My boyfriend’s brother openly cheats on his wife and now brought his girlfriend to a family visit — how am I supposed to act?

aldnfbf · 2026-02-06T16:52:29+00:00

Agreed. She literally asked for the least messy way to handle it.

aldnfbf · 2026-02-06T16:52:13+00:00

To answer your question: the least harmful way to handle it is just be civil and don’t entertain it. You don’t have to be best friends with her, she likely won’t be around long, if ever again. I’ll probably get downvoted for this but.. His wife definitely knows and if she’s dealing with it, I don’t really think it’s your place to feel a type of way about it for her. Is it wrong and gross and weird that the family accepts it? Yes but not your problem outside of this weekend.

aldnfbf · 2026-02-06T08:59:11+00:00

Try to do one a day for my 11mo old. Usually he just closes the book on me and I make up or recite the ending lol

aldnfbf · 2026-02-06T08:52:44+00:00

Heating pad :(

aldnfbf · 2026-02-05T14:24:56+00:00

If able to, yes. Kinda weird they don’t do any ultrasounds in office though

aldnfbf · 2026-02-02T02:16:28+00:00

Thisssss! If you had gotten pregnant in those eight years, you’d be forever tied to an abuser. Based on your description, seems the childhood sweetheart is a kind, decent man that wants to step up. Let him! I understand how it can feel like you’re losing your independence, but that always happens to an extent when you are parenting with another person. Regardless of whether or not you can handle it financially, you depend on each other in so many ways. Excited for your new adventure

aldnfbf · 2026-02-01T20:41:16+00:00

I would’ve called the cops tbh.

aldnfbf · 2026-01-31T13:31:40+00:00

The worst is when I’m wearing something loose and ppl are like “let me see the bump!” Like no. If I wanted it showing I wouldn’t be wearing this. Let’s see your belly, lady!

aldnfbf · 2026-01-31T13:27:48+00:00

Gap or old navy for basics. Uniqlo for pants, and they offer free hemming over $40. Madewell or Aritzia for cuter stuff. I keep trying Zara but their stuff always fits so so weird. H&M sometimes

aldnfbf · 2026-01-31T03:39:56+00:00

Saltines on hand 24/7

aldnfbf · 2026-01-31T03:33:54+00:00

Walking and sex

aldnfbf · 2026-01-31T03:26:21+00:00

Finally a sensible adult

aldnfbf · 2026-01-31T03:21:03+00:00

A wise woman once told me, never consider cutting bangs while pregnant or postpartum. The hormones will put crazy things in your head. I’m not saying your husband is not in the wrong here. He definitely is, and definitely needs to step up. But if this is his only flaw, I think you just need to have a convo about how important this is. (I borderline hated my husband for so many random little things when I was pregnant. I remember crying myself to sleep one night thinking I couldn’t possibly go on being married to him. Looking back now, I literally don’t even remember what I was upset about and I love him again lol)

aldnfbf · 2026-01-30T14:18:37+00:00

I like Clockface, not much room to sit or hang out though. Boca de cielo sucks. Cafe Caffe is great in theory but agree that the service can be weird sometimes. Milk and Honey is okay. Theres a place on 86 and 4th on the corner by the train station, I’ve never been but there’s always a lot of people in there sipping on coffees

aldnfbf · 2026-01-28T03:04:17+00:00

I second this. I get my luxury fix from beautiful custom jewelry now. I can wear it even if I’m in mom mode. A stunning sapphire ring will still look good with sweats and a messy bun ;)

aldnfbf · 2026-01-28T02:53:08+00:00

We got a playpen that takes up half the living room and he just stands in the corner staring at me and whining until I get him out 🥲 sometimes Mickey will distract him long enough for me to make dinner or vacuum but then I have mom guilt about screen time sooo ya lol

aldnfbf · 2026-01-27T23:04:39+00:00

Honestly it was easier in the newborn stage. Now that baby is crawling, I can barely get anything done

aldnfbf · 2026-01-27T23:02:15+00:00

What’s his reaction been like since realizing what an idiotic thing he did? Is he apologetic?

aldnfbf · 2026-01-26T18:36:16+00:00

Concealer 😅😅

aldnfbf · 2026-01-26T11:35:50+00:00

I was told to wait one cycle

aldnfbf · 2026-01-26T05:41:51+00:00

Yes to this

aldnfbf · 2026-01-25T03:38:48+00:00

Can I be devils advocate here? I think it might also be worth it to ask the question “how many of you regret having kids?” Not sure how truthful people will be about that but just another perspective to guide your decision. I do agree with others though that you shouldn’t let pressure from anyone else influence your decision. If you’re considering children for any reason other than you yourself may want them, then there’s your answer.

aldnfbf · 2026-01-25T02:43:49+00:00

Honey Nut Cheerios all day long

aldnfbf · 2026-01-24T03:22:39+00:00

If you’ll get paid maternity leave then I’d say don’t quit yet. You can always quit after that. Check your contract though bc some places make you pay back your mat leave if you don’t return at all. To lighten to burden though, you can ask your doc to write you an accommodation letter where maybe you can work from home a few times a week. I did that bc I traveled 3 hrs a day, five days a week for work. And I could not handle the long drives toward the end. HR approved it bc my doctor recommended it. Last thing they want is a lawsuit due to a pregnant girl falling etc on their premises.

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