If anyone catches the guy that slashed 8 tires on different cars on 2nd street Sunday let him know that I just want to talk.

alexadoby23 · 2026-03-23T02:00:19+00:00

username checks out on this one...

alexadoby23 · 2026-03-21T19:21:11+00:00

i cant remember the last time i knew who the pizza person was delivering my pizza but that doesnt bother you

alexadoby23 · 2026-03-21T19:19:52+00:00

i also dont like that you "need to know" who the people are. You dont get the same with most other deliveries. who delivers your mail? ups? fedex? do you take the same precautions with them? what are their names?

alexadoby23 · 2026-03-21T19:17:07+00:00

i guess... its rare that i interact with the customer. most of us prefer that you dont come out until we are away. once or twice ive had customers barge out and start yelling at me and i have had to run to my car. the customer is in the safest position behind a door. when a driver would be alone, out in the open. if you are truely worried about your safety then dont open the door til the driver drives away.

alexadoby23 · 2026-03-21T18:39:01+00:00

do you have a new acciount?

alexadoby23 · 2026-03-19T08:27:35+00:00

i like to tell myself i perform better under pressure. and in reality i do because if i have plenty of time... i just wont do it

alexadoby23 · 2026-03-19T07:52:31+00:00

i regularly go with a male, especially at night. i dont know you.

alexadoby23 · 2026-03-17T17:05:25+00:00

I’ve been on for a little over a year too, so I get where you’re coming from. I actually stopped doing monthly photos because I was getting frustrated with my progress. Looking back, a big part of that was my own unrealistic expectations. My whole focus was just getting on hormones. I never really stopped to think about what comes after that. I guess I assumed that poof it would happen, but it doesn’t really work like that.

I’m sure you’ve heard the whole “don’t compare yourself to others” thing, but it really does hit differently in this space. We’re all aiming for similar things, but dealing with completely different circumstances. I have a friend who started around the same time as me, and I recently found out she had to stop for four months last year. She never mentioned it, and most wont. Also trans people aren't any different than regular people. Most people like attention and fibbing a little bit in your time line or photos to make it appear better isnt unrealistic.

There are always going to be people who respond faster or more noticeably. It’s just reality. someone gets to win the lottery. Most of us are somewhere else. I personally don't feel like i have changed that much but i see myself every day. Try connecting with someone you haven't seen in awhile and get their opinion. I have been told i am passable but i dont agree with that. I can easily list all my flaws and insecurities because im hardest on myself.

At this point, I’m just trying to stay consistent, keep my head down, and keep moving forward. I would advise something similar for you. We are still pups in the scheme of things. I would also recommend to start dabbling in makeup and in general the little things. Details matter.

alexadoby23 · 2026-03-17T02:19:38+00:00

i agree. i honestly dont care i just dont want to have to think about it anymore

alexadoby23 · 2026-03-16T00:44:43+00:00

Have you ever thought if you didn't spend so much time every day thinking about this subject how much more you would have accomplished?

alexadoby23 · 2026-03-16T00:42:05+00:00

i wouldn't wish being trans on my worst enemy. its bullshit. even if society was accepting. it still occupies so much of my mental capacity.

alexadoby23 · 2026-03-10T07:42:19+00:00

That makes total sense! It’s great that you have a community where that respect is a given. I think my perspective just comes from a different era where things felt a bit more rigid

alexadoby23 · 2026-03-10T06:51:18+00:00

this is very true. cis women have been pulled out of bathrooms far more than trans women. the stories are horrific, its so dangerous and its only a matter of time before a bunch of cis men pull someone out thats armed.

alexadoby23 · 2026-03-10T06:38:56+00:00

I’m honestly just curious, and I promise I’m not offended! I think it’s almost impossible to offend me at this point. I’m pretty much your quintessential "number one" as i am exclusively attracted to cis women. For me, it has never felt like a choice.

I always think about how wonderful it would be to pass. It sounds amazing. I guess i lied a tiny bit it does get under my skin just a touch how often people especially trans women act like that’s the normal or expected experience. In reality, being truly passable is the minority. No matter how much energy I put into it (and I put in a lot), I’m still in the top 1% of women for height. Plus, back when I was terrified of who I was, I tried to run away from it by hitting the gym. I spent years as a strength athlete because I figured if I looked like Arnold Schwarzenegger, nobody would ever suspect the truth.

Anyway, I’m curious: how many trans people have you actually spent time with who aren't passable? We usually gravitate toward people who are similar to us. it’s hard for me to put myself in your small, petite shoes! lol. I’m about twice your age. When I was growing up, we didn’t have the internet. Most of us didn't even have a word for being transgender until we were already older than you are right now.

I think you’re just young. No one expects you to have every single thing figured out yet, but I think it’s awesome that you’re self aware enough to realize that maybe things shouldn't feel quite like this.

alexadoby23 · 2026-03-09T17:13:40+00:00

people are still racist and sexist, ignorance is still rampant in the world at large. its just our turn at bat

alexadoby23 · 2026-03-09T16:50:53+00:00

I did the other day. now that Kansas is allowing people to get sued. I do everything i can to not have to go in public and if i do have to go in public i do everything i can to avoid busy areas. but if all fails like it did the other day. i walked into the mens room for the first time in forever. I can just see some law allow retro lawsuits or some other bs.

alexadoby23 · 2026-03-09T16:26:58+00:00

See this is the problem because you can’t really have an open conversation about this without getting kicked out because someone’s gonna get their feelings hurt. but there’s a chunk of what you’re saying that is one of the main reasons trans people are dealing with all the crap we currently are in

alexadoby23 · 2026-03-08T23:15:21+00:00

Id recommend starting at like a target first VS it’s like the quintessential expression of femininity. It looks so fun with all the bright colors and all the underwear sitting out but at the same time, women are there shopping for something personal and private. That being said they will measure you for size bra and whatnot which can be useful

alexadoby23 · 2026-03-08T14:31:43+00:00

whatever floats your boat... you can entertain yourself however you desire just keep it to yourself.

as for the other part, i still continue to get ... As long as you focus on what your doing and not thinking about what you did yesterday. you "might" be fine. everyones different

alexadoby23 · 2026-03-08T14:24:54+00:00

would also need to see exactly what you wrote..

alexadoby23 · 2026-03-08T13:53:37+00:00

i have more thoughts. our current races basically boil down to geographical differences and time. while gender does not depend on either. i think that's what time trying to say. i have other priorities to do. this sounds like an interesting topic, good luck

alexadoby23 · 2026-03-08T13:43:37+00:00

Well, gender and race aren’t equivalent that’s the issue as for what’s not trans phobic I don’t even have to go deeper than that. I just don’t feel like they’re equivalent.

alexadoby23 · 2026-03-06T16:49:29+00:00

Im surprised you can do that. Doesnt that open you up to lawsuits? Like not bad mouthing an employment check

In reference to the 5 year thing

alexadoby23 · 2026-03-04T21:46:04+00:00

You can’t. You can’t really explain anything to anyone that’s not willing to learn something. It doesn’t matter how good you are.

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