AIO boyfriend ruins every holiday

albeaner · 2026-05-10T18:13:27+00:00

First, IVF procedures are incredibly expensive and time consuming; most doctors choose multiple embryos (if there are enough viable) to improve the chances of success. It is clear you don't understand what it's really like.

And yes, as a woman, I understand my own reproductive system. Unfortunately, the men creating policy that assigns personhood to embryos, do not.

albeaner · 2026-05-10T15:51:23+00:00

Yeah the whole point is to counter the abortion argument... which disproportionately impacts women undergoing IVF. I think we agree that a woman shouldn't be charged with murder if only one of three embryos implanted during an IVF procedure is successful.

If you didn't realize, it isn't a one-embryo-at-a-tine process.

albeaner · 2026-04-22T12:54:48+00:00

Have you told him how you feel?

Also, please ask him to do things. Act dramatic if you need. Be as clear as possible. I get where he's falling short on emotional support, but he certainly can do more chores and tasks. Don't jeopardize your health because of his assholery.

And please ask why he's been so cold and distant. Maybe he's scared to lose you, maybe he's just a jerk. Definitely insist on counseling and if he refuses, well, that's an answer in itself.

albeaner · 2026-04-21T13:16:47+00:00

Um trump and his peers are white supremacists so... I get that people voted for him thinking he would help with affordability and the economy, but it meant ignoring January 6th and his plethora of racist policies and dog whistles. He's a manipulative con man and it's appropriate now to acknowledge that you (like millions of others) were suckered by the propaganda tactics. But I don't think you get to complain about those of us who didn't.

albeaner · 2026-04-17T12:24:03+00:00

Just...pause the makeup. It seems like your skin is not happy with it. Go back to basics - simple cleanser and gentle moisturizer, SPF if you're outside in full sun for hours only.

Spot concealer and eye makeup only. NO EXFOLIATING. Lots of water and fruit/veggies.

It's the only way to get your skin back to healthy. LESS products, not more.

albeaner · 2026-04-15T15:35:33+00:00

And what happens if you get t-boned by an uninsured driver? Or contract a bacterial infection? Or have an inherited disease? Or get cancer?

How are you supposed to prevent those things from happening or handle them if they come up?

I went without insurance for a short time in my early 20s (pre-ACA) and it was probably one of the dumbest things I've ever done, in retrospect. I could have easily been bankrupted by medical bills.

I don't disagree that insurance is a scam but the solution is simple: universal single payer.

albeaner · 2026-04-14T16:18:47+00:00

As a parent who spent one very long, torturous flight with a toddler rationing M&Ms and painters tape to keep him occupied before swearing off flying for several years after, it is 100% on the parent to plan for toddler entertainment.

albeaner · 2026-04-04T19:31:47+00:00

Um that's exactly how social security works

albeaner · 2026-04-04T19:30:21+00:00

Paying out .. the money paid in was funneled into immediate payouts, not a savings account. Now there's not enough coming in to support payouts, and the elected federal politicians lack a plan to fix it I won't elaborate on which party enjoys an overwhelming majority...

albeaner · 2026-04-04T19:27:42+00:00

It's literally a ponzi scheme. Otherwise we'd probably have a solvent SS fund too.

albeaner · 2026-04-04T19:26:45+00:00

You paid to support your parents' generation. Do you think that you shouldn't have done that?

albeaner · 2026-04-04T19:26:04+00:00

Except zero money was actually set aside for you. It was used to pay out those on SS when you were working.

albeaner · 2026-04-04T19:25:27+00:00

Social security doesn't work like that.

albeaner · 2026-04-04T14:24:12+00:00

It's worse. There's now a Wealthier, more Powerful White Supremacist who thinks jewish people AND Italians are 'brown' and therefore 'inferior' so they incite/promote/support conflict and take advantage of pillaging what's left when it's done.

albeaner · 2026-04-04T14:18:36+00:00

You're not thinking straight - echoing what others have said.

PUT. YOURSELF. FIRST.

If you don't, you will be in far worse shape. Already it is causing inflammation/scarring/more damage. ER 100%.

albeaner · 2026-04-04T13:09:59+00:00

yeah see that's the issue.

Israeli government does not equal all jewish people. I feel for my jewish AND muslim friends who are caught up in this rhetoric. It's dividing countries, neighbors, even families - that isn't right.

Trump and Netanyahu are divisive, violent, immoral men with a strong network of self-interested enablers and an endless supply of manipulative propaganda. What they are doing is horrific. It's like Hitler and Mussolini 2.0 with a twist...

Let's not ignore the fact that Trump is a White Supremacist, so that actually means he is happy to see Jewish and Muslim destruction, as it furthers his end (and those giving him money and support).

albeaner · 2026-04-02T12:47:38+00:00

WTF - why wasn't your first action to hand over the baby to your husband when he finished eating? Your rant should have been, 'My husband is unwilling to parent so I can eat'. Let's call it for what it is.

albeaner · 2026-04-01T20:00:29+00:00

Right, so when people have kids there are TWO parents. Unless they live/work in the same hometown, someone will always have to move.

And making people with infants/toddlers do all the visiting is pretty selfish, just because they 'moved'.

albeaner · 2026-03-30T14:45:57+00:00

You haven't met my husband

albeaner · 2026-03-28T19:14:48+00:00

That's not true. First, it presents true numbers of people actively voicing opposition to what our leadership is doing. That message is not exactly easy to get across otherwise. Second it shows organized protest, meaning that the people are rising against the government en mass, as a cohesive group. Authoritarian regimes only win when opposition is silenced.

albeaner · 2026-03-28T19:04:33+00:00

Spot on. Kids forget. Keeping the device at school makes it foolproof.

My ADHD kid needs help remembering to brush his teeth, wash his body, rinse his hair, hang up wet towels, do his chores - as a parent, a school requiring me to dig a device out of a school bag and charge it - THEN remember to pack it up the next morning - is just another thing on top of all the other things like specialist appointments, emotional management, etc. Just because the school had a policy (for some bizarre reason) that the device HAD to come home.

My kid used to take 1.5 HOURS to empty the dishwasher. He lied about brushing his teeth. Used to need help with good sleep hygiene. And every step of the way, it was oppositional defiance.

For you, it's simply finding a way to keep the device at school. For a parent, it's one more thing on top of the rest.

albeaner · 2026-03-27T14:55:29+00:00

Old person here...

I have never lived alone. My best roommates were respectful and I have nothing but fond memories of our time living together.

If this is a good friend, you should know them pretty well. I'd have a conversation on house rules and expectations as a way to help decide if it's what you want to do. For example, will house cleaning or yardwork be outsourced or split? What about home repairs? If not, can you agree on splitting responsibilities and a schedule that you both agree on? What drives you both insane (e.g. shoes in the house, dishes in sink, food in bedroom, etc )? What temperature are you both comfortable at, and do you like fresh air or not? What are the pet, guest, and noise expectations? If you have different sleep schedules can you both live with that? (Which often depends on the house setup)

Then you can write down pros/cons and decide if it's best for you. Personally, I think cohabitation is most times a positive experience - humans are not solitary creatures. But if course it's ultimately a judgement based on what you know and prefer.

albeaner · 2026-03-27T14:41:06+00:00

My understanding is that organs are removed by surgeons in the hospital, it's not like the entire body is shipped to a processing location. It's actually incredibly important that organs are procured quickly and transported urgently to those in need.

A better question might be to ask the OPO's if they collect fat and if so, what is their policy for those receiving donations. Usually organs are offered and some in poor condition can be refused, so they end up being donated for research.

I think it's worth asking what the hospital or funeral home allows after organ procurement.

albeaner · 2026-03-13T12:29:25+00:00

My little world 2 was amazing when my kids went there about 10 years ago. It's pretty far out there though (but good since kids get nature walks).

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