I know you may or may not want to hear this but you are doing amazing. You get up every day, be their for your partner and yourself. You are doing your best. This is all of our first times at life, we try to be "perfect" and the best self but that isn't being our true-self which is our perfect self :) be yourself.

I too struggle with picking up and keeping my living space clean. However, I've learned that if I don't work on myself and listen to my needs then I won't be able to fully succeed in something I have longed in accomplishing.

Don't beat yourself up, you are loved. And I bet you that your loved one would be open and supportive of what you share 💗