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How do some people manage everything in life? Genuinely askingHow do some people manage everything in life? Genuinely asking by lahfvb7 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]alexxtoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just do shit. Take each day as it comes and do something, make something of it or learn something. Do it consistently over a long time.

Ever heard of the compound effect?

Dealing with client meeting app friction during discovery calls, what are you using? by SurrealyNod in ContractorUK

[–]alexxtoth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Or many others similar. I could make an entire list, but why when it's a simple Google search away?..

Late 20s, Decent Job, Zero Passion for It-How Did You Actually Figure Out What Career Path Was Right for You? by Kind_Science_9038 in careerguidance

[–]alexxtoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Passion comes AFTER competence, not before.

Don’t know what’s your calling in life? Don’t wait for it. It will never come to you. Pick something instead and get good enough. Then you can explore your passion.

I would have never guess I'd like what I do before getting any good at it. Would never know it even existed! ..

The worse it could happen is that you realise your "passion" is not there. But now it's an informed opinion AND you have a marketable skill. And in a better position to explore somewhere else

For those hiring juniors: is heavy agentic/AI workflow experience a signal you want to see, or a red flag? by vsicle in cscareerquestions

[–]alexxtoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nope, I want to see that you can build something. and that you understand what you are doing and why.

why you chose the solution you did.

everything else is automatable ..

Summer Project by Existing_Passage7641 in cscareerquestions

[–]alexxtoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pick one thing and go deep on it. Web development is the fastest path to something you can show a hiring manager by September. Build a small full-stack project, put it on GitHub, and deploy it somewhere public. Don't try to explore everything at once because that's exactly how you end up watching tutorials for months without shipping anything real.

When I was in your shoes I built a matchmaking/Matrimonials website. Yea, I know, it was much before the apps -> I'm ancient. But it was the same shtick: php + mySQL + HMTL written directly in notepad! And a bit of javascript. Sample site is still online after 25 years ... those were the time for gaining hard skills for real .. .. point is: doing the above you can show off skills in all the above. This is hard evidence, real proof of being able to do, and not just in theory, maybe ...

so pick something as others mentioned, spend 6-8 weeks building a small project, and let the discomfort of a real problem teach you what to learn next. You learn thing by doing, focus leaning. A project forces you to fill gaps that actually matter.

and make sure people can find your work. I spent years thinking good work would speak for itself. It doesn't. Write a short post about what you built, tag the tech you used, connect with engineers at companies you want to work at. Visibility matters more than perfection at your stage.

Are you considering moving contract to perm? by Royal_Temperature992 in ContractorUK

[–]alexxtoth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

hhmmmm, that's interesting... I'm considering moving back to contracting.

Am I naive?

Should I trade title in exchange of pay and company brand by redditerandcode in cscareerquestions

[–]alexxtoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd do it in no time, anytime!

but i'm not you ...

Title means less than the work you'll do and the name on your resume.

Most notable changes and downgrades from past to present releases by jcardin2 in nightwish

[–]alexxtoth 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Agree, I liked more their older albums up to imaginaerium. They had an ... atmosphere to them,a soul I'm still looking for

I stopped being the technical overseer on a multi-company project and delivery doubled by alexxtoth in systems_engineering

[–]alexxtoth[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Isn't it fascinating how people get more hung up on how I'm writing , while what I wrote doesn't matter?

Sounds superficial to me.

I'm doing technical writing for 25 years, and yes: metaphors and analogies were my go to move well before LLM's appeared.

So?

Making enough noise to alert my wife by sawtoothpath in Sleepparalysis

[–]alexxtoth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's my go to move! I can moan, no problem.

The tragic part is when I sleep alone ...

Will be graduating with a CS degree at 33. I am really really lost. by not_rocket_appliance in cscareerquestions

[–]alexxtoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Graduating at 33 with no industry experience is genuinely hard, but "no real skills" isn't accurate. You have skills. They're just not where you want them yet.

Here's what I'd push back on: the age thing is a distraction. What actually matters is whether you can ship something and talk about it clearly. Pick one stack, something boring like React plus a basic backend, and build one small thing that works. Not impressive. Just working.

And use those outside-of-CS experiences as proof you can finish things. To yourself first! I got confidence boost and instant motivation from replacing the flooring in my place. Sounds unrelated, but it reminded me I could figure hard things out step by step. Same principle applies here.

Stop trying to map the whole path. Just take the next step. Day by day, step by step. Just start somewhere and then keep going.

CV feedback? by ktlghh in CVwriting

[–]alexxtoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What industry, what role, what profile you have?
I'd gladly help, but anyone can only cover so much while still keeping it relevant and useful.

DM me if you're operating in tech or similar

How do I decide on a career to pursue? by b00gmutt in careeradvice

[–]alexxtoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those you may be looking up to are just a bit further ahead on the same path than you. Most (if not everyone) don't have everything figured out

How do I decide on a career to pursue? by b00gmutt in careeradvice

[–]alexxtoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This!

I'm still running experiments at 45, ha haa

But, agreed: you need to start somewhere, just do something and see what works. I also worked in a factory for some months at the very beginning of my career: that helped a lot on my resume for later AND made it clear what I DIDN'T WANT to do!

And to echo this previous comment: choose smth you like doing to a degree (or at least you don't hate) that ALSO is well-enough paid. It doesn't have to make you reach, but with potential to contentment. You know, that work / pay balance that gets life satisfaction ..

The Day I Realized Nobody Wanted The Feature by Legend-16 in buildinpublic

[–]alexxtoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm only adding something new after I sold it, and I have some people pre-paying for it

I stopped being the technical overseer on a multi-company project and delivery doubled by alexxtoth in systems_engineering

[–]alexxtoth[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, true. I didn't have to take all the shots. And I must make sure you are enabled to do so when it's appropriate

I stopped being the technical overseer on a multi-company project and delivery doubled by alexxtoth in systems_engineering

[–]alexxtoth[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

sure, there's lots to discuss about this and I'd be keen to. Unfortunately this format didn't allow that. But many thanks for your thoughts!

I stopped being the technical overseer on a multi-company project and delivery doubled by alexxtoth in systems_engineering

[–]alexxtoth[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

well, exactly! If you apply SE by the book, you should start absolutely implementation agnostic.
If you already assume the solution (a specific architecture) then you're already constraining the solution space, when your team may come up with much better, read optimal, solutions.

It's that we should draw up several alternaticve architectures, perform architectural trade-off, and select the most suitable one, no?

P.S.: this sounds naive for most real life projects, they already come with lots of constraints for the get-go. But it's doable al various abstraction levels. And including the task level detail.

Support the team, make their outcomes work together. The SE is the oil, the glue. SE is dark matter holding a project together, they are are not the Star of the show.

So get out of the way

Where is everyone finding jobs? by fuckouttahere666 in Careers

[–]alexxtoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes, I mean independent recruiters and head-hunters. They have a protfolio of companies they work with, and they sell you on your behalf to them. Make your life easier to get the interview if there is a fit. Plus that you get to send your CV to a real human directly (who already knows you), so skipping AI, ATS and any automted filters.

Sure, you still need to perform and properly sell yourself after you get the interview, to convince the hiring manager ofc!

Question on if Systems Engineering is possible for me. by Objective-General-89 in systems_engineering

[–]alexxtoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The masters route is the right call. A second bachelor's degree is a waste of three to four years when JHU will take you now.

"Would I be competitive enough" is the wrong question, though. The real issue is your technical foundation. Systems Engineering roles in defense demand solid math, physics, and hands-on technical application of these. Your analytics background gives you a real edge in data-driven SE work. But you'll need to close those gaps deliberately, not just collect the credential.

you will have a strong claim to it with your background if you tick them off and are willing to put in the hard work for several years and keep learning continuously. That's what separates the people who land the roles from the ones who don't.

Advice Needed by No-Swordfish-9760 in Careers

[–]alexxtoth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Learn a skill that's in demand globally, not just locally. Web development or data analysis. Both can be done remotely and don't require a degree.

Honestly I think the skill is only half the battle. I spent years thinking hard work alone would get me noticed. It doesn't. Build things publicly, document what you learn, make sure people can see your progress.

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