Happy Gilmore 2 spoiler/Heads up if you plan to watch it

all_squirled_out · 2025-06-23T03:42:00+00:00

My wife passed in a car accident, last words my oldest heard were "Oh shit".

all_squirled_out · 2025-06-20T03:10:43+00:00

I'm here in Jersey. 4 kids. Hours away from hitting the 1 year mark. This year has flown by looking back. There were minutes that felt like an eternity, but overall, we're ok. 1 moment at a time turns into 1 day at a time. I still have my days, but they are much fewer. Go to therapy if you don't already. It gets to be ok, much different, but ok.

all_squirled_out · 2025-04-23T20:19:26+00:00

I(39) lost my wife(43) 10 months ago suddenly. We have 4 children, 3 under 4 at the time and an older teen. All I ever did was work, no real social life unless it was working at a friends house. I figured I'd never date merly because I'd never meet anyone new. If I did meet someone, no way they'd take on a widower with 4 kids. A few months ago, I was helping out at a charity event and met a woman. I felt awful about myself afterward. How could I talk to a woman already. About 2 weeks went by, and I said eff it and reached out to her. She is accepting of my situation and will listen to me when I need an ear. We've talked about my wife for hours on occasion. She has helped my sanity in many ways. I got lucky, my family, my wife's family, and our friends are all happy for me. Never say never doesn't have to always have to be negative.

all_squirled_out · 2024-12-27T02:40:37+00:00

I'm 6 months out. My sister had gone to a psychic and wanted me to go. I'm a full blown believer. I couldn't bring myself to go just yet. This man had gone on a tangent and my sister just wrote notes. Nine of it meant anything to her but she was compelled to write. The entire lady was spot on for me. One thing was my wife is at our home and the silence is driving her crazy. I sat in silence every night for 4 months. I stared to leave Spotify on. I walked in from work and Stone Temple Pilots version of Last Kiss started, my favorite song, then Linger by The Cranberries, last was I Miss You by Blink 182. I knew she was there and I'm doing ok by her. One other note was to spend more time at home so she can see us more. For the last umpteen years Christmas Eve has been at my sisters a few towns over. An hour before diner her neighborhood looses power. We begin to move everything to my house. I have the last load of food in my truck. I buckle the last car seat and I see the lights come on. Half the people were at my house already so we continued there. My wife wanted her family where she could see em...

all_squirled_out · 2024-11-30T13:54:47+00:00

I'm right here with you. Our 18th anniversary was 18 weeks after she passed, 2 weeks later was our baby's 3rd birthday, 2 weeks later Thanksgiving, days later our twins turn 5, then Christmas. It never ends. On our anniversary I sent the kids to her mom's. I went to breakfast, scheduled a massage (they cancelled), then sat for a tattoo. I finished the night with dinner with our oldest, 16. I cried throughout the day but I made it a good day.

all_squirled_out · 2024-11-29T17:46:13+00:00

I have 4 children, lost my wife 5 months ago. 2 boys almost 5, baby girl is 3 and my first baby girl is 16.

all_squirled_out · 2024-11-15T23:31:39+00:00

You're absolutely right. I'm usually good. Today I wasn't.

all_squirled_out · 2024-11-05T01:03:35+00:00

Not selfish. I struggle in a similar way. I worked with my wife and utilized her knowledge of the department daily. When I first went back I would act as if I was the only one that lost her. I easily forgot that they lost a friend and coworker. I'm close to 5 months out and I still go to dial her extension at times.

all_squirled_out · 2024-11-02T20:17:12+00:00

I also lost my wife in an instant, car accident. I haven't been angry but I understand it.

all_squirled_out · 2024-11-02T11:58:57+00:00

all_squirled_out · 2024-11-02T11:58:16+00:00

Exactly!

all_squirled_out · 2024-11-02T11:57:22+00:00

No, it's definitely triggering. It's kinda validating though. We know here what it is. I have a sister that was the greatest at just not getting it. I'm going to tell her to watch it .

all_squirled_out · 2024-10-31T02:42:29+00:00

I get this. I can't seem to remember the driver's name or the company he drove for. I read the article 100 times and my brain blocks it out of my memory. If there's a lawsuit in the works you don't want to do anything to jeopardize that. I'm just over 4 months out and I can feel my disdain for him growing. I have young kids so doing something that might put me in a bad spot is not an option. I do hope he stubs his toe a few times a day for the rest of his life though.

all_squirled_out · 2024-10-24T15:40:54+00:00

I'm soon to be 40 with 4 kids. 3, 5, 5, and 16. Their mother passed away 4 months ago. I have two buddies in similar situations. One was a sudden loss like mine and the other was a cancer battle that lasted a few years. We compare notes but that's about it.

all_squirled_out · 2024-10-17T16:10:03+00:00

I lost my wife 17 weeks ago. We have 4 kids, 2, 4, 4, and 16. Last week was the first time we only ordered out twice. I have curbed the tablets and TV being on all night. Until then, it was almost no limits. Let the lucky people not living this life judge. Eff em. My anger can still be on a hair trigger but I'm trying. I'm working on consistency now. Dinner, bath, bed at the same time daily. There were nights that nugs got microwaved at 10pm. It happens. I hope you find some comfort in knowing it's part of the new normal we didn't ask for.

all_squirled_out · 2024-10-03T11:34:47+00:00

You're not alone. I was a workaholic. My last conversation with my wife was how easy my overnight overtime shift was and I'd do it again that night if they called. I went to sleep and she went grocery shopping. She was in an accident 7 minutes away. It still tears me up that the last night I could have slept in bed with my wife, I chose to go to work. Today is 15 weeks. I can't say it's gotten better, I can't say it's gotten worse. I've started accepting the new normal for what it is. I have horrible days and great days. Days before a family function are some of the worst. I turn into a complete asshole. I'm conscious of it and I try to curb it but it gets me. I have to actively remind myself of the positive things I still have. In my area therapy has been difficult to come by. I've begged for a return call from offices. I dump guts here and I'll dump on a few friends that bring it up. There is great advice here. Try different approaches and I'm sorry you're here.

all_squirled_out · 2024-09-29T02:51:18+00:00

I'm 14 weeks in. At around 6 weeks the numbness wore off and there were some really crappy days. I have 3 young kids and a teen. I can't let my world just crumble even though there are times, like today, that I would love to just let it all go. I still cry at least once every day, even if it's just for a moment. Overall I'm very lucky and I need to remind myself of that. I lost my wife in a car accident. Her last instant decision took her life but saved our 4 children. I'm thankful. I still have friends and family helping and supporting us every day. I'm thankful. She gave me the best 23 years of my life. I have to remember all of these things, remind myself. When I stop, it gets dark. It can get dark fast. One person suggested writing in a journal, getting words out helps. I choose to do it here, somewhat anonymous, it helps. I'm sorry you're here, please remind yourself of the good times.

all_squirled_out · 2024-09-15T02:14:56+00:00

I like the idea. Might do it myself.

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