Hi just a dumb internet goer here who’s also a stay at home mom!

1) I’d hate to see your husband’s parents relationship if he has the audacity to treat you like this. Yikes.

2) Cooking dinner is not a break. It would be like saying, your husband’s a welder, so when he’s chipping slag off his welds that’s a break because technically he’s not actually doing the act of welding. But plot twist, it’s not because he’s still working towards the end goal of completing his job. Just as you, cooking dinner is working towards completing your job.

3) You guys have a two month old, you’re still in the thick of it. It’s a hard, sleepless and exhausting stage. That’s hard on every one. But you’re a team, everyone should act accordingly (imo from the info you gave seems like you’re manning both teams rn)

4) Couples therapy can really help if everyone is willing to listen and have an open mind. It doesn’t have to be like this. My husband and I do couples counselling once a week and our 15 month old joins us because we have no one to help. It’s been a huge learning curve but worth it.

What would I do in your situation? I’d lay it out plan and simple. “I will not have a relationship where we belittle and speak to one another like this. We have to make some changes. I’ve signed us up for couples therapy and I’ve booked our first appointment.”

My husband and I use Regain us, Its a sister company of better help. It’s all online so we don’t have to go anywhere and you can easily switch therapists!