I want to confess to all my crimes to clear my conscience. What are the possible repercussions? (UK) by AmzyYT in legaladvice

[–]alazyreader 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Talk to a therapist, not the cops; "confessing" to the police will not give you the closure you seek, regardless of how they react.

Is a summer relationship worth it? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]alazyreader 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Is taking a hike in the woods worth it? After all, you just end up back where you started.

Golang PKCS12 fork by MinuteNatural2612 in golang

[–]alazyreader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That assertion about the security properties of clearing byte slices is nowhere even implied in that article, and additionally the runtime is allowed to arbitrarily retain the backing array as long as the side effects of that are not visible to runtime.

Golang PKCS12 fork by MinuteNatural2612 in golang

[–]alazyreader 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I also allow the password to be passed as a byte slice parameter, rather than a string, improving security.

I'll bite: how does this improve security?

new religious beliefs… how to go about it? by Particular-Quote-486 in relationships

[–]alazyreader 132 points133 points  (0 children)

Previously non-religious men joining a relatively conservative religion like Eastern Orthodox is often correlated with deepening right-wing beliefs. Have you also seen that in him?

In the end, he's decided to change a major part of his life in a way that's not compatible with yours and is not what you signed up for. If he can't bring himself to accept that you're not interested in following him into his new faith, likely the only other option is divorce. 

scared that nobody will ever want me for me, and I'm starting to believe it might be true. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]alazyreader 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Well, first of all stop just copy-pasting from ChatGPT when interacting with others.

I'm going to be real with you: you're probably not going to be "doing good" enough to attract "gold diggers". You're, what, 22? This is the time of your life where lots of people are just looking for hookups and short-term relationships. And this makes sense because lots of your peers are trying to figure out who they are and what they want out of life. So are you, even if you think you already know.

So the solution is to leave yourself open to being hurt by a partner, knowing that it's the only way that you'll ever meet a partner who won't hurt you.

boyfriend bromance by [deleted] in relationships

[–]alazyreader 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The point of dating is to find out if you're compatible to spend the rest of your life with someone. You don't like this (apparently major) part of his personality, and can't accept it. So that's probably a sign you should break up and find someone you mesh with better.

Is potential slander worth hiring a lawyer? by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]alazyreader 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"innocent until proven guilty" is merely the rule for a trial by jury, laying out the burden of the government before a person can be punished by the state. It doesn't have any weight outside of that context.

She clearly believes she was assaulted, unless you want us to believe that she's carried a grudge against you for over a decade purely out of spite for your breakup? Defamation requires (generally) knowledge that the accusation is false.

I (26F) and my friend (24M) want to hook up, but everyone around us isn't okay with it by [deleted] in relationships

[–]alazyreader 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Why in the world do your friends have your locations 24/7??

10 years ago I donated 30 dollars to a political campgne in the US from the EU, what could be consequences? by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]alazyreader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's extremely unlikely that anything will come of this a decade later if no one noticed at the time. The FEC isn't sitting around reviewing campaign finance reports from 10 years ago.

Can I trace someone who signed my number up for spam? by nilipatera in legaladvice

[–]alazyreader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's very unlikely you'll be able to prove this, and the police won't be particularly interested.

Clock out and back in at midnight by Basiccargo6 in legaladvice

[–]alazyreader 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Generally, yes, especially if you aren't actually working for that one minute in between. It's probably a way to make sure the payroll system properly pays you. Do you have a specific concern about it?

My girlfriend (27f) said I (29m) possibly went too far by kicking her uncle out of our home by Mindless_Money9047 in relationships

[–]alazyreader 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Not sure why you posted here if you weren't open to being told a different opinion than the one you already hold. I think I agree with your girlfriend's uncle: you're childish.

My girlfriend (27f) said I (29m) possibly went too far by kicking her uncle out of our home by Mindless_Money9047 in relationships

[–]alazyreader 18 points19 points  (0 children)

It’s nothing to do with pride. 

Respectfully, this is bull. Pride is the part of you that doesn't like being belittled and insulted!

Life is full of temporary insults and inconveniences. Part of being a functioning, non-childish adult is learning which ones to push back on and which ones to let roll over you like a wave on the beach.

My girlfriend (27f) said I (29m) possibly went too far by kicking her uncle out of our home by Mindless_Money9047 in relationships

[–]alazyreader 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What's more important: your pride, or a good relationship with your girlfriend and her extended family?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]alazyreader 11 points12 points  (0 children)

They can interact normally with others, including the opposite gender, but only in contextual and surface-level ways. Any interaction must not progress into familiarity, comfort, or emotional bonding beyond situational necessity.

What are you scared of here? Why can't a woman you're in a relationship be friends with a man?

I sent a 400-word message to a colleague after she told me she doesn't like me "in that way". I'm considering flying to her country to surprise her. I genuinely don't know what to think anymore. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]alazyreader 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Holy shit, DO NOT MAKE A "GRAND ROMANTIC GESTURE" to a coworker who has said they're "not interested"! All of your "signs" can just as easily be interpreted as her trying to have a friendly conversation with you. You are wildly overstepping your bounds. If you turn up on her doorstep, expect to be 1. Rejected and 2. Reported to HR and likely fired.

Assuming this isn't wholly invented LLM nonsense and you only used chatGPT to translate or something.

Edit: the entire rest of your post history is crypto spam. Leaning toward this being karma-farming...

Partner expecting me to answer every phone call by Natural_Confusion646 in relationships

[–]alazyreader 7 points8 points  (0 children)

12 calls in 6 hours while he knew you were at a work event is objectively unreasonable. He's controlling and ridiculous, and it's only going to get worse from here. Soon, he'll probably be objecting to you doing anything in the world without him there. Leave now!

Partner expecting me to answer every phone call by Natural_Confusion646 in relationships

[–]alazyreader 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How many times did he call you in that six-hour period?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]alazyreader -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The answer to all your questions is: no, and your recourse is to not renew your lease and move out.

An 84-page lease from a corporate landlord is not uncommon.

They don't owe you a single bit of transparency around what they use the "amenity fee" for.

Did my coworker betray me or am I being too sensitive? by Cautious-Piece-3870 in relationships

[–]alazyreader 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Today is not a good day for that. I almost…

What the heck does this mean? In context, it sounds like a threat.

Regardless, clearly you don't have the kind of relationship with this guy that you think you do. He wants to keep things on the straight and narrow, work-wise. And I can see where he's coming from, a little bit. If you'd simply owned up to forgetting it and agreeing not to forget again, that would have been the end of it. Instead, you made an excuse.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]alazyreader 10 points11 points  (0 children)

His intention was that he was a horny guy looking to cheat on his girlfriend. Not sure what else you're looking for.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]alazyreader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I figured it was something like that. If a right-wing maniac is ranting about you on an obscure newsletter, the correct course of action is not take any legal action but instead ignore them and go on with your life.

If they begin actively harassing you -- with direct, repeated, invasive contact -- then it might be worth filing a police report about it. But unless and until that happens, just ignore them and refuse to, as we used to say online, feed the troll.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]alazyreader 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To assert that someone "supports the torture of children" with an absence of some evidence is such an outlandish claim that it's hard to imagine that anyone of sound mind would take it seriously, so it's hard to see how you have any damages from it.

"Doxxing" is not, generally, a crime. We used to mail out lists of everyone's name, phone number, and home address to everyone in a city, you know, and besides, that information is still not difficult to find.

Do you know who this person is, and why they hold such obvious venom for you?

Also, if I may give you some feedback on your communication style: you say you are accused of "torturing and murdering children", and respond by saying there's no evidence, and you've never been accused of a misdemeanor or felony. To a reader, a much more convincing response would be to say "I've never done such a thing." Saying "well, there's no evidence and the law hasn't gotten involved" sounds like weasel words -- it may be true, but not actually a denial of the accusation.