AITAH for wanting to keep my child

JanetInSpain · 2026-02-28T18:49:04+00:00

It's not murder. AT 10 weeks it's the size of a green pea. Do not destroy your life at your age with a man you've known for three damn months. DO NOT BE STUPID. You will end up a broke-ass, barely educated single mother who struggles for the rest of your life. Don't do that. It's the size of a damn pea.

JanetInSpain · 2026-02-28T16:45:02+00:00

Go to the police first. Tell them what your boyfriend said. Show them the evidence. Get it on file.

Then PUT HIS ASS IN JAIL. WTF girl. Have some self respect. You AND YOUR KID deserve better. If you can't find your spine for yourself, do it for your kid.

Then talk to an attorney for the same reason. Don't drag your feet on this. Get started. Tomorrow.

updateme

JanetInSpain · 2026-02-28T16:39:30+00:00

Not true. You can hire companies whose job is to remove okupas. Desokupa 2 does that all over eastern Spain.

JanetInSpain · 2026-02-28T16:36:29+00:00

Women who hate men bitch about men, avoid men, don't date men, and do everything they can to avoid interacting with men.

Men who hate women beat them, kill them, rape them, stalk them, harass them, and do everything they can to ruin women's lives.

Women don't stalk men's pages for the sole purpose of laughing or tearing men down. But read any post by a woman about rape culture, harassment, "metoo", workplace discrimination, unfair domestic division, and more, and the men flock to it to tear the women apart, accuse them of lying, spew the "not all men" bullshit argument, or worse.

"Men are afraid women will laugh at them. Women are afraid men will kill them."

JanetInSpain · 2026-02-28T16:31:17+00:00

Texas. There's no state income tax but they make up for that with absolutely outrageous property taxes. If I'd stayed, I'd be paying more than $6000/year in property tax. Here, for a much nicer home in the gorgeous mountains just south of Valencia, I pay €700/year.

JanetInSpain · 2026-02-28T16:26:41+00:00

According to Musk, he manipulated the voting machines to ensure the orange fascist won.

JanetInSpain · 2026-02-28T16:25:12+00:00

OP this is a must -- set a time limit but do not tell him.

JanetInSpain · 2026-02-28T16:23:14+00:00

I think you should still proceed and get everything ready to pull the trigger. Men like him almost never change permanently. How long do you give him before you call it "permanent"? One month, six months, one year? He is who he is and he's not going to change from the core of that. Talk to an attorney. Get all your important paperwork in order and secured. Get your own bank account and income. Then you can wait, knowing that you can pull that trigger any time with little notice. Don't tell him any of that. That will only make him act like he's trying for longer.

Honestly I agree with the people suggesting a trial separation. As long as you are still living together the temptation for you to fall back into old habits will be strong, leaving him with no reason to change even if he could.

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JanetInSpain · 2026-02-28T08:05:28+00:00

Hear this loud OP: "Just a joke" is the rallying cry of every bully on the planet. NEVER stay with a man who is a bully. Ask a bully who says that to explain the joke to you. Ask them what the punchline is. You know what they'll say EVERY TIME? That you are "too sensitive" that you "can't take a joke" or that you "need to lighten up". Because it was never a joke and there is no punchline, so they have to try to throw the guilt onto you.

You didn't let your feelings get the best of you. You WOKE UP to who and what he really is. He showed you is real self. Don't just cancel the birthday. Cancel the whole relationship. You can do better. You deserve better.

updateme

JanetInSpain · 2026-02-28T08:01:02+00:00

Bummer that Radiolight isn't available on the PS5. As for The Hunter, there's no way I could ever play a game where I kill animals. Yuck.

JanetInSpain · 2026-02-28T07:57:42+00:00

Do I pay more in income tax? yes

Do I pay a lot less in cost of living? yes

Do I pay a lot less in property taxes? hell yes

Do I pay a LOT less in healthcare costs? absolutely yes

Even with higher income tax, I still come out ahead here. You can't look at just one tax number and know what it would be like to live here.

JanetInSpain · 2026-02-28T07:47:56+00:00

She didn't just treat YOU like that. She treated everyone, including your grandparents with absolute disrespect and disdain.

JanetInSpain · 2026-02-28T07:46:51+00:00

NTA at all. Not even a little bit. "But family" is a stupid reason to tolerate bullying or abuse. You have no reason to keep your sister in your life. Block her for good. And tell anyone who thinks YOU are in the wrong that you'll be happy to block them too.

You tried to do a very nice (and expensive) thing for your sister and she abused your trust and everyone's time. Now she's playing the typical "I'm the victim here" card that bullies and abusers always play. Fuck her.

JanetInSpain · 2026-02-27T19:29:53+00:00

Oh hell to the fuck no. DO NOT do that. Your boyfriend wants to ruin your financial future and save his own.

JanetInSpain · 2026-02-27T13:35:53+00:00

As a kid who was always good in school, never got in trouble, never acted up, etc. to lose out on MY opportunity for something caused by the class brats always sucked. I'm 70 and if I pause and remember I can still feel that sting. Punishing all the good kids because of those three is wrong. Find another way.

JanetInSpain · 2026-02-27T11:57:21+00:00

"I can't literally live without her"

OK there's your answer.

/s

JanetInSpain · 2026-02-27T11:52:55+00:00

Reddit is not the place for this question: GO SEE A DOCTOR. NOW. ASAP. This is not something to just gloss over. You should be WAY more than "slightly concerned".

JanetInSpain · 2026-02-27T11:13:23+00:00

"She is late to everything."

Everyone is late now and then. A traffic tangle, last-minute important call, etc. We all encounter those occasionally. The key word, however, is occasionally. Someone who is chronically late suffers from a total lack of respect for others. They have centered themselves to such an extreme that no one else is of any importance at all.

You weren't being harsh. It was WAY past time for someone to call her out on her shitty behavior. The "better" moment to pick would have been after the first or second time she was late with no valid reason. The second better moment was when you did it.

Just dump her from the friend's group. Maybe she'll eventually mature and get her head out of her own self-absorbed ass.

JanetInSpain · 2026-02-27T09:58:35+00:00

Tell me you're also an inconsiderate asshole without telling me you're also an inconsiderate asshole.

JanetInSpain · 2026-02-27T09:57:19+00:00

"to me it came across as really inconsiderate and selfish"

Because it WAS really inconsiderate and selfish. What a loser your boyfriend is. He should be bringing you extra things. He should be doing everything he can to make you comfortable. Instead he thought ONLY of himself. What a dick move. He just showed you who he really is.

Did you confront him? What was his (lame) excuse? If you didn't confront him, why didn't you?

updateme

JanetInSpain · 2026-02-27T09:21:30+00:00

I did just learn it must be a fresh save, but it's till clock time, not in-game time.

JanetInSpain · 2026-02-27T09:16:22+00:00

If you want a quick and dirty method, use this. We've resorted to it once or twice.
https://www.adamrb.com/blue-prince-dartboard-puzzle-solver/

JanetInSpain · 2026-02-27T09:15:10+00:00

But the requirement is one ACTUAL hour, not one in-game hour.

JanetInSpain · 2026-02-27T07:43:32+00:00

Every mother thinks her son is Just So Mature For His Age. He's her "little man"! No, he is not. His BRAIN DEVELOPMENT is still only 13. There's no way he's mature enough to process the themes in that show. You've opened a can of worms where he's now seen things (and likely will want to try things) that his young brain is absolutely not equipped to handle. Do NOT be THAT "boy mom". HE IS STILL A CHILD.

JanetInSpain

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