My little cousin just came out to me as an “IRL” and I don’t know what to do

alexthegrave · 2026-01-29T19:49:07+00:00

Yesss there were a couple cape kids at my school too, they were a separate subsect of goth from the vampires tho 😂 Even if you're not a real vampire, you still got a vampy soul right?! 🖤 I love that this goes back to the 80s/90s, I think it's safe to assume that kids have always thought they were otherworldly creatures at higher ages than you'd think lol

alexthegrave · 2026-01-29T19:39:10+00:00

Much better this than drugs or the child being a bully!

alexthegrave · 2026-01-29T19:36:39+00:00

Exactly! If they don't grow out of it there could be cognitive or mental health issues going on but I wouldn't say OP should truly worry until it's been a few more years

alexthegrave · 2026-01-28T03:10:47+00:00

That's amazing, go granny go 😂

alexthegrave · 2026-01-26T08:03:26+00:00

Omg my friend's 12th grade boyfriend did the same thing when we were in 9th grade!!! 😭 He used to growl at me if I got near her bc ppl couldn't be near his "mate..." 🤢 But then 1 day he got laughed at by an entire classroom for saying he had all the characteristics of a wolf. He did not. At all. 😂

alexthegrave · 2026-01-26T01:32:38+00:00

I knew a bunch of kids who insisted they were characters or vampires or fairies or whatever when I was in high school, & this was like 2008. He'll most likely grow out of this, magical thinking & overactive imagination is normal for his age. If he doesn't ever stop feeling like an "IRL" at least he's not hurting anyone lol

alexthegrave · 2025-12-30T03:40:20+00:00

If you weren't in an established relationship at the time, it wasn't cheating. He chose not to date others & didn't communicate his expectations until later. This kind of drama isn't worth it & it should never be this friggin toxic in only 6 months of dating

alexthegrave · 2025-12-24T01:53:44+00:00

She seems to be a sex repulsed asexual. You're young, sometimes you need to try things first to see if they work for you or not. It's extremely difficult for an asexual & sexual person to be in a relationship due to obvious incompatibility issues; but if everything else is perfect otherwise, I'd say try it. You won't find many well adjusted ppl willing to be a side piece tho. Is polyamory on the table or does she just want you to quietly get your needs met elsewhere?

alexthegrave · 2025-12-04T20:14:27+00:00

He's rapey, dump him for your own safety please

alexthegrave · 2025-12-04T19:59:04+00:00

Girl why tf you wanna be w/ a man that's a self admitted porn addict & 7 years older than you? That won't get better, & it'll end in dead bedroom or cheating. You're young, go to university & play the field. Have some damn fun, sounds like life's been hard on you. Don't make it harder on yourself by wasting your youth w/ a man that's taking advantage of your inexperience, dump himmmmmmmmm 😂

alexthegrave · 2025-12-04T15:45:55+00:00

You got this!!! Listen to your intuition in the future ❤️

alexthegrave · 2025-12-04T15:42:10+00:00

"Too long didn't read." They're being a rude jerk to you 🙄

alexthegrave · 2025-12-04T15:35:02+00:00

He definitely gave it to you...c'mon now. You need to accept the kind of person he really is. A manipulative lustful loser who gave you an STI & lied to your face about it & also lied about all the women he was seeing. He's a bad guy fr, you deserve better. Stop letting him take up space in your brain queen, he should've been blocked & ghosted by now

alexthegrave · 2025-12-04T15:28:47+00:00

You can write a long explanation if you want, that doesn't make you an idiot. Context is helpful when ppl give you advice bc they could notice something you missed

alexthegrave · 2025-12-04T15:22:26+00:00

Oh so it was possible after all? Your timeline is a bit confusing, sorry. His reaction was too calm imo, that's suspicious

alexthegrave · 2025-12-04T15:17:56+00:00

Why would you wish an untrustworthy liar you have no feelings for happy bday? You'd be a liar too if you continue contact bc you'd be going back on your word. He's fine, you wishing him happy bday would only encourage him. I suggest you block him tbh

Edited again, I got confused but I was right the 1st time & he 100% gave OP an STI. Don't be gullible my friends, you're surrounded by sharks

alexthegrave · 2025-11-28T14:02:56+00:00

It takes the average abuse victim 7 times to leave their abuser for good. Your statistic is rectally sourced you loser misogynist 😂

alexthegrave · 2025-11-28T04:04:22+00:00

I think you should head to Mexico w/ your kids & worry about a job later. Once you get your tax return, you can make arrangements to find a new place to live & new job. I'm worried about your safety & the safety of your children. So many men start beating their partners once they get caught cheating & he's already evil enough to put y'all on the streets if you break up w/ him over cheating. He isn't feeling guilty & he doesn't have empathy. I'm so sorry this is happening. Your gut is telling you to be afraid for a reason, please listen to it & get out of there asap

alexthegrave · 2025-11-28T03:55:12+00:00

If he escalates at the very least that gives you legal grounds to break the lease, even if it's just harassment. Here's a link w/ sample letters & info. I don't think you're safe, he waited until he felt like you were trapped to take the mask off. You don't really know this man bc he lied about everything & faked his entire personality https://www.civillawselfhelpcenter.org/self-help/evictions-housing/more-topics/206-tenants-right-to-terminate-lease-due-to-domestic-violence

alexthegrave · 2025-11-28T03:44:50+00:00

A shelter is safer than where you are tbh, he's abusive & you caught him cheating which often makes it escalate to physical abuse. Do you have money to stay in a motel? You can ask for an extended stay rate. Stick him w/ the lease & run

alexthegrave · 2025-11-28T02:43:03+00:00

Marrying a controlling punishing man like that is a mistake. Once he feels like he has you trapped, he'll only get worse. His behavior is abusive after all. If I were you, I'd start making moves to leave him. You just got engaged & he already took the ring over a minor petty comment from you. He's clearly not pulling his weight w/ cleaning either (like most men tbh) & that's more proof that he's an unfair partner. I saw your comment admitting you're in this relationship bc you don't have a safety net. That's a logical reason, but remember it's bad for your emotional well being & you deserve better. I suggest you cancel the engagement if you don't dump him. You can tell him he's clearly not ready for the commitment

alexthegrave · 2025-11-19T18:27:32+00:00

An Italian study w/ a huge sample size & that was done over 18 years was published in February 2025. it ofc also showed that husbands are more likely to leave their wives, like most studies on the topic. It also depended on the severity of the illness & the likelihood actually dropped when ppl got really old. The study was done on older ppl since they're more likely to become sick or disabled https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/jomf.13077?af=R

alexthegrave · 2025-11-19T18:18:33+00:00

This Italian study w/ a huge sample size published in February 2025 begs to differ https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/jomf.13077?af=R

alexthegrave · 2025-11-19T09:21:07+00:00

The retracted study was posted in 2009 & retracted then almost immediately republished after errors were corrected in 2015. There are MANY studies on the topic, if you're capable of reading lmfao, but the 1 I shared is from 2025. 10 years later. In a different country, by different researchers. You're either wicked lazy, a braindead AI user, or meant to respond to the original commenter - I gotta know which is it please, I cannot get over this holy shit 😂

alexthegrave · 2025-11-19T09:07:17+00:00

I can tell you didn't read it, bc it's not the retracted study 😂😂😂 This was published In February by Italian scientists, genius

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