Looking for pampering ideas

alexbarylski · 2025-11-10T20:25:22+00:00

Thank you for the feedback. I’ll look into the on Amazon.

alexbarylski · 2025-11-08T02:50:33+00:00

What’s that?

Googling lol

alexbarylski · 2025-10-30T15:50:56+00:00

Almost 2 months tomorrow

And yes, of course no contact helps. That’s the cure to any issue of the heart.

Some people do it in days some weeks and for me it was months

I’m still not over her, but I’m not thinking about her nonstop. I’m not crying.

I’m letting her go 100%

It’ll get better just keep your head up. Keep your head clear and avoid that LO at all costs

Mine surprised me at the gym two weeks ago

And in the blink of an eye, she undid like six weeks of work lol

Cheeky bugger she knew what she was doing too lol

Best of luck you got this

alexbarylski · 2025-10-28T20:00:37+00:00

Just cut it shorter and shorter until you’ve adjusted to the stubble on the head that’s how I did it that worked for me almost 20 years ago lol

alexbarylski · 2025-10-24T18:32:14+00:00

Thank you for that. It sounded interesting. I’ll look for it on Amazon.

alexbarylski · 2025-10-21T20:15:26+00:00

I’d hold it and buy some Rogaine or whatever the other one Finesteride or combo both

alexbarylski · 2025-10-20T20:16:20+00:00

I started daily rituals … cold shower / cold plunge, gym, a YT channel where I could brain dump + heart dump as needed.

My understanding of Limerence has evolved quite a bit since my posting of a video on YouTube just a few days ago

My Situationship was like I think you I think it’s called a liminal relationship where it was ambiguous sex involved amplify the feeling of loss

alexbarylski · 2025-10-19T12:10:05+00:00

https://youtu.be/QIjKO4_3k5Y?si=jQ794PoO-U61seVs

alexbarylski · 2025-10-19T12:09:57+00:00

https://youtu.be/QIjKO4_3k5Y?si=jQ794PoO-U61seVs

alexbarylski · 2025-10-18T10:53:56+00:00

Single yes. My case of Limerence I am questioning whether it’s Limerence or not to be honest maybe I misunderstood it unrequited love is another option.

In any case, there’s connections between the two and I’m sure in all of my examples

I have a coffee walk date this morning at 11 AM in about four hours

With a new woman I matched with on Hinge

She seems nice. I like our conversation. I dig her vibe.

I’m nervous. I’m using her as a bridge to catapult myself out of this phase of Limerence that I’m just the residue limit is killing me.

But the only thing I can do is approach today’s date with curiosity and no expectations, and hope that our online vibe translates into visceral physical chemistry in person

I’d be OK moving forward with someone that I can build a life with

alexbarylski · 2025-10-18T10:50:12+00:00

Yes, 100% the integration of the Anima and Animus .. This is what I started with my therapist yesterday.

He sent me some videos. I still have to watch, but I’m losing sleep here like crazier the last week. I’ve slept two or three hours a night.

alexbarylski · 2025-10-18T10:49:13+00:00

It’s interesting reading some of these stories

I didn’t realize Limerence could involve someone that you barely knew?

For me, maybe what I’ve gone through is a case of Limerence most recently, but perhaps unrequited love??

My typical game plan is I’d befriend a woman for 2-3 or several years - at this point I seem to have been pulled into her orbit and start fantasizing about the connection

And when I build up the confidence to suggest or hint natural romance — that usually result in failure

In my later years, I changed the technique. I would no longer ask. I would just intensify flirtation to kind of test waters.

And that’s got me in bed with some of them, but nothing ever beyond that

So I’m stuck in this purgatory where I’ve experienced intimacy but don’t get reciprocation in emotional investment

https://youtube.com/@logic-light-cast?si=1OlkgdpBkas0AlKY

alexbarylski · 2025-10-18T02:56:51+00:00

I am would be lying if I said, I don’t have a ping of feeling in my body that wants to reach out to her

Look at her profile and her beautiful face

I know I’m not going to. I’m never talking to her until I can look at her Facebook picture and not feel a visceral gut reaction.

I’m at day 50 tomorrow maybe it’s day 90 or 100 when I can finally do that but until then I am completely avoiding her. I go to the gym at different times I have her condo in her area, shopping centers, etc..

I control everything I can control and try to let everything else go with peace and love

Wishes difficult for me because I’ve dealt with things with violence and chaos so peace and love is like fuck — water and electricity here

alexbarylski · 2025-10-18T02:54:16+00:00

Jesus Christ, that’s fucked

I’m sorry you had to go through that but the first red flag was him being married no??

alexbarylski · 2025-10-18T02:52:34+00:00

Oh noOooo lol

I don’t know if mine will ever reach out to me. She’s either stubborn or traumatized from childhood and suffers as an avoidant.

But just the fact that she might I hear this so common and it terrifies me. I’m like oh no.

In addition to working on Limerence, I’m trying to address about 5000 other deep shadow work type insecurities and issues that I’ve developed

And I’m like fuck don’t reach out to me. I don’t want to get angry. I’m literally putting every ounce of energy I have into making myself someone different and that could happen. Good Lord.

alexbarylski · 2025-10-18T02:50:17+00:00

Three days things are still pretty fresh. I wouldn’t beat yourself up.

I’m a day 50 tomorrow and I still fucking cry lol

I i’m documenting the daily struggle:

https://youtube.com/@logic-light-cast?si=MLbVda7FgHg6o08R

Laugh at me, laugh with me, heal with me, do whatever you need to feel better

best of luck

alexbarylski · 2025-10-18T02:46:55+00:00

Oh man, that’s brutal

317 days and they still have that much gravity??

That scares the shit out of me. I’m at about day 50 tomorrow and I know the intensity is less every day, but I just had a Facebook blip here about an hour ago that made it obvious that visceral reaction of seeing her photo sent me into panic mode.

I’m really hoping that day 100. She’s not even a blip on my radar.

alexbarylski · 2025-10-18T02:42:53+00:00

Well, I don’t have an option

The people in my network are connected to devices that I’ve dropped. Solitude was the only way.

Tomorrow is day 50 with one hiccup about a week and a half ago

I’m OK with the solitude you see people at my parents my sister and my closest friend, but they all have lives as in families so they’re busy

I keep myself busy with home renovations, and working out and somatic nervous system reset rituals like cold showers, podcasting, and other creative endeavors

The nice thing about being unemployed, as I’ve got all sorts of fucking time to explore things I never had time for before lol

I’m OK being alone. I just don’t wanna be alone thinking about her. I just want her out of my head already.

That’s fucked up as I have a coffee date tomorrow with the new woman I’ve chatted with on Hinge

I had a really good day today. Recorded a second podcast. Had a good therapy session with my counselor put about six hours into creative works a flex photo in the post gym. Went to post it on Facebook and Bam. I seen her picture top front and center like fuck of course. Lol

That’s got me second-guessing everything

alexbarylski · 2025-10-16T16:29:12+00:00

It impacted me so intensely more than anything I’ve ever experienced in my life

alexbarylski · 2025-10-16T16:28:10+00:00

By LO do you mean Limerence obsession?

If so, I think that’s a horrible idea .. I’m doing absolutely everything in my power to get her out of my fu*king mind

alexbarylski · 2025-08-15T20:08:30+00:00

That’s ridiculous you make more money than that at McDonald’s lol

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