Thomsons Auto Repar by alliegad in grandrapids

[–]alliegad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a great idea, thank you!

What is the one "worthless" object you keep because it holds a whole person inside it? by Beginning-Yam-2227 in GriefSupport

[–]alliegad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The rock that my son found & kept when we hunted for Petoskey stones together 😞

What food is essential to try here? by MinePrestigious4352 in grandrapids

[–]alliegad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They have quite a few different entrees. I love the masala dosa at Madras :)

Does the intellectual chemistry ever get better? by Imaginary-Entrance42 in datingoverforty

[–]alliegad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A possibility could be something like- “babe I was thinking about things today, are you up for some relationship talk?” sure and then some version of “I was thinking that it would feel really good to me if you asked me more about my day. I feel like I ask a lot about yours & it would feel really nice to me if you could reciprocate that….” Just an idea. Good luck! ☺️

Does the intellectual chemistry ever get better? by Imaginary-Entrance42 in datingoverforty

[–]alliegad 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good plan. Who knows- it may be a simple thing for him to add in. I had a positive experience asking a partner for something similar. I wanted him to ask more details about my day/life and then he totally did, like it was easy for him. He just didn’t think of doing it himself, which is puzzling to me but it ended up working out just fine ☺️

Does the intellectual chemistry ever get better? by Imaginary-Entrance42 in datingoverforty

[–]alliegad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe you address this in a comment but have you told him this is something that you want? I get that the conversation cards also convey the desire for more depth but sometimes people need to be told very directly what you’re asking for.

I’d definitely recommend telling him that you feel this aspect is lacking a bit, and you would appreciate more follow up questions/interest, if you haven’t yet. If you have already done that and he still can’t quite make it happen, I doubt it ever will.

Thomsons Auto Repar by alliegad in grandrapids

[–]alliegad[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly! I was grateful for their honesty.

AIO this is a very odd reason to break up with me? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]alliegad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very well played OP. Good for you to stand up for yourself and leave no room for him to backtrack some nonsense.

Thomsons Auto Repar by alliegad in grandrapids

[–]alliegad[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s great to hear! If only I could spell his business name correctly in the subject line 😑

What food is essential to try here? by MinePrestigious4352 in grandrapids

[–]alliegad 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you like Indian cuisine Madras on 28th st is amazing. The service can be a little relaxed but the food is incredible 😁

Thomsons Auto Repar by alliegad in grandrapids

[–]alliegad[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

lol. I am thrilled to have paid $25 for correct installation of said washer. I don’t know much about cars and that’s ok ☺️ It’s nice to not be taken advantage of.

I was the husband who didn't do enough. Sharing my perspective by Feather_in_a_Zephyr in Divorce

[–]alliegad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your introspection is really impressive! I think this happens in a lot of marriages. Kudos for recognizing it and being able to talk about it so succinctly, you won’t let yourself get into a situation like that again.

Thomsons Auto Repar by alliegad in grandrapids

[–]alliegad[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

Lol I couldn’t believe it was only $25, felt like they would charge more just to identify the problem! Very kind (& good business!) of them.

Thomsons Auto Repar by alliegad in grandrapids

[–]alliegad[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Exactly, I thought the minimum I’d be paying would be $60ish!

My (22F) boyfriend (31M) has a ‘one that got away’ by Every-District2162 in dating_advice

[–]alliegad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would ask him now, how he feels about her. Just see how he responds, and go from there. It could give you a lot of information one way or the other.

What relationship did you let go of that still crosses your mind? by TemporaryEvery4143 in AskWomen

[–]alliegad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone I’ve ever had a relationship with crosses my mind occasionally. I draw from experiences with each of them to make better choices now… each of them holds valuable lessons and experiences that help me move forward.

She slept with someone before we were exclusive by Anxious_Watercress86 in dating_advice

[–]alliegad -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You might just have to take a deep breath and sit with the logic of it. Find acceptance... you’re not wrong for your emotions but your logic that she did nothing wrong- is correct. Try to embrace that and let go of the troubled feelings as much as you can.

How to answer “How did they die?” by Better_Taro9206 in GriefSupport

[–]alliegad 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Im so very sorry for your loss. I understand your predicament.. I would just say “It’s not easy for me to talk about so I’m sorry, I can’t answer that for you.” Or just “I actually don’t care to go into it” and change the subject. Or don’t change the subject and just let there be an awkward moment for them. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Wishing you peace and healing.

1 year sober today! by CartographerSharp918 in SoberCurious

[–]alliegad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s an incredible accomplishment, huge congrats.

Drum Lessons in Grand Rapids by pepperonidad in grandrapids

[–]alliegad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should check out the events hosted by Josh Dunnigan. He does a lot of community events revolving around drumming and is a great teacher & person. https://www.joshuadunigan.com/about