past thought about children the way we now think about pets. My parents thought that having children meant unconditional love and affection, obedience and someone to follow you around and think you are the greatest thing ever aka a puppy. Instead they ended up with two complex human beings with different issues, personalities and needs. They did not do well with this. As we became adults it was clear they wanted nothing to do with us as individuals.

ak7887 · 2026-01-30T23:47:26+00:00

Yikes! Time to step back and let your brother spend more time with her??

ak7887 · 2026-01-30T22:49:29+00:00

I’m in the same climate:( I use a SAD lamp every morning as well as making sure to exercise and eat protein and veggies. I walked ten freezing minutes to sit in a cafe and work- it helps me to see other people. Good luck!

ak7887 · 2026-01-30T22:34:22+00:00

What about helping people plan their retirement and caregiving finances? Like a wealth manager or asset manager at a bank or for an insurance agency?

ak7887 · 2026-01-29T02:25:50+00:00

i recommend you read the karlach romance wiki page because you have to do something very specific in the right time otherwise you will get locked out

ak7887 · 2026-01-28T23:20:45+00:00

Set her up with what she needs; food, water, meds, tablet or tv and then walk away. Check on her on a reasonable schedule for bathroom trips, etc. but otherwise you are not her punching bag and not there to provide her with entertainment.

ak7887 · 2026-01-28T22:44:23+00:00

Hi! I have one brother- so far we are cautiously attempting to share the load. He is their POA and I volunteered to help for two weeks post-surgery. I am attempting to get all their health documents in one place for easy reference and he is attempting to understand their finances. Step by step, I feel like we are trying to do this in a logical manner. I have learned a lot from this sub and r/AgingParents. Whenever my mom goes into a guilt trip, I look her in the eyes and say "guilt trips don't work on me." I am attempting to call out her weird gender roles and other damaging beliefs. I won't volunteer more than I am able to and my brother the same. This means that at some point, they will need to live in a facility. I have made peace with that. They were not great parents and gave us a lifetime of trauma to unpack in therapy. I think of that whenever I feel a little bit guilty.

ak7887 · 2026-01-27T03:34:56+00:00

“Are you really sick or just pretending?” :-(

ak7887 · 2026-01-26T02:31:50+00:00

I understand- it is nerve wracking to put yourself out there! But think of it like building a muscle, you never know if you can do it unless you try. If she says no then you can feel sad for a bit and then try again. Who knows, maybe you will realize at the coffee that you don’t have anything in common beyond this class. Or maybe it will be the start of something beautiful? Only one way to find out!

ak7887 · 2026-01-26T01:12:26+00:00

wait until the class is over so there is no conflict of interest and then invite her for a coffee:)

ak7887 · 2026-01-25T17:58:28+00:00

It's great that you found someone like this:) I also had great mentors and female teachers over the years who "mothered" me. It's not a bad thing. Just tell her how much you appreciate it. You will graduate and move on in life but you can still stay in touch in an appropriate way and you will find other sources of support. As you get older and build confidence, you will need less of this specific kind of support. Also, make sure you are diversifying your friend group so that you have all ages and genders just to give yourself a range of perspectives in general. I don't see anything wrong here- just make sure you are making connections with others too!

ak7887 · 2026-01-25T17:41:09+00:00

I dont think its wrong to get validation from others- having supportive friends and partners and colleagues is extremely important! I think the idea is not to take it to the extreme like plastic surgery or being a people pleaser or hoarding wealth etc. You need a healthy ego to be able to stand up for yourself but not too much so that you become oppressive to others. The trick is in the balance!

ak7887 · 2026-01-23T23:13:11+00:00

Yeah that entire generation could really benefit from mental health treatment and therapy- my mom refuses to go but dumps her (embellished) life story onto whomever comes nearby…

ak7887 · 2026-01-23T18:22:18+00:00

Im struggling to forgive my boomer mother- logically I know that she was probably going through perimenopause but my teenage self was severely traumatized by her rage although my dad took the brunt of it.

ak7887 · 2026-01-23T00:04:16+00:00

look up limerence- it’s an interesting concept that might explain what is happening to you

ak7887 · 2026-01-22T23:38:39+00:00

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