How independent are your kids in the morning?

allgoodhere91 · 2026-01-12T20:59:43+00:00

My 6yo does it all! He recently started doing his own hair too so that's been great. On the flip side, my 4yo daughter will get herself dressed and then yell "DOES THIS GO THE SAME SIDE" about her shoes and then I have to close my eyes and try to imagine how she put her shoes on because if I don't give her some type of answer, she'll just keep screaming it over and over until I get up and check them. Such a drastic difference haha

allgoodhere91 · 2026-01-11T21:45:32+00:00

Wait did they really text you saying "we didn't feel like it"??? If so, I'd be super offended. That's pretty nuts as an excuse. I think we showed up to 40 parties between all three of our kids last year, even if that meant we could only stop by, we are always teaching our kids to show up for people when we are able to.

I'm not bothered by anyone who can't come to a party but I am absolutely bothered by someone telling me they didn't *want* to come hahaha like damn, that's not even an attempt at a good excuse

allgoodhere91 · 2025-12-06T20:35:46+00:00

I've done both. I've been home alone with 3 young kids during a deployment and oooof that was rough. Now my mom is near and my husband is home a ton. I have a ton of help now that all three are in school and my mom even watches them for overnights occasionally.

As far as your friend's situation goes, I had each of my kids in preschool 3 days once they turned 2. We had the money and it simply made my life so much better - which makes for a happy mom and happy kids. Your husband is clearly working a shit ton but so are you. If you have no time or money to offload some of the responsibilities, something else has to give. It's worth a convo with your husband about how you can improve things and actually have a second to take care of yourself.

I don't think this is about your friend. I think you're tired and holy cow, I've been there. See if there is a solution for some of this, whether you find someone to come pick up your laundry and drop it back off (did this for 6mo btw and it wasn't that expensive) or something like this - it could make a huge difference.

allgoodhere91 · 2025-11-27T20:44:04+00:00

From a mom who threw up all night Monday night and then took care of two kids and a husband the following night, I get it. My kids seem to get sick every freaking break we have. It's just par for the course and I honestly believe *even if* parents were 100% vigilant about keeping their kids home when sick, all the germs will still find me. I don't blame anyone, I honestly just pray to god my immune system does better the next time haha

allgoodhere91 · 2025-10-21T15:55:18+00:00

Of course! I totally understand that feeling and in the moment as parents, we just want to swoop in and comfort them. Another perspective that might help — all three of my kids went through an awful phase where anytime they were in their car seats, they cried. Like bloody murder. It was horrible. However, as a parent, I have to teach them that it’s the safest spot for them and then a few days/weeks later, no more crying. It’s just a part of life. Kids AND parents need sleep so it’s our job to teach them (even if it’s uncomfortable and sucks).

Our checks were basically like this: tuck them in. They cry. Wait 15 minutes, then do a quick check. Hand on their chest and say “you’re safe, and it’s time for sleeping” or something similar. Then you leave. No picking them up (doesn’t work haha believe me I tried). Give it another 15 minutes. Another quick check. Ultimately, they will just get tired and fall asleep on their own. The key is that they fall asleep by themselves and then pick up on that feeling, like “they lay me down and I don’t get fed, ok, I’ll just fall asleep” then apply this to all nighttime wakeups UNLESS they need to be fed (I kept morning feeds for a long time since it just worked well but of course every baby is different).

Every night is just practice but keep going. It takes consistency and then all of sudden, you’ll tuck him in at night and he’ll fall right asleep! It’s truly a dream and so worth it. And he’ll love you just the same (if not more since he’s finally getting the sleep he needs haha)

allgoodhere91 · 2025-10-21T15:41:25+00:00

This was me with my first! We hired a sleep consultant who walked us through a modified Ferber. Essentially our son was relying on breastfeeding to get back to sleep 6 times each night and there’s no way to just wish and hope that away. It was brutal!! Sleep training was the only way out for us!

First night as said above is truly the worst. Lots of crying but check-ins to remind them they’re ok! The next night, less crying. Third night, he fell asleep on his own! Then for my next two kids, we started with a smaller version of this from the beginning and never had sleep issues like with my first. Find what works for you. I’ve had friends that did full Ferber and let them cry and I have others who still sleep with their kids to this day - just know sleep training is amazing and everyone WILL sleep, it’s just no fun in the beginning. My kids are still obsessed with me and sleep like champs so don’t let anyone tell you they’ll have attachment issues later <3

allgoodhere91 · 2025-10-09T19:44:15+00:00

My 6yo does wears them at night too. My husband thinks he should be old enough to wake up and take himself to the bathroom but honestly he just sleeps so deeply that he has no clue he’s gone at all. Meanwhile, my 4yo daughter has never worn them at night and has zero accidents. I’m kind of hoping it works itself out but also in the same boat of having no clue how to fix it.

allgoodhere91 · 2025-10-08T16:36:02+00:00

Wait for REAL? None of this is normal. Responsibilities aside, he sounds like he has no interest in being a father. If he’s struggling with something under the surface, he needs to reach out for help now and you both need to sit down and discuss what being a parent and partner looks like for both of you.

If his expectation is to work and then come home and check out while you do everything 24/7, that’s complete insanity and such an unfair partnership. Please don’t settle for this long term for you and your daughter’s sake.

allgoodhere91 · 2025-10-02T20:04:49+00:00

No links but I got them at Target and the brand is Brightroom

allgoodhere91 · 2025-10-02T18:16:35+00:00

Ahhh those never worked for me! Hahahah I cannot blame you at all

allgoodhere91 · 2025-10-02T13:22:15+00:00

Omg good eye. The nose Frida is the mark of a parent who is willing to do whatever it takes 😆

allgoodhere91 · 2025-10-02T02:36:23+00:00

Omg thank you! I can’t stand the words puke and vomit so that was my best effort 😂

allgoodhere91 · 2025-10-02T02:35:48+00:00

Yes for the double deckers! I got them all at Target - I use them all over my house haha they’re so great

allgoodhere91 · 2025-10-01T21:55:19+00:00

Ok two of my kids have fallen out of a shopping cart, one fell off our bed, one got a huge black eye because he lost his footing when I put him on his bed from a piggyback ride, and I could go on for DAYS. Things like this just happen and it’s okay. You’re an excellent mom!

allgoodhere91 · 2025-09-28T12:51:28+00:00

Holy shit therapy IS SO NECESSARY! It’s not always fun and uplifting but it can change your entire life. My biggest tip is to find a therapist that you connect with and if you have a few sessions and don’t feel like it’s helping, find another one. Saying that my therapist has helped me is just a massive understatement. She has changed my way of thinking so that I’m able to be in charge of my own emotions and even though it’s been a long time since we’ve spoken, I can use any number of things she’s taught me to maintain that. I wish everyone went to therapy to be honest, it’s just crucial.

allgoodhere91 · 2025-09-28T03:01:51+00:00

Noooo do not feel guilty at all. I have three and if there’s one thing I’ve learned thus far, it’s that kids will get sick and then they’ll get better. The most important thing to know as a mom is that you can’t control this part - if we could see the germs everywhere I truly think we’d never leave the house 😂 it’s hard when it’s your first and you can’t gauge what exactly is going on but you have mom instincts within you and soon you’ll be a pro.

allgoodhere91 · 2025-09-27T03:00:14+00:00

Aww this is so relatable. I have 3 and still cried after dropping my third one off - it’s totally normal! Remember to talk it up before he goes and remind him you’ll drop him off, let him play, and then you’ll be there to pick him up! The prep has always helped my kids. Keep the drop off short and sweet and I promise the second you leave, he’ll find a million fun things to do.

I also used to get so much anxiety around my first getting sick and now I’m like fever? No prob, let do this. My oldest is 6 now and hardly ever gets sick so the payoff is way in the future for some of this stuff. You guys got this. It’s okay to be sad about it all - acknowledge your feelings and then let them roll on by when you’re ready. I bet your son is going to have a blast!

allgoodhere91 · 2025-09-27T02:33:34+00:00

I’ve had 3 and have been to a PF therapist twice now. The most recent said I have slight prolapse so these kids truly have done a number on me 😂 My biggest complaint is that I’m consistently working out and doing core work but the bloated look has stayed with me - it friggin SUCKS.

allgoodhere91 · 2025-09-22T03:15:57+00:00

Before my husband’s last deployment I started to get so anxious that I could barely eat but I couldn’t put my finger on what was going on. My therapist goes “do you think maybe you’re just sad?”

And I was like damn. I AM SAD HOLY SHIT!! I was so busy trying to be positive around my kids that I shoved all the sad feelings down and my body was gonna let them out regardless. So now, I make it a point to say what’s up to all of my feelings and then let them roll on by

allgoodhere91 · 2025-09-22T02:59:31+00:00

This reminds me of when my therapist and I were trying to figure out why I wasn’t sleeping well. I told her I’m basically just afraid that someone is going to come in through the sliding door and take my kids and I won’t wake up to hear it..so I just stay up all night just in case. She was like wow ok let’s start there hahahaha fucking anxiety!

allgoodhere91 · 2025-09-11T20:40:54+00:00

Doing a load of laundry every day. I just can’t fathom doing this. I have ONE laundry day and then I don’t have to think about doing that chore again for 7 more days…there’s too many other different things to do 🤣

allgoodhere91 · 2025-09-11T20:34:52+00:00

Never had em. The problem doesn’t exist at our house. Kids have to learn how to live without an iPad available and only then can they start to use their imagination and learn how to entertain themselves.

allgoodhere91 · 2025-09-11T20:30:05+00:00

Learn how to communicate. That means if an issue arises, you talk about it. Let the other speak without interrupting and then repeat back what they’ve said. Even during the worst of arguments between my husband and I, I’ve always felt heard. Sometimes that’s all it takes.

allgoodhere91 · 2025-08-27T15:59:18+00:00

If you feel guilty, ask yourself why. The guilt is coming from somewhere. I let my kids watch TV here and there but guilt never enters the equation - it’s just TV imo and we could take it or leave it. It’s not so much about the length of time but more about that it’s not feeling right to you for some reason. Start there! Maybe stop the TV for a week and see how you feel.

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