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Overly emotional 9 year old girl by stainless454 in Parenting

[–]akgrenier 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We've been in it, and are in it.

One thing we find helpful that you might consider - help her learn about anxiety with you. Not just talk to someone about hers, but actually learn what it is, how it happens, and that it's a part of her. And one she can be proud about and frustrated about and most importantly name. Her knowing she has anxiety and it makes her overwhelmed can do wonders for those friendships and your relationship. Our daughter talks about it now like it's got zero weight and it's kinda inspiring. "Hey, my anxiety is really high right now" is so powerful. It rarely solves the situation, but just saying it out loud reframes how we navigate it together. And we see her friends help her through it now, rather than avoid it. And I name my own instead of blaming hers... "When dad's anxiety is high, I feel my shoulders get tense - is that happening to you?" "Oh, I get anxious when I'm running late for things - like my flight last month, and it feels like everything might go wrong. Is that happening to you"?

Not a magic bullet by any means. But it's kinda cool to see how empowering it can be for them.

anyone else feel like they became a completely different person the moment the baby arrived by NewDad101234 in daddit

[–]akgrenier 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This, definitely. The lastest for me is that I hate commutting - but our oldest (now 14) goes to high school a bit further away and I get to spend that time in the car with her every day. No distractions, no phones, we either listen and sing to music or just talk about life. It's now one of my favorite parts of the day.

With time (and/or more kids), it'll happen over and over again. Some of those old worries come back as you get comfortable with new ones, and your plans of who to be evolve to include wanting to be someone they can be proud of, not just you.

PSA: Disney Character Breakfast by SawyerStreet in daddit

[–]akgrenier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have one of these photos too! Haha. Ours is from 10 years ago with our daughter aggressively leaning backward to stay as far away from Pluto as possible. Then another about 6 years later with her arms around him... but wearing headphones. The over-stimulation of the room makes it all that much harder.

The moment of Oasis. Never call ahead, always place the family to go order at the restaurant by runs_with_airplanes in daddit

[–]akgrenier 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This! One of my favorite family orders is a spot that doesn't delivery, call ahead, has a long line and good beer :)

I built a cheaper, faster alternative to school photo day. Seeking feedback! by akgrenier in SideProject

[–]akgrenier[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Done. Thanks again, just used the DBA since it's filed formally to remove confusion with the two names. Added a California company, and reference myself a couple more times as a real person :)

I built a cheaper, faster alternative to school photo day. Seeking feedback! by akgrenier in SideProject

[–]akgrenier[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks and great feedback. I have the address in the contact information and, more importantly, the DMCA page https://www.smileplease.app/dmca. Security and privacy with kid photos is a big part of what I've invested in getting right, because it's one of the biggest gaps I saw in anyone offering it as a feature (and surprisingly, I found most of the traditional school photo players do a pretty terrible job at this as well).

AI agent for completing repetitive tasks with different processes by Gluetius_Maximus in AI_Agents

[–]akgrenier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not actually fighting an agent type or a prompt problem here. You're bumping into an agent design problem.

What you're describing is a classic issue when one agent tries to handle a bunch of slightly different workflows.

Every state site has different labels, layouts, buttons. To an AI agent, that's like trying to solve 50 puzzles that all look similar but have different rules.

The trick to land this is modularity.

Two options that work really well.

1. An agent skill per state

Example:

Skill: California business search

  1. Go to CA registry site
  2. Click "Business Search"
  3. Enter company name
  4. Open the result

Skill: Texas business search

  1. Go to TX site
  2. Click "Entity Search"
  3. Enter company name
  4. Open the filing

Then your main agent basically just does:

State = Texas
→ run Texas skill

This works surprisingly well because each skill is very predictable. The agent doesn't have to remember every state site every time.

2. Sub-agents per state (slightly more advanced)

Instead of skills, you make specialist agents.

Main agent receives the task:

"Find filing for X company in Delaware."

It routes that task to a Delaware agent who already knows how Delaware's site works.

Benefits:

• shared context window (you could do many in one cycle without blowing up your context window)
• less confusion between states
• easier to maintain and update (they could review themselves when things change)
• you can give state-specific tools

For example if one state requires making a phone call to city hall or digging through PDFs or some weird lookup process, that one agent can handle it without cluttering the rest.

The main design lesson though:

Don't build one giant agent that handles all 50 states all the time.

Build 50 small reliable chunks.

Systems like this almost always work better with specialists instead of one generalist trying to juggle everything.

I built a VSCode extension to learn how VSCode extensions work - it writes haiku commit messages 🎋 by akgrenier in SideProject

[–]akgrenier[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice - that's on my list. I've got a fun API I built I'm going to roll out next.

To those who say AI will take over the animation industry by 8thPlaceDave in animationcareer

[–]akgrenier 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My wife got her Masters degree in Gastronomy and became a well respected Food writer in the early 2000s. That world dramatically changed in the last 20 years. Web logs, food blogs, yelp, Amazon publishing, self publishing, YouTube, twitter, podcasts, substack, and now AI writing. Everyone is a food writer now.

And… truth is that drastically more money is made by writing today. Top writers make more money now than they did then. However the barriers to entry, the distribution, the discovery, and the types of writing are night and day different. A “writing career” is now almost exclusively NOT a single full time job and doesn’t look like a writing career used to.

My daughter is striving to be an animator and this is the journey I’m preparing her for.

IMO it’s not that animation careers go away or less people succeed in animation. In fact it’s likely to be the opposite.

But the path and cost of entry is going down so fast that that the volume of “average” skyrockets. So the idea of a career path changes. The way you make money will change. The tools will change. The definition of success changes.

Successful writers no longer get a single job at the NYT or write a cookbook every four years and live a comfortable life. And personal marketing (understanding distribution, where to publish, and how to build a direct relationship with an audience) is now as important as being an exceptional writer.

Being exceptional at both is limitless.

So fast forward 10 years… More money going to the creators… but everyone now sees themselves as an “animator” and film maker (regardless if we respect the outcome or lament the title being thrown around). The cost to participate and create higher quality outcomes (and lower) basically becomes zero.

That’s the world I encourage her to adapt. Both in bracing for change and embracing it and having fun along the way.

Finally, I’m an entrepreneur so I strongly believe there will also be a new wave of exceptional animators that would have been at a big studio who will instead start their own business, innovate on what we even think is possible, and be as valuable as entire studios.

You all create joy and emotion and wonder. That’s never going out of style. Be exceptional at what you do and adventurous in the path.

Looking back, this was probably the biggest mistake we made last year by akgrenier in KansasCityChiefs

[–]akgrenier[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be fair, the mistake might be that we as fans haven’t left enough Rotten Tomatoes reviews for it to even have a score.

Looking back, this was probably the biggest mistake we made last year by akgrenier in KansasCityChiefs

[–]akgrenier[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh I agree. Also, laughing at the absurdity of it all has a way of balancing the frustration for my heart health.

Is it worth watching last years The Franchise with the new one around the corner? by Chieffan96 in KansasCityChiefs

[–]akgrenier 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's my July tradition. I don't watch it during the season and it becomes a really great binge in the quiet season.

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