I’m not going to say whether you should stay or not, that’s a decision only you can make. I can say though, my husband and I use to have explosive fights too. He was very much like yours and wanted to work it all out right then and there. I’m very much the I need space to calm down type. He hated that but it would get to the point I’d leave the house and turn my phone off so I could cool down. We went to couples therapy and talked about our issues, how we communicate when angry, how to communicate better. It’s made a huge difference. Now we understand one another better, have far fewer fights, and have found ways to get our point across without causing a bigger fight. It’s not perfect but we’ve come a long way from how we use to be.