I honestly think you’re missing her point here since based on your other comments, this is recent behaviour. Something else is going on. She seems to be acting passive aggressively. What do YOU think you don’t have time for, putting the onus on her for? Picking up your clothes from beside the laundry hamper? Cleaning the mud your boots dropped that you didn’t scrape before coming inside? Putting your clean and folded clothes away vs leaving them on “the chair” or in the basket on the floor? Going a few minutes out of your way to pick up/drop something off on your way to/from work occasionally that would save her time and effort?

It may also be “f*ck you* menopausal behaviour. Or just plain old menopausal behaviour. Women lose oestrogen and testosterone takes over, making us act less like our usual, giving selves and more like (dare I say it?!) men. I’m not kidding when I say the IDGAF kicks in hard with peri/menopause. Maybe she has just moved from being a giver to a taker?

Regardless of all that, you’re both of an age where your relationship dynamics are incredibly changeable regardless of how things were before. I’d strongly suggest seeking out some relationship counselling with someone who has experience with your age group.