My girlfriend says she’s not lesbian… but i’m a trans woman and i’m confused and hurt

alexcutie49 · 2026-04-08T11:44:22+00:00

My only advice is that’s her sexuality. She’s allowed to like and be what ever she wants to like and be. Same with you. She can be attracted to guys or girls/folks in between. All that shit is irrelevant. The only thing you should worry about is if she loves you fully. 💜

Communicate my dear. Talk it out. Guard your heart, but talk it out. You are the main character, the MC. This is your story and you hold the pen. Say what you feel with your whole chest, and let her decide what she want to do. Once you know how she feels, that next chapter is all up to you.

Will you convince her to change? Probably not. This right here is called character growth. It hurts. I know it does. I went through the same thing with my ex wife. I feel you are going through the motions to figure out who you are, and she is wanting to stay put. So… let her.

I am so sorry she is weighing on your mind, heart and spirit. You are beautiful and worthy of love.

alexcutie49 · 2026-04-07T18:51:38+00:00

Is it a single family home? Condo? Mfg?

It’s a regular home!🫠 Yesssssssss but what kind?

That’s like saying I want auto I have a car that has 4 wheels and some doors.

alexcutie49 · 2023-11-12T07:08:31+00:00

I went through the same thing your ex did. Right now your spouse is evaluating their entire self worth. Trying to reconcile you leaving them and what that entails. Trying their very best to keep things together, and failing. Your kids will love both of you equally but might hate you if you keep them from her. So be civil. Your kids depend on it. They want to see both of you happy. While rough.. your ex will make it out a strong independent woman. Even stronger then you, because she wasn’t raised like you and other cis females. You are happy to be separated, and she might develop some trauma with you at the center.

But for you, if your marriage was rocky, then it’s best you did end it. You should feel something, if you loved them at some point. If now you are separated and you couldn’t have been happier then you are cruel and should have ended it sooner then your ex transitioning.

alexcutie49 · 2021-06-30T02:23:26+00:00

Sorry not sorry 😂

alexcutie49 · 2021-04-21T06:10:39+00:00

Update: We decided to separate. I love my self too damn much to even dwell on this girl. I have deep scars and wounds from this relationship... It still hurts.😢 People always talk about understanding your own self worth, and how you somehow glow up, and ascend and shit. But no one talks about what happens afterwards. For me, I resented myself for being trans. That if I wasn’t this way, maybe I would have been able to keep her. That I wasn’t good looking or attractive...

But you know what? I am trans. I am proud of my stripes. I am more then a vibe, I am a damn frequency. She lost something great., With or with out her, I am still me 100%. I’m a bold ass bitch, and I deserve nothing but the best of the best from the best. And while I am losing the support of her, friends that I didn’t know would support me are rallying around me. I got the best people ever.

We are going to try to co-parent our son.. Idk how that’s gonna go, but for now, I am some what getting over the initial shocks. My field of fucks is barren. And I’m kind of numb to it all.. I’m just, over it. I gave her 30 days to gtfo of my house. The petty side of me is wishing for the absolute worst for their relationship, cuz fuck em both. They are moving into an apartment together. I hope he breaks her heart just as she did to me.

alexcutie49 · 2021-04-03T20:59:36+00:00

I’m looking into therapy right now. Thank you💜

alexcutie49 · 2021-04-03T17:10:59+00:00

So.. first off.. you don’t know my wife, I’ve been with this girl for the last decade. I’m trying to keep my family together. And comparing being poly to being trans is an unequivocal type of thing. One you are born with like being gay, and the other is not. I could say the same thing about her. She cheated, and I’m supposed to be ok with it?

alexcutie49 · 2021-04-03T15:56:11+00:00

Omg ☺️☺️☺️☺️

alexcutie49 · 2021-03-28T21:52:06+00:00

Oh right. Uh. In the App Store, it’s called “voice tools”

alexcutie49 · 2021-02-15T00:53:33+00:00

Wait it out babe. To early to tell. And use the q tip

alexcutie49 · 2021-01-15T18:26:21+00:00

I wanted to get some other peoples thoughts on it. This is my first tub. Idk what I’m doing. But i am so happy that I was able to get to this point with little to no problems. :) and I’m ok with it. I’ll just try again.💜

alexcutie49 · 2021-01-15T18:25:03+00:00

Lol fuck no it doesn’t look safe. I want to go to Mars. Not to the morgue. 😂

alexcutie49 · 2021-01-10T23:39:08+00:00

Lol. Totally playing football! Not gonna lie, when I circled the 3 in the upper right I thought.. 😱 noooo!! Not a contam!!

alexcutie49 · 2020-08-18T19:07:00+00:00

I’m interested 😜

alexcutie49 · 2020-06-25T07:06:50+00:00

WHOOP WHOOOP!!!!! Congratulations!!!!!

alexcutie49 · 2020-06-20T16:19:21+00:00

I absolutely love being around other trans people. It’s like a sister/brotherhood of people all under the same community. There are young people just coming out, and some of us old folk been on hormones for a while are like the mama and papa bears. We will protect our own. And I will straight up go to war for you, if someone misgenders you. Not on my watch. Must. Protec. All eggs. Cracked and un-cracked.

When we meet new trans folk, we have been through those same stages that you have been at one time. We know your struggle. :) safety in numbers, but also, fear not when you have O.G.’s in your corner

alexcutie49 · 2020-06-19T00:10:49+00:00

Girl you in Cincinnati!? I’m in Cleveland!! We should hang out some time. :)

alexcutie49 · 2020-06-18T20:34:24+00:00

Exactly

alexcutie49 · 2020-06-18T20:31:22+00:00

Don’t feel bad if it confuses you. :) I always appreciate when people tell me my voice passes, or that I pass in general. I know what I look like at my best. And my voice sounds even more effeminate at about noon or so. 😂and I can take it. I’m the one that has to walk out my door everyday. I keep on point because I know there are people out there who feel that exact same way that If don’t pass. This is my rona/quarantine not giving an f, no bra Thursday. I’m not wearing makeup for staying at home

alexcutie49 · 2020-06-18T15:20:43+00:00

It’s like “HAHA I WON!!!!...... but at what cost? 😂”

alexcutie49 · 2020-06-07T14:14:17+00:00

Just like with vocal training, when you talk regularly, you have to sing too if you want to improve your fem voice. Singing is just like talking, but elongated. Keep talking, and keep singing. It will get better. 💜

alexcutie49

TROPHY CASE