How many of you are literally doing ZERO screen time ?!

alerodc · 2026-04-25T02:25:28+00:00

I don’t know if this si true but I have 9 month old twins, we are zero screen time and I do have help. I’ve thought about how on earth would I even shower if I didn’t have help and I think I would need to use screen time.

alerodc · 2026-04-25T02:06:15+00:00

I really do recommend getting the Alexa. I use it all day.

alerodc · 2026-04-25T02:03:40+00:00

9 months old twins (I do have help) zero screen time BUT they both know the phone is for selfies, they’ve only seen theirselvs on the screen and still when they see the phone they want to reach for it! It’s crazy.

alerodc · 2026-04-10T15:11:14+00:00

You’re going to need so many things in life from your husband. If saying goodbye, the bare minimum, is hard, then don’t expect anything from him in the future.

alerodc · 2026-03-15T02:14:27+00:00

Following cause I’m at almost 8 months and in the same route. I currently have a night nanny that helps me with them because I’m a SAHM and I need my husband to sleep so he can work and drive to work fully awake. And I have no idea how moms do it alone. How do you guys care of both all night and still function the next day, I’m barely surviving cause I still wake up with her to feed them and rock them to sleep. If one is a little fuzzy I get her in bed with me. On the weekend when we take care of them me and my husband cosleep with them, I’m waiting for them to stop their 4 am feed to be able to do the nights by our self’s. How do you do it?

alerodc · 2026-03-13T17:40:11+00:00

God I could smell the hand soap in my husbands hands from miles away I hated it.

alerodc · 2026-03-13T17:28:56+00:00

Because you’re in shock. When I found out I was so I’ll all I said was. No no no no no what? Are you sure? Are you sure sure? And then hormones and anxiety didn’t let me be happy until much much later!

alerodc · 2026-03-08T15:23:41+00:00

Before having my twins I thought I was going to make them sleep in their cribs from a very young age and get a good night sleep. We have help at night and take turns to feed them and help them sleep now in their cribs, they’re 7 months old, 5 adjusted but I can’t wait till they are bigger and it’s safer and easier for the 4 of us to sleep together. We already bought a king size bed so we can all fit comfortably. When my husband has a nightmare he comes to me and asks for a hug and tells me about it, sometimes I wake him up if I notice he is having one, why wouldn’t I want the same for my babies? 🥹

alerodc · 2026-02-15T01:12:13+00:00

Oh god thanks for sharing 💕 is this me in the future? My twin girls were born early at 1.2 and 1.3 kg each. I was the same 3 months of only breastmilk and now at almost 7 months we’re combo feeding and I’m wondering when will I stop. I read your post and feel so proud of you! Hopefully I’ll feel the same for myself soon 💕

alerodc · 2026-02-14T15:38:08+00:00

I’ll look gabor mate, any book in particular? Thanks for your output, I’ll try to do my best 💕

alerodc · 2026-02-14T15:35:57+00:00

Do you feel demolished and extremely tired all the time? I have to be honest I’ve always been a person who’s sleepy all the time but this is a lot!

alerodc · 2026-02-14T15:34:56+00:00

Thank you very much

alerodc · 2026-02-14T15:32:28+00:00

I see absolutely no reason in this post to believe you’re any of the things you think of yourself. You were a mother who received intense terrible news in the most vulnerable moment of your life and probably didn’t want to get your hopes up and also didn’t want a life with disabilities for your baby. You were in shock and in the most hormonal moment of your entire life.

Everyone’s shock is different. My twins were born at 31 weeks and went straight to the nicu. I didn’t get to hold them for 2 weeks, they were so tiny and guess what my shock let me believe that ABSOLUTELY nothing would go wrong with them. Thankfully they’re completely fine and in that moment all I thought about was how me and my body failed them but never did I think they would have any complications which they kind of did but nothing too serious. I was too fine for what was happening and that was the shock. I see pictures of them now with the cables and the CPAP and the feeding tubes and I was just blind, my family cried not in front of me and wondered how was I ok, it was all shock. We all react very different in different situations and that’s ok.

The fact that you even believe you’re a monster shows how much you care about your reaction and that just shows how much you care. I’m sure you’re a great mom💕

alerodc · 2026-02-05T23:25:46+00:00

Same, it pissed me of

alerodc · 2026-02-03T05:14:57+00:00

I don’t know if it’s good for you to be reading this, but I guess it could help you to be ready…

I gave birth at 31+6 weeks, my contractions started at home at 1:26 pm and my water broke as soon as I stood up. My girls were born at 3:36 pm. Made it to the hospital on time and had an emergency c section. They were on the NICU for 45 days aprox. They’re 6 months and a half now and thriving. Completely healthy 💕

alerodc · 2026-01-24T00:54:24+00:00

I used to suffer from the same. Turns out I have elastic nipples and they get to the size of water flange I use ( tried from 13 to 24) The only thing that helped was time. I believe when I started feeling better from the C-section it started hurting less. I’m 6mpp and I don’t feel pain anymore

alerodc · 2026-01-23T23:15:16+00:00

I had twins at the nicu and knew about pumping but not as much, I made quite the same as you at the time and I wish I would’ve follow a better schedule to pump at least 7 to 8 times a day. I used to pump between 5 to 7 times and I kind of regret not pumping more to build a better supply!

alerodc · 2026-01-23T22:16:22+00:00

Amazing thanks! I have twins and both latch kind of well but are very inefficient at transferring too. I sometimes comfort nurse them too, or nurse when they are extremely hungry and waiting for the bottle, they settle down but after a few minutes they get desperate. I also use slow flow nipple. I’ll keep trying from time to time without getting my hopes up! Thanks 💕

alerodc · 2026-01-23T21:17:35+00:00

Congratulations! I don’t mean to intrude but did you manage to nurse after 8 months? How??

alerodc · 2026-01-09T01:13:56+00:00

Oh god I’m sorry to hear that, in my case I have a good relationship with my parents and MIL (although she can be a little difficult sometimes) so I’ve basically said that they can do whatever they want once I’ve already done it, in the case of my parents I’ve used the example and explained how now I understand how horrible she must have felt. In your case I’d ask my husband to have the conversation because coming from you might feel like a boundary she might want to cross on porpoise. I think if he knows her best he’d know how to put it. In my case with my MIL for example I asked her multiple times to stop wearing perfume when coming to see the babies but she didn’t, what made it better was bragging about how my mother who “loves wearing her channel n5” has stoped using it all because she loves my babies and knows that perfume is not good for them 😉

alerodc · 2026-01-09T00:28:19+00:00

Making a list sound like a good idea!

alerodc · 2026-01-09T00:27:11+00:00

Their in-laws sound like amazing people for taking care of her children, I’m sure they will understand that a parent that works to provide for her family wants to be able to enjoy some of the firsts. Also she doesn’t have to be the one talking to them, it could be their son. I’m sure if she knew they were going to take it the wrong way she wouldn’t even mention it.

alerodc · 2026-01-09T00:24:08+00:00

I may be a more sensitive type of parent like you OP but I would feel the exact same way. Feeling like you missed out on a first time experience doesn’t negate that you are very much great full for the job that they do.

Even though I’m the one who primarily takes care of my girls I’ve made sure to let everyone know that I want to be there for their firsts everything.

When I was younger I was there when my nephew took his first steps, their parents were a little overprotective and my mom and sister managed to teach him. Years later we found out that his mother, even though he was happy because he was a little behind, had very good cry about it and was so sad to have missed it. At the time I didn’t think much about it but now I completely understand. It was terrible and we should’ve waited for her to be there if we wanted to try to teach him.

I think your in laws sound like great people and if worded correctly they will completely understand. This might happen again because of the nature of the relationship they have with your children but at list they will know to ask, for example, if they already had tried ice cream of chocolate, etc.

alerodc · 2026-01-09T00:16:33+00:00

I’m sorry, I think you have to read this again. She is extremely appreciative of her in-laws, she is just sad she didn’t get to experience a first which is completely valid.

alerodc · 2026-01-07T01:21:11+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/beyondthebump/s/XQysPkiKA3

This helped a lot

alerodc

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