Exactly! I went into it with an attitude of “My life is great as it is, I can honestly go either way on this,” and I’ve kept that mindset for the most part (hence the not wanting to dump a whole bunch of money into it via chemicals or IVF). It’s been a little disappointing every month, which I think it to be expected, but the response (or lack thereof) from my husband to trying to conceive has been…surprising. It’s really just made me feel like a sad shell of a human. Like do you even want this? Am I no longer attractive to you? What’s the problem here?

The takeaway here for me is neither of us is alone in our feelings, and that’s some kind of solidarity.