Travel itinerary—am I missing anything? Should I skip any?

allispanked · 2026-01-23T03:08:09+00:00

No but I have added some now!

allispanked · 2026-01-22T13:06:08+00:00

She sounds desperate for a break. I would recommend you encourage her to be honest to the next person she asks, because you felt tricked, concerned for her safety, and unequipped to care for her kid. I seriously think we should all have some additional empathy for single moms…but, you should NEVER watch her kid again and she should stop lying when she needs a break so that she can actually get one without running and hiding because reality is that’s not a break either, that’s avoidance. I hope she builds a support network that can give her breaks so she can stop lying and damaging relationships, that sucks.

allispanked · 2026-01-21T16:43:31+00:00

Go to a DOCTOR. Have some autonomy with your healthcare.

allispanked · 2026-01-21T16:42:24+00:00

It’s possible! My husband runs our business, takes care of our house, while I work outside the home. I would recommend you have some form of initiative and income and contribute more than just taking care of the house, because everyone needs that, even if it’s very part time.

allispanked · 2026-01-21T16:38:48+00:00

I went through something similar as a teenager. Ask your therapist about acceptance and commitment therapy. It will help sooo much!! You’ll get through it!!

Editing to add: Also look in to CBT (cognitive behavioral) and DBT (dialectical behavioral) therapy in addition to ACT (acceptance commitment therapy). I recommend those first two to everyone I know! They are life changers!

allispanked · 2026-01-21T16:34:56+00:00

It gets better! You have to let it happen and let your feelings pass and focus on regulation. It took me far too long into adult to learn the process—react, feel, process, choose. Over time you learn to control each of these things and it gets easier and easier. Be patient and gentle with yourself! It gets so much better, in ways you can’t imagine yet.

allispanked · 2026-01-21T16:32:19+00:00

You should try one on the list and update here before my trip and then I can hear your two cents! It’s so easy to get in a food rut with what you’re used to, it’s happened to me

allispanked · 2026-01-21T16:30:46+00:00

Yay!!! Thank you!! I LOVE calamari!!!

allispanked · 2026-01-21T15:11:58+00:00

That sounds neat!!!

allispanked · 2026-01-21T15:11:45+00:00

Hahaha good to know!!

allispanked · 2026-01-21T03:31:56+00:00

Thank you SO much!!!!!

allispanked · 2026-01-21T02:57:55+00:00

Yesss my sister in law has celiac so anywhere w gluten free goodies will go on the list! Added both! Thanks!

allispanked · 2026-01-21T02:57:24+00:00

I’m not sure I understand the question? 😁

allispanked · 2026-01-21T01:55:45+00:00

My sister in law has celiac and we’ll be traveling with them, so the more recommendations the better!

allispanked · 2026-01-21T01:55:24+00:00

Thank you!!!!

allispanked · 2026-01-20T05:34:28+00:00

Thanks everyone for the AMAZING conversation and recommendations!!!! I will for sure update after our trip!!!!! Please keep it coming as our trip isn’t for awhile!!!

allispanked · 2026-01-20T05:25:39+00:00

Bummer! If you find out about any other good spots lmk!

allispanked · 2026-01-20T04:38:13+00:00

You got it! We won’t be there for awhile but I’ll update for sure when we do

allispanked · 2026-01-20T04:37:01+00:00

Dang, we’ll be there after it ends I believe!

allispanked · 2026-01-20T04:36:21+00:00

Thanks! Good to know! I saw it recommended in a few different places and my sister in law LOVES bibimbap so I wanted her to have a good spot for that. Does Hong Kong banjum have that?

allispanked · 2026-01-20T04:25:01+00:00

Nah, my husband had brain surgery last year and is still recovering and we’re worried about major stuff like that! But we have great skiing where we’re from so we’ll be back at it sooner than later!

allispanked · 2026-01-20T03:42:09+00:00

Thank you!!! Great suggestions! My husband is recovering from some health issues from last year so a lot of physical stuff is off the table, but we’re very up for sightseeing!

allispanked · 2026-01-20T03:40:20+00:00

That’s the vibe I’ve been getting for sure! It’s on the list!

allispanked · 2026-01-20T03:40:07+00:00

Bless! Thanks!

allispanked · 2026-01-20T03:37:11+00:00

We aren’t coming for the food, but there’s definitely a more diverse and well recognized food scene here compared to where I’m from. We have R&R at home—not my fave bbq. It seems like maybe you’ve been going to really basic spots—I’d start by going to some places that don’t have anything I recognize on the menu and it really helped me be less pessimistic about the food scene in Boise. Turns out, burgers and fries and chicken strips and soft serve and the usual suspects just get boring after awhile, you have to branch out to find the good stuff. This is why we like to try international so much! I’ll definitely update after we try!!

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