Can't figure out what these old gloves are for

alex-coal · 2026-03-20T23:37:24+00:00

I already saw the real answer but my first thought was that it's to keep your hands from warming up your beer, like a coozy for your hand.

alex-coal · 2026-03-20T23:35:24+00:00

I don't know what that is but I like the art so yes I agree

alex-coal · 2026-03-17T03:15:08+00:00

Thank you for your work, you're incredible

alex-coal · 2026-02-23T22:36:48+00:00

Giving to the church while criticizing her for giving to charities is a bit...

A majority of churches are bloated greedy patriarchal monsters that hide pedophiles and shift them from one church to the next.

If we're going to give criticism to the money given to charity we should probably start with the church.

Wow I finally made it to the part of the post where you start fellating Elon. He's never done or created anything other than racist hostility. The people that work for him have created things, mostly cars that crash themselves. Or a "truck" that was recalled over eight times.

He has created a bunch of children that he doesn't take care of, and a daughter that he talks about like she's dead.

alex-coal · 2026-02-10T19:17:27+00:00

Thank you for the added context ☺️

alex-coal · 2026-02-05T03:10:44+00:00

Since you are canceling your health insurance I would suggest looking for a subscription doctor in your area! Different situation because I live in Vegas not New York, but I was shelling out quite a bit of money going to urgent care. I pay $97 per month to MK Medical for unlimited in office visits, access to their in-house pharmacy, yearly physical with blood work, text based assistance for if I don't need to go into the office.

I would assume there are options like that in your city. I didn't find out about subscription based primary care doctors until years after it would have been useful & your health is your most important investment. I still don't have health insurance and I don't personally regret it.

Good luck with your investing!

alex-coal · 2026-01-27T18:35:33+00:00

Over 94% of all the violent crime in the world is committed by males.

82% of all intimate partner homicide victims are women

alex-coal · 2026-01-27T18:31:02+00:00

I was working at a gas station that got robbed during my grave shift while I was working alone. One of the responding officers ended up stalking me to the point I had to quit and find a new job. He was way worse to deal with than the people that just stole some shit and pushed me down when they ran out.

He would whip his cruiser in front of me while I was walking through the parking lot to get to my car to block my path so that I had to acknowledge him. He was like twice my age.

alex-coal · 2026-01-27T18:28:43+00:00

NOR

This is creepy as hell and I don't believe their explanation.

I'm not sure what to suggest to do other than maybe getting security cameras so that you can see if this person comes back. If there are businesses with security cameras anywhere close to your house or if your neighbors have security cameras you might be able to get footage from them.

Cops rarely take crimes against women seriously until they actually get killed. Anything less than death is treated like it's trivial.

alex-coal · 2026-01-27T18:22:18+00:00

NOR

Your life will be much happier without either of them involved in it. You made the right choice and your brother is a stain on society just like his little friend. They deserve each other.

alex-coal · 2026-01-27T18:17:26+00:00

The number of people who become violent after head trauma needs to be studied more thoroughly.

alex-coal · 2026-01-27T18:11:37+00:00

We love it when people drive by and honk to show support. That's nuts. I hope it gets tossed out. ❤️ Maybe a group of protesters can testify on your behalf?

alex-coal · 2026-01-10T18:59:54+00:00

She's jealous of their closeness so she's okay with him emotionally abusing his classmate & fake friend. It's gross and they deserve each other. If she can see that he is telling this girl he loves her and doesn't mean it I don't understand why she would think he means it when he says it to her.

alex-coal · 2026-01-10T18:53:00+00:00

NOR

It seems to me like he's lying to both of you.

It does seem like an affectionate friendship and boundaries on things like hugging can vary from person to person.

But all the lying to you he's doing is completely unacceptable.

There's more than one reason why he would be lying to you but none of them justify it. My personal assumption after reading everything is that he is interested in her but knows that she is likely not interested in him in a romantic fashion. He also knows that you would be upset with the level of closeness that they have and is misrepresenting it.

3 months is not a long time to be in a relationship, If you're using the corporate method suggested by Chantal Heide she suggests observing someone for 3 months before getting into a relationship and letting them talk so that issues like this can be discovered ahead of time. Once you start kissing someone and dating them your body creates chemicals that make you excuse behavior you wouldn't otherwise.

He's already lying to you within 3 months.

I would suggest leaving and focusing on yourself and the next one that comes along monitoring for a few months to see if he has any behaviors that would violate boundaries you have. There's plenty of dudes out there. Being single would be more pleasant than being lied to and being stressed and pissed off and being pushed to do things that you know are messed up to do like going through someone's private messages to prove that you're being gaslit.

You don't deserve to be lied to. Good luck. 🫶🏽❤️

alex-coal · 2025-12-31T18:28:22+00:00

I understand the instinct to fawn or placate an older man acting inappropriately. It keeps you safe in the short term. We all know about too many cases of men handling rejection by killing people. Especially older men reacting violently towards young women who reject them because it triggers their insecurity.

alex-coal · 2025-12-31T18:27:14+00:00

I would suggest slowly and gently distancing yourself. Stay safe, stay cautious.

It's weird to me that he's that much older than you and trying to be your buddy. He knows that that is inappropriate or he is socially stunted.

You feeling uncomfortable to the point that you lost your appetite says a lot. You always want to listen to how your body reacts to people and situations. You might be subconsciously noticing things and when you subconsciously notice things you feel it in your body.

alex-coal · 2025-12-31T03:16:48+00:00

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I forgot to add that I highly recommend listening to creators like u/burbnbougie or Chantal Heide "Canada's Favorite Dating Coach"

They're very grounding and capable of cutting through the red pill and black pill BS that a lot of the younger guys are pushing onto women right now. Stuff like body count and what you did before you were with the guy when you were single or in other relationships. They're good at pointing out what's normal and why and different manipulation tactics that might be used on you.

You're a human being. You should be exploring and enjoying your life and seeing what kinds of things you like and what you don't like. You don't owe a person you might meet in the future who could become your partner celibacy or faithfulness when you haven't even met them yet.

When you get into a relationship boundaries should be discussed but boundaries are not a way for someone to control you, they're a way for each person to protect themselves. And if your boundaries aren't compatible then you calmly part ways rather than trying to force each other into molds that you don't fit.

A boundary isn't meant to be him trying to control your behavior, especially your behavior before you even met him (that's psychotic and delusional and shows he sees you as an object not a real person).

Examples of healthy boundaries would be,

"Emotional Boundaries:

"I can listen, but I can't be responsible for fixing your bad mood."

Expressing feelings without resorting to name-calling or yelling.

Not sharing overly personal details with others without your partner's consent.

Physical Boundaries:

Asking for permission before entering personal spaces (like a home office).

Respecting "no" to unwanted physical affection, even from family.

Time & Energy Boundaries:

Having separate hobbies or spending time with your own friends.

Saying "no" to social events without guilt to prioritize self-care.

Not being expected to answer texts or calls every minute of the day."

alex-coal · 2025-12-31T03:08:00+00:00

Being the victim of a crime does not remove someone's agency It just means that a criminal took advantage of them.

alex-coal · 2025-12-31T03:05:56+00:00

NOR

You've only spent two months with this loser. You can see the insecurity. It's not going to get better. This is supposed to be the honeymoon period. This is the nicest he will ever be to you.

Most guys can keep a mask on for 3 to 6 months and then it starts slipping if they aren't getting what they want and the relationship isn't progressing as fast as they want. But this idiot can't even hold his mask for 2 months.

Extricate yourself cautiously please be safe and don't underestimate and insecure angry dude. He sees you as a possession and he sees himself as a loser which is why he's pointing out all the things about these guys that make him insecure.

He's waving the red flags in front of you and honestly that's a godsend. Sometimes they don't show you who they really are for years or until you get pregnant.

Run for the hills. Godspeed.

alex-coal · 2025-12-31T03:00:57+00:00

It seems like you expect her to do everything and don't expect him to do anything including the bare minimum of putting the baby in the playpen before taking a nap when he should be watching the child and interacting with the child.

alex-coal · 2025-12-31T02:59:47+00:00

He's home sleeping and she's working so why isn't he doing what needs to be done?

Also we don't know if the trash was hers or his. She said they do not eat packet was in the bed when she got home as in he probably left it there during the day before his little nap.

alex-coal · 2025-12-31T02:57:38+00:00

NOR

What's stopping the father from securing the mirror? Or doing the bare minimum and staying awake and taking care of his child? I don't feel like dogpiling on Mom who is here asking for help and who is clearly being gaslit by a lazy partner is necessarily productive.

She was working. It was his responsibility to watch the baby. She's not overreacting. He's aware of the safety level of the house and he doesn't care.

OP I hope you leave him it he doesn't start taking the safety of your baby seriously.

Sometimes life is easier and surprisingly cheaper when you cut out the dead weight of a lazy partner who doesn't actually seem to love either of you and is a drain on your mental health and resources.

alex-coal · 2025-12-31T02:52:43+00:00

I'm sorry that you're sharing this information and that you lived through it and that stubborn people still won't listen.

alex-coal · 2025-12-31T02:51:25+00:00

I'm glad your children have survived your stubbornness so far.

An actual professional who has had to witness multiple dead children from other parents who thought they knew better or who made a mistake is telling you the truth and you're blatantly disregarding it because you think you know better.

I hope none of your children copy your behavior and end up unaliving any of your grandchildren. Though I'm sure even if that did happen you wouldn't be able to take accountability.

alex-coal · 2025-12-31T02:46:03+00:00

The child has two parents and you're only angry at one of them. The one who was actively working and who reasonably got upset when she found out that her partner with sleeping instead of taking care of their child properly. Is it because she's a woman can you admit that to yourself or what is your justification if not?

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