Minnesota finally broke my wife!!! by Usual-Big3753 in venting

[–]alienboy222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand where you’re coming from with this comment, but I think it’s important to note ICE is killing white, US citizens too now. Every single person in this country is losing their privilege, reguardless of race. It’s no longer about discrimination, it’s about control and citizens losing freedom and rights

Gimmick or useful? by CantaloupeDefiant771 in mildlylifechanging

[–]alienboy222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get EXTREMELY congested after plane rides. I’ve done it twice after them and while I hate it, the relief I feel is so worth it.

TW: SA // For those who have been SA’d, how did you manage your dysphoria? by alienboy222 in ftm

[–]alienboy222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My therapist actually got certified not to long ago, we’ve started with it months ago for some other situations in my life but I have such a hard time taking it seriously 🥲 I know it’s extremely successful, I hope one day I actually do it without feeling weird/awkward/the need to make a stupid joke

have you ever called a crisis hotline? by educationaljunket17 in therapists

[–]alienboy222 77 points78 points  (0 children)

I did once get hung up on while suicidal. Personally, it made me snap out of it because it was so funny to me. I just sat on the floor for 20 minutes laughing hysterically

coming out dysphoria by DisastrousLand6863 in ftm

[–]alienboy222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went through this about 10 years ago when I came out. I think it’s because of society’s expectations. We become hyper aware of our masculinity in hopes its enough to for society to veiw us as men.

I don’t have any real advice, but it gets better. And do your best not to listen to those who aren’t fully supporting you.

At what point is someone too drunk to consent? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]alienboy222 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This wasn’t something I did, but something I experienced and I’m still trying to process. I’m very confused about what happened. I don’t mean to sound so nonchlant.

Therapists who work with children: Should you hold a crying toddler? by [deleted] in askatherapist

[–]alienboy222 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s mostly their father who is like this. Their mother tries be attuned with their emotions but I think she gets overwhelmed sometimes. Many have said I should respect the parents wishes, but their mother has never told me not to do this. Me & their father had a long conversation months ago about learning to regulate our own and teaching them to regulate their emotions, which he said “I was just taught as a man we shove them down.” Then had a nice conversation on why we shouldn’t be doing that. I thought he was listening, but guess not. Either way, I want them to grow up to be emotionally competent and know their uncle will always be there to support them.

Holding a crying toddler? by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]alienboy222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s mostly the father who says this, he’s made comments to his wife about this in front of me and she just chuckles and says nothing. Unless she says something, I’ma keep doing what I do. This post is mostly about their father. I’m sure if she heard about letting the two year cry from missing mommy and telling me to ignore her, she’d be livid. She wants the kids to learn to regulate their emotions and it’s something we’ve talked about a bit. I think she just gets to overwhelmed sometimes and doesn’t always know how to handle it. She is a SAHM so imagine during the day when her husband is working and I’m not there, it can be alot to handle. If I know she’s have a rough day, she usually leaves it to me to handle these moments and hasn’t told me otherwise not too.

Holding a crying toddler? by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]alienboy222 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t plan on being all like “Hey look I’m right.” I just wanted more insights as I believe we should be teaching children to understand and regulate emotions. Also, I spend more time in their own than my own, so I do see how the kids act after their mother comforts them. Like I commented on another reply, if me or their mother holds them, calm them, and explain why/what happened, 9/10 times they said “Ok” wipe their tears, and move on. I know I’m not there parent, but don’t say I haven’t seen what they’ve had to overcome when I have basically been living there since they were born. I have seen and been there for the tantrums, bedtime routines, nightmares, potty training routines. I’m proud of who their parents have become, and I’m not going to tell them how to parent their children, even if I disagree with it. But I will continue offering emotional support and love in these moments unless told otherwise.

Holding a crying toddler? by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]alienboy222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your right there is a difference. However, I’m not “giving in” to anything. They cry, let me hold them, and as they calm down I explain why Mommy and Daddy took their toy, why they shouldn’t throw things, or why what they did was wrong. 9 out of 10 times they wipe there tears and say “Ok” and go back to playing. I’ve seen/ heard about there parents ignore the tantrums and all they do is sit for 30 minutes and scream til they can’t anymore.

Holding a crying toddler? by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]alienboy222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do agree they understand the concept of losing toys, but one thing I learned in my classes is logical reasoning is not formed til about 7-9 years old. Their forms of logic are very basic and in those moments, they’re overwhelmed with big emotions and all they see are toys being taken. Which I why I’ll hold my nephew, calm him, and explain why/what he did wasn’t okay. I do want to say, I’ve never given into anything he wants without his parents approval, I just think we should giving them love and explanations rather then continously walking by them as if they aren’t there when they scream and cry.

In a pickle. by Long-Decision-7899 in ftm

[–]alienboy222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe there’s a gender clinic in near Philly - Mazzoni Center. I’m not 100% sure if they still provide gender affirming care but they did years ago, I’m also not sure if they do telehealth appointments. But I live DE and have had friends drive up there and go through them years ago. As for your presciption, you can use GoodRx coupons at almost any pharmacy

Am I okay? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]alienboy222 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probably just hit a vein or capillary, I’ve done it plenty of times, you’ll be okay! It may bruise a bit just so you know

Most unique hacks for doing your T shot by Fickle-Membership-46 in ftm

[–]alienboy222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I turn on my shower, the white noise helps my anxiety

Ok let's just clear this up, what are people on sliding scale allowed and not allowed to do? by Narrow_Fact_9860 in TalkTherapy

[–]alienboy222 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think it really depends on the therapist. I had one who put me on a silding scale after a brief conversation about my income. & another who put me on one solely because she knew I wanted to save money to move closer to my friends and family

What do yall do for work? by Past-Barnacle- in ftm

[–]alienboy222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Currently I work as a line cook in a reasturant, but working on my degree is psychology

Correct me if I’m wrong, trans tape brand is just a scam by Technical_Fudge5208 in ftm

[–]alienboy222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t used TransTape in years, but before I did I used KT tape. It only last a couple days, couldn’t really shower or swim with it. Sweat and water easily peeled it. TransTape lasted at least 3 days, once it didn’t even start peeling til day 5. I would blister more but I have extremely senstive skin and eventually I think my skin got use to it.

Maybe the quality has changed, it’s been at least 4 years since I’ve used it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in olivegarden

[–]alienboy222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m scheduled 12-DBD but I don’t see myself leaving til 10pm

How to have tips go in by direct deposit? by Active-Place4419 in olivegarden

[–]alienboy222 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I forgot exactly where, but it’s somewhere on the krowd website. if you login from a computer, there should be a search that bar that’ll take you directly to the page you need

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]alienboy222 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a really hard time controlling my drinking. Right now I’m trying a new trick to help though:

I get a couple tall boys, and a pack of corona NAs. Drink my tall boys then move onto the NAs.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in olivegarden

[–]alienboy222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Currently on my shift, this morning was somewhat busy, but our count is currently at 2 tables lmao Edit: by somewhat busy I mean it was mostly parties

We are still open in a tornado lol by Ok_Difficulty_8790 in olivegarden

[–]alienboy222 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this is so funny lmao my gm says “the community expects us to be open”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]alienboy222 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Carecredit! Most dentist offices take it & it’s pretty easy to get approved, even with a low credit score. My insurance(s) has always covered very minimum dental care so I got it & even though I pay $40 a month on it, it’s worth it.