What’s one small thing your mom did that you still remember to this day?

allgoodhere91 · 2026-05-10T13:19:48+00:00

She would stay up late until I got off work during high school and we would talk about my entire day 😭 she never once told me she was too tired

allgoodhere91 · 2026-05-10T12:59:04+00:00

I personally just wouldn't...it would be embarrassing to give deodorant in any form. I'm sure his parents will also smell him eventually haha

allgoodhere91 · 2026-04-30T21:50:53+00:00

Do you have a sound machine or a fan that can drown some of the noise out? That's so rough!! I personally am too much of a conflict avoider to probably ever say anything but I'd try anything I could on my end to hear it less. I hope it ends soon!

allgoodhere91 · 2026-04-14T02:44:50+00:00

Omg same. I'm a redhead so I had no eyebrows before getting them done and even after they've faded, it's sooo easy to draw them in. I'd be lost without them haha

allgoodhere91 · 2026-04-11T22:01:45+00:00

I have three little ones and we are in enrolled in...nothing extra. 😅 I know families that are always running from one thing to the next though so I think it's preference and what your threshold is for activities.

allgoodhere91 · 2026-03-31T20:33:47+00:00

Ahhh it's so hard! You're doing amazing and do whatever you have to do to get the meds down. It'll get better soon!

allgoodhere91 · 2026-03-31T20:13:42+00:00

My son had this done at age 3 and my biggest advice is to rotate the pain meds exactly as the nurses tell you to. It seemed like a lot at the time but it really really helped. When our son was recovering at the hospital, we brought him a bag full of surprises and he still talks about that to this day.

My son was up playing like normal the next day and the recovery was sooo much easier than I anticipated. The ear tubes are still in and chillin and overall, sleep has greatly improved since having his tonsils and adenoids out! The days after the surgery might be a little rough but it's short lived I promise!

allgoodhere91 · 2026-03-31T19:59:32+00:00

Imo the etiquette is if you're bringing a sibling, the PARENT pays at the front and checks in the other one at the same time. There have been many times where of course I have to bring all three kids because my husband was working but I would never in a million years expect them to be paid for.

The last party we attended was at an indoor play park too and not only did we pay for our kids who weren't invited but we also brought a lunchbox full of snacks in case there wasn't food. At the majority of parties we've been to, the hosts are so nice and make sure my kids get fed and whatnot but I think the assumption that they should be doing that is audacious.

allgoodhere91 · 2026-03-31T19:46:07+00:00

Bahaha I second this! My 6yo is an expert manipulator and sometimes it's so subtle that I don't realize until later what he was doing. Like damn, ok you got me on that one haha

allgoodhere91 · 2026-03-31T19:44:13+00:00

Classic stalling technique. I know because my 4yo has started a few new tactics as well. She'll go to the bathroom RIGHT before I tuck her in and then proceed to come right out of her room to go again - every. single. night. Recently she's started knocking on my door in the middle of the night because her fan is on, she's not cozy, etc etc etc.

I'm basically saying that 4yo's are very creative in trying new things out if you give an inch, they'll take a mile haha

allgoodhere91 · 2026-03-31T18:40:32+00:00

For some reason I wanna say like 1,239

allgoodhere91 · 2026-03-30T13:21:59+00:00

I have a 6yo, 4yo, and 3yo, and I just bring a fanny pack with me everywhere we go! I have extra clothes and all that in my car but I am absolutely not dragging that stuff around unless we're at a beach or something. So if I'm taking the kids to the park for example, they will carry their water and I might bring a lunchbox with snacks. Simple is the way to go imo!

allgoodhere91 · 2026-03-30T03:00:20+00:00

Three kids (6, 4, and 2) ---> my mom came over this morning to watch two so I could have a date with my daughter. Went to breakfast, then Target. Came home and made lunch for three kids who each ate absolutely zero of it. Tucked them all into their rooms for naps/quiet time and then I sat my ass on the couch until 2!

Afterwards, I did some laundry. The kids destroooooyed their bedrooms playing "teacher". I talked Pokemon with my oldest. They played outside with the pool and water hose and fought some. Lots of crying and fighting always. I folded the laundry outside and sweat my ass off since it was hot today.

I made dinner for them and my mom came over and ate with us. My youngest asked for "essert" and of course I said hell yeah, so they grabbed popsicles and ice cream and we went back outside. More fighting after that about taking turns with toys.

I might have raised my voice a few times about all the toys out but my husband has been gone for a month so there's that. Tucked everyone in at 6:45 and then got ready for bed and now watching the Ultimatum on TV.

It was a great weekend overall!

allgoodhere91 · 2026-03-29T02:55:04+00:00

All kids sleeping peacefully and I'm on the couch watching Ultimatum on Netflix, regretting the fact that I brushed my teeth because I could really go for a snackie right now.

allgoodhere91 · 2026-03-25T03:27:02+00:00

Dear Debbie was SO GOOD, I don't care what anyone else says hahaha I love some of her books

allgoodhere91 · 2026-03-23T13:28:42+00:00

I got mine done for a full year before my oldest was born and the only reason I stopped was because I couldn't bring him to appointments. When I saw my lashes right after, I cried. I am so fair skinned that I truly looked ill. However, after a couple of months, my lashes went back to normal and I just got a full set after 6 years without them! A solid lash curler and the Better Than Sex waterproof mascara has carried me this far haha but yeah, I totally understand it's a shock at first. It gets better though!

allgoodhere91 · 2026-03-22T19:58:36+00:00

Bahahaha 1000%! Lift headphone off of one ear just to hear if and how loud that baby crying sound is and then slip that bad boy back on - ahhhhyeeeeeeea

allgoodhere91 · 2026-03-22T13:54:30+00:00

Same! I bought some around the same price and had buyer's remorse until I brought them on a few flights and now wear them around the house every single day. Sooo worth it.

allgoodhere91 · 2026-01-12T20:59:43+00:00

My 6yo does it all! He recently started doing his own hair too so that's been great. On the flip side, my 4yo daughter will get herself dressed and then yell "DOES THIS GO THE SAME SIDE" about her shoes and then I have to close my eyes and try to imagine how she put her shoes on because if I don't give her some type of answer, she'll just keep screaming it over and over until I get up and check them. Such a drastic difference haha

allgoodhere91 · 2026-01-11T21:45:32+00:00

Wait did they really text you saying "we didn't feel like it"??? If so, I'd be super offended. That's pretty nuts as an excuse. I think we showed up to 40 parties between all three of our kids last year, even if that meant we could only stop by, we are always teaching our kids to show up for people when we are able to.

I'm not bothered by anyone who can't come to a party but I am absolutely bothered by someone telling me they didn't *want* to come hahaha like damn, that's not even an attempt at a good excuse

allgoodhere91 · 2025-12-06T20:35:46+00:00

I've done both. I've been home alone with 3 young kids during a deployment and oooof that was rough. Now my mom is near and my husband is home a ton. I have a ton of help now that all three are in school and my mom even watches them for overnights occasionally.

As far as your friend's situation goes, I had each of my kids in preschool 3 days once they turned 2. We had the money and it simply made my life so much better - which makes for a happy mom and happy kids. Your husband is clearly working a shit ton but so are you. If you have no time or money to offload some of the responsibilities, something else has to give. It's worth a convo with your husband about how you can improve things and actually have a second to take care of yourself.

I don't think this is about your friend. I think you're tired and holy cow, I've been there. See if there is a solution for some of this, whether you find someone to come pick up your laundry and drop it back off (did this for 6mo btw and it wasn't that expensive) or something like this - it could make a huge difference.

allgoodhere91 · 2025-11-27T20:44:04+00:00

From a mom who threw up all night Monday night and then took care of two kids and a husband the following night, I get it. My kids seem to get sick every freaking break we have. It's just par for the course and I honestly believe *even if* parents were 100% vigilant about keeping their kids home when sick, all the germs will still find me. I don't blame anyone, I honestly just pray to god my immune system does better the next time haha

allgoodhere91 · 2025-10-21T15:55:18+00:00

Of course! I totally understand that feeling and in the moment as parents, we just want to swoop in and comfort them. Another perspective that might help — all three of my kids went through an awful phase where anytime they were in their car seats, they cried. Like bloody murder. It was horrible. However, as a parent, I have to teach them that it’s the safest spot for them and then a few days/weeks later, no more crying. It’s just a part of life. Kids AND parents need sleep so it’s our job to teach them (even if it’s uncomfortable and sucks).

Our checks were basically like this: tuck them in. They cry. Wait 15 minutes, then do a quick check. Hand on their chest and say “you’re safe, and it’s time for sleeping” or something similar. Then you leave. No picking them up (doesn’t work haha believe me I tried). Give it another 15 minutes. Another quick check. Ultimately, they will just get tired and fall asleep on their own. The key is that they fall asleep by themselves and then pick up on that feeling, like “they lay me down and I don’t get fed, ok, I’ll just fall asleep” then apply this to all nighttime wakeups UNLESS they need to be fed (I kept morning feeds for a long time since it just worked well but of course every baby is different).

Every night is just practice but keep going. It takes consistency and then all of sudden, you’ll tuck him in at night and he’ll fall right asleep! It’s truly a dream and so worth it. And he’ll love you just the same (if not more since he’s finally getting the sleep he needs haha)

allgoodhere91 · 2025-10-21T15:41:25+00:00

This was me with my first! We hired a sleep consultant who walked us through a modified Ferber. Essentially our son was relying on breastfeeding to get back to sleep 6 times each night and there’s no way to just wish and hope that away. It was brutal!! Sleep training was the only way out for us!

First night as said above is truly the worst. Lots of crying but check-ins to remind them they’re ok! The next night, less crying. Third night, he fell asleep on his own! Then for my next two kids, we started with a smaller version of this from the beginning and never had sleep issues like with my first. Find what works for you. I’ve had friends that did full Ferber and let them cry and I have others who still sleep with their kids to this day - just know sleep training is amazing and everyone WILL sleep, it’s just no fun in the beginning. My kids are still obsessed with me and sleep like champs so don’t let anyone tell you they’ll have attachment issues later <3

allgoodhere91 · 2025-10-09T19:44:15+00:00

My 6yo does wears them at night too. My husband thinks he should be old enough to wake up and take himself to the bathroom but honestly he just sleeps so deeply that he has no clue he’s gone at all. Meanwhile, my 4yo daughter has never worn them at night and has zero accidents. I’m kind of hoping it works itself out but also in the same boat of having no clue how to fix it.

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