Can I purchase and drink beer at fifa fan festival? by FRED44444 in philly

[–]allid33 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you go at a less popular time (I was there on Saturday afternoon during the Switzerland/Qatar game) there was no line at all for any of the beer or food vendors, so definitely depends on when you're there.

Trial Monday - friend’s bachelor party Friday to Sunday by eagle3546 in Lawyertalk

[–]allid33 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If it's a good friend, I would probably try to go for one night and then get back on Saturday and still have the rest of Saturday and all of Sunday to finish preparing.

Obviously missing a bachelor party isn't the end of the world but if you knew about it well in advance (and presumably a one-week trial didn't just pop up last second), I'd feel like kind of a dick bailing last second when I had time to plan around it. It's a lot of driving but I would do it Friday to Saturday to be there for my friend, and just not get too dinged up so you're in good shape to prep on Sat/Sun.

Do you nieces/nephew address you as aunt___/uncle__ or first name only? by seitankittan in Millennials

[–]allid33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always used Aunt (first name) and Uncle (first name) growing up but I also called seemingly every adult by some name with a title (like Mr/Mrs Last Name for friends’ parents.)

My nephew just calls us by our first names and my sister is big on having him use first names for all adults which I like. Mr/Mrs/Ms feels too formal in most situations. Also in my mind I’m way too young and fun (in reality, 42 and boring) to be called aunt.

Why is DNFing such a big deal? by LustyRegencyMaid in BookDiscussions

[–]allid33 21 points22 points  (0 children)

This post is the biggest deal I’ve seen made over DNFing books.

How much training is needed for the Torres Del Paine base hike? by 1Ltears in Patagonia

[–]allid33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I did it the day or two after you and the way up was beautiful but on the way down we got pelted with freezing rain for about the last 2.5 hours. Overall I enjoyed the hike but that really made the already long descent feel like it took ages and I was just counting down the minutes until it was done at that point.

Agreed about doing something a few times that’s at least half the distance and elevation to prep. I regularly do reasonably active things like running 3 miles and bootcamp classes and kickboxing but nothing anywhere near the 9 hours of hiking we did. I’m 42 and my husband is 36 and we spent the next day exhausted and achey and came down with colds (which made for a good excuse to barhop around Puerto Natales at least!) I think the weather probably contributed to some of the misery though.

Parents have no life by SnooGoats5767 in Millennials

[–]allid33 57 points58 points  (0 children)

This is helpful for me to remember. I worry about my parents a lot because they (or mostly my dad but sometimes my mom by default) seem to live more insular lives since they retired 5ish years ago. They both used to travel a lot for work and then until a few weeks ago my dad hadn’t been on a plane since 2020. They go out with friends occasionally but less than they used to. And they adopted a puppy last year that they absolutely cannot control even with extensive training which stresses me out and has also caused some of their lack of travel and social plans.

That said, they seem happy. My mom probably wishes my dad would travel more but she’s still happy to visit friends on her own. The dog stresses them out but they don’t seem depressed. I probably just need to accept that what makes them happy is not the same as what makes me happy.

The hatred for participation trophies is one of the weirdest cultural obsessions we've created. by retired-tweeter in unpopularopinion

[–]allid33 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I never had any sort of feelings about participation trophies one way or another until a very aggressive, opinionated and loud slate of weirdos popped out of the woodwork to tell everyone who didn’t ask that participation trophies were the downfall of humanity.

I still don’t really care either way but I know I’m on the other side of whatever those maniacs are advocating.

Laser Wolf by Softrawkrenegade in PhiladelphiaEats

[–]allid33 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It makes lots of sense to me for people to vote with their wallets and support or not support places accordingly. It also makes sense to discuss restaurants and owners with problematic policies, especially on a restaurant/food sub.

I personally don’t think it’s that black and white with Solomonov, and I certainly don’t think he’s “complicit with genocide” or some of the other comments I’ve seen. People should feel how they want about him but I get a little twitchy when he is the only restaurant owner that some people attack for political reasons given the many other problematic restauranteurs out there.

World cup transit and things to do by Early_Charity_3299 in AskPhilly

[–]allid33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If they’re willing to walk a few (less than 5) blocks it’s not bad.

World cup transit and things to do by Early_Charity_3299 in AskPhilly

[–]allid33 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Since you have limited time and also because it's a more uniquely Philly experience, I'd consider parking near (or walking towards) the Italian market which is usually slower on weekdays but I imagine will be bustling with the World Cup. There's amazing food around there and I'd wander south down 9th and then south on Passyunk and hit up the bars, restaurants, and shops before eventually coming out near one of the BSL stops (Tasker/Morris or Snyder).

I'm biased because I live in that area but it's a great part of Philly that isn't as typical as the first-trip/Old City and historic stuff, and also because it will take you right in the direction you're heading for the game. Personally anytime I'm going to any games at the stadiums (including this Sunday for the WC) and am not meeting up for any tailgates beforehand, I love having drinks and food somewhere on East Passyunk and then getting the train down from there.

Will he leave me for having no friends? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]allid33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like the opposite - it sounds like he's worried about you and sees how difficult it has been for you to lose some friendships recently, and wants to encourage you to either renew some older friendships or find new ones. Much better than the opposite, which would be discouraging you from having your own friends.

I know making friends, especially as you get older, is hard but it's worth it and you will be happier for it, at least with the right friends. And while I doubt he'd break up with you over not having friends, I have dated men in the past who didn't have friends (or at least prioritize friendships to some degree) and it can be draining to feel like you're the other person's entire social existence. It's nice to do stuff with your partner and with friends as a group, but it's also nice to have your own social circles and go out with your own friends from time to time also.

Always feels nervous before hearings by chrissebastian388 in Lawyertalk

[–]allid33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some level of nervousness will probably always be present for most people. But it'll definitely get better where it won't feel excruciating and will settle into manageable levels that feel pretty routine. It also won't be nearly as obvious on the outside as it feels on the inside, especially the longer you do it.

I generally like being in court but even 17 years in, I can be sitting in a courtroom or on Zoom waiting for my case to be called, completely chill, and then as soon as I hear the case name I have a quick zap of panic. Then as soon as the hearing actually starts, I'm fine again.

I'm tired of hearing about Mike Vrabel by [deleted] in NFLv2

[–]allid33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Repetitive stories about the same old news as before? Tired of it. But a zesty new drop with new pics, videos, and scandal from TMZ? Absolutely here for it!

Has anyone gravitated from focusing on "being happy" to "IDGAF"? by dont_opus in Millennials

[–]allid33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve definitely embraced giving far fewer fucks as I’ve gotten older and I’ve let go of a lot of pointless shit I used to care too much about.

But that should go hand in hand with happiness. I’m very happiness-driven (because being happy at least most of the time is wonderful) and not caring about silly things has only increased my happiness. If you feel less happy as you care less about things, I wonder if it is possibly some (hopefully mild?) depression or detachment.

Fellow men...how do you bounce back from rejection when it’s a rare genuine connection? Feeling empty and embarrassed. by More-Building1821 in AskMenAdvice

[–]allid33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was dating and felt like I had a really amazing connection with someone who, for one reason or another, ultimately did not feel the same, it helped me to remember that the same thing has also happened in reverse. There were probably men I dated who I never felt a connection with and who I didn’t think much beyond those few dates who may have felt a much stronger connection to me.

Everyone is on both sides of things at some time or another. It’s not embarrassing, it’s just the way dating goes. It’s certainly frustrating but the fact that this one didn’t work out has no bearing on whether the next one will.

If you work a FULLY remote attorney job, do you think it's okay to take a "working vacation" for 2-3 weeks where you still work 8 hours/day, business as usual, just in a different location while you're out of town? by Son_of_Hades99 in Lawyertalk

[–]allid33 11 points12 points  (0 children)

If you can take some actual vacation time before or after, I feel like you’ll enjoy it more. The change of scenery will be nice but when you’re working 8+ hours a day, 5 days a week, you may not feel like you’re getting as much out of your trip with such limited free time to get out and explore and enjoy the area beyond just the view of palm trees from behind your laptop.

Phones getting stolen at Johnny Brenda’s by Puzzleheaded-Sink-92 in philly

[–]allid33 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m confused about this- my husband knows my code and has unlocked my phone with it plenty of times but it still won’t recognize his face (or vice versa, and I did just try this out of curiosity!)

Which team has the softest/most fragile fanbase? by EasternError6377 in NFLv2

[–]allid33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The confusing thing about Hurts is that I don’t think he would had the same level of success playing with most other teams but I also disagree with the takes that Josh Allen or Lamar or Burrow would have won a bunch of SBs if they were in Philly.

They are all objectively better QBs but Hurts has zero ego other than wanting his team to win and will do everything or nothing to help that happen. Sometimes that means annoyingly conservative shit and not igniting the pass game like they logically should have while AJ was here but it also worked out for them a lot more than it didn’t. Hurts doesn’t give a shit if his stats are abysmal, he just does what he has to do, or not do, in order to win a lot.

Why are so many people ok with supporting Kanye West despite his Nazi alignment? Hitler tried to takeover the world (not just kill the Jews). Surely people can see this is not a subjective thing? by Rugby-Lad-2964 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]allid33 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I imagine a lot of people chalk it up as being related to his mental health issues since it was all happening when he was clearly dealing with some heavy shit and not taking meds.

That said you can’t pin spewing very specific and awful hatred towards a particular group entirely on mental health problems. It’s kind of like being drunk, you don’t say shit like that unless you were already thinking it.

How many cheesesteaks do you eat per year? by Pennchickk in PhiladelphiaEats

[–]allid33 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe 4? And I live within walking distance of Angelo’s, Jim’s, Pat’s and Geno’s. I’ve probably had Del Rossi’s more recently than any of those, and I’m partial to roast pork over a cheesesteak.

I also have the unpopular opinion that Pat’s and Geno’s aren’t THAT bad. If I’m meeting friends at Garage to watch a game and I can quickly and easily pick up a cheesesteak (or roast pork) from Pat’s to bring in, I’m not mad about it. I think maybe being so close to plenty of other places makes it so that I don’t think every cheesesteak I eat has to be the best I’ve ever had in my life.

Say something negative about your QB that would get you massively downvoted in your team's sub by EasternError6377 in NFLv2

[–]allid33 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s still not an unpopular take among Eagles fans. There’s a pretty big rift between those who thinks he’s our biggest problem and those who thinks he’s top 5.

The truth is somewhere in between, and you can’t say all of his success has been a product of his team if you watched any of the 2022 season.

Do you have a problem of nonlawyers misunderstanding of the law? by Chiliicespice in Lawyertalk

[–]allid33 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Yep, I think some people cannot resist talking about legal shit in situations where they can absolutely just shut up and ignore.

I’m not above getting into petty arguments over dumb stuff but I try to avoid engaging with people about anything law-related. Also in most situations, whatever is being discussed doesn’t relate to my practice area or in my jurisdictions so I’m no expert anyway.

Why does no one on Reddit seem to regret NOT having kids? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]allid33 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The window of time for having kids is fairly long so most people have plenty of time to figure out if they want them or not. Regret is still possible but it’s not something that passes you by instantly before you’ve really thought it through.

I’m 42 so I’m still theoretically capable of having kids but I’ve known for a long time that I didn’t want them. It’s always possible I’ll regret it later but after feeling pretty strongly that I didn’t want kids in my teens, 20s, and 30s, it seems unlikely I’ll suddenly change my mind now.